Rude

India
February 25, 2010 6:15am CST
Have u ever observed that a child , young child of say age around 6, suddenly becoming rude to his/her Parents and other family members. What could be the reason? How the situation should be handelled?
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@namiya (1713)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
These cases of children displaying repulsiveness to their parents or elders are common now. Maybe we could attribute this not only to what the child is witnessing within their homes but likewise with what is happening in his surroundings. Violence shown on tvs, videos and the like also influences the child's character which is still in the development process at this age. At this tender age, parents should closely observe their kid's behavior and should guide him to recognize right from wrong and set examples in action. There is a popular saying here in the Philippines that if translated in english hypothetically means "If an improper act has been done by an adult, it means right to the eyes of a child" hence it is important that adults should set a right example in action for children to do the same.
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• India
26 Feb 10
Friend, u r right, Whatever child sees learns from that.
• India
25 Feb 10
Maybe the child is growing up amidst such rudeness. We adults don’t often take the kids around us seriously…we think they are just kids, engrossed in their own world, not noticing how the adults around them are behaving. Its totally wrong…children just ape adults as their role models OR maybe the adults themselves scold the child or are rude to the child without actually meaning to be. Adults should be extremely careful as to how they talk to a child…loving and gentle mannerisms will teach the child to grow up as a loving and gently polite person.
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• India
25 Feb 10
yes, agree with u, sudipta. child learns by observing adults around them.
• United States
25 Feb 10
Yes, I have one of those childern except she is 3. Everyone keeps telling me she will grow out of it I sure do hope so. We tell her how wrong it is but, she is still all "tude" as we call it. We use time out alot with her. She is a rude meany not sure as to why neither one of my boys were never like that not sure why she turned that way!
• India
25 Feb 10
She might be comparing your behaviour with your other children. if she gets feeling u r giving more time, attention , love to her bros she may act rudely as defence mechnism.
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• United States
25 Feb 10
My 2 boys are older and really dont want my "attetion" at the moment so she is getting the attention. I think it is just in her nature to be rude! My 2 boys have a different father than my daughter. And if you knew me and her father I really just think it is a mixture of our to very strong personailties. The only difference is we have learned to controll ours cause we are adults and she hasnt learned that yet. Me and her father both are very out spoken people that are not easily intimidated and stand very strong when we feel threatend in any way. We dont back down for anyone mentally or Physically it's just the way we are. But, I think thats all it is she needs to learn how control her little out burst. Like me and her father have.
• India
26 Feb 10
I am sure, she will learn with time, under guidence of her father and u. Best of luck!
@cloud31 (5809)
25 Feb 10
The reason was the child is getting to be independent in some other things,they understand situation better than they used to when they were bit younger,And lastly they tend to be rude as they learned from others in their environment,and to the person they get along with, in the school and playmates they used to play with.At this early age they should be handle with lots of attentions, and briefly talk about how important to a child to be as good as ever.Sometimes child learned and observed from people around him, parents should be the model of their child.There was a saying,said...How could be a mango tree will bear an apple? What will be the tree,that's gonna be the fruit..Give more attention ,show and teach him/her the right way to take and right path to follow.Parents are the best teacher. Happy Lotting!
• India
25 Feb 10
Agree with u friend, that is the age they get exposed to outer word and may be start comparing with others, and dicomfert felt, make them rude. Thanks for responce.
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• India
25 Feb 10
You have to handle the situation by advising the child that don't be rude with yours parents.
@elmiko (6630)
• United States
25 Feb 10
ritalin!
• India
25 Feb 10
Thanks for responce.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
3 Apr 10
Well he needs extreme care now of handling him polite. If we turn rude , we will cultivate the same habit from us. So sit with him, talk polite and sweet words.Spend more time with him playing and helping him.
• India
4 Apr 10
Hi friends, what you have said is very correct. Thans for pragmetic advice.
@elmiko (6630)
• United States
25 Feb 10
ritalin!
@hvedra (1619)
25 Feb 10
As children grow they like to test the boundaries of what is allowed and what is not. Also, at around the age of 6 they are becoming more aware of their peers at school and more influenced by them and can adopt their behaviours. I think it is pretty normal for kids to start acting that way but it doesn't make it acceptable or right. Be firm about who is in charge and what is expected of the child but, also, lead by example. Sometimes adults who are familiar with each other can be or appear to be rude so the kid will pick up on that.
• India
25 Feb 10
Right u r.
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