Would you prefer to sell things to your friend or a complete stranger?

@ksherrie (891)
Singapore
February 28, 2010 9:01pm CST
this is in the case, where you need to sell something to get a sum of money to get over a tide. Let's take me for example, my boyfriend has the intention to sell his car. He was asking car dealers for a price and had advertised the sale on the internet. Recently, we have a friend who is interested in buying a car. We prefer to sell to strangers than friends, as friends would usually bargain for a lower price taking friendship as bid and reason to lowering the selling price, that is in our case, not sure about yours? Please share, advise or comment. Thank you.
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24 responses
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
3 Mar 10
U are right, it's always not the best deal to be selling things to friends, due to some emotions attached, based on friendship I will prefer to be selling to strangers, because if we were to stand firm on our prices, there's nothing much they can do about it.. Plus, we find ourself to be easily hard hearted to strangers, compared to having soft spots for frenz.. hehe ^_^ BUt there will be minority of frenz, who will buy high from us, if they know we are really in need of fast cash.. But those frenz dun come easy too.. haha =D
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
6 Mar 10
yes, you are right too... there are minority of our friends who are willing to buy at high prices... For me, it will make myself feel bad, after all, he/she is still a friend.
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@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
10 Mar 10
agreed
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
8 Mar 10
YEah!! BUt those frenz are really hard to come by!! hehe
• India
1 Mar 10
I would prefer a stranger man.. i case if the things which i sell.. gets crappy.. i cannot face my friend or see him/her suffer... so i will sell it to a stranger
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
6 Mar 10
haha... I know what you mean! I believe in some point we all do.. we rather a stranger suffer than our friends... LOL..
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
10 Mar 10
totally agree... Furthermore, most of us can't bear to let our friends suffer...
• India
6 Mar 10
lol... ya buddy... a friend has always the upper edge than a stranger... :) :)
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
I have been into the buy and sell business for years now so I could say that I prefer selling my items to strangers. You are very correct on the fact that friends tend to ask for friendly discounts therefore having the cost you first desired your item to be sold now lowered and there is also the case, in my experience, when something bought from you by a friend gets damaged for no apparent reason or maybe by his/her recklessness(they wouldn't admit that though), he/she goes to you and complain about it. In a stranger's case I'd normally be polite but refuse to accept any reason because I do allow them to check the item before buying, I even give them personal warranty for a few days, of course if the complains come within that period I really stick to my word. Now, in a friend's case you'd have to be super polite and then have to offer to help in repairs in any way even passed the warranty period, well, that is in my case. But, I do have certain things I'd rather sell to friends than to strangers. These are things that were beloved by me and then which later on I decide to sell, like my beloved cellphone, or any other special things for that matter.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
6 Mar 10
wow, very comprehensive. what do you usually buy and sell?
• India
1 Mar 10
very good response. regards.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
I am also thinking of this...wether to sell my things to a friend or to a stranger. I am about to sell my kids PS3...and,i had one friend in mind whom i think to sell the thing. In my opinion,i want to sell the PS3 to my friend,for i know she will take care of it,just like how i handle it with care. Besides,it's easier for me to deal with my friends than strangers. I also don't know with other mylotters what will be their choice regarding this matter.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
1 Mar 10
I agree with you that it is easier to deal with our friends than strangers. But i still think money matters is not a good topic to talk about with friends, especially close ones.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
true friends doesn't care with what matters we were about to talk with, ,my friends will the first person whom i talked to when i am in any trouble. could it be money or anything,becoz,i also do the same with them. And,they even get angry or sad when i asked other people first before them...my friends are not only friends in words...but in life and in deed.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
6 Mar 10
wow.. you have pretty good friends... I am not that lucky, yet i hope..
@bestylish (922)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
I also prefer selling products to strangers. That way, I'll be able to gain more experience. Also, just like what you said, other friends take the advantage of being your friend in order to gain a lower price for the said product. Though it will be easier to sell more when it comes to your friends.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
5 May 10
Hi bestylish, Thanks for your response! Never thought of gaining experience... That is probably another good way to think about it... Some sales experience would be useful. Taking advantage is one thing, for me i would feel guilty if the product i sold is not of a better quality or not worth that price to my friend... Even though she does not mind, she still accepts it... Happy yet guilty.. weird.
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
i think its better to sell items to your friend than complete strangers.it will be easy to ask friends to buy your stuff,and you can explain to them more accurately. you can also sell to strangers.but for me its hard
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
5 May 10
Hi unstopabble, Thank you for your response! Why do you think it is hard for you? Hard for you to sell to your friends or to strangers?
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
yeah i know how you feel. i'd rather sell my stuff to a complete stranger than to a close friend or relative. but it also depends on what i'm selling. like for example, if i'm gonna sell a stuff for a bargain coz i just need an easiest way to make money fast, i'm gonna sell it to a friend. but if i need to sell something for a right price, i'd prefer to sell that stuff to stranger whose willing to pay the amount that i wanted.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
6 Mar 10
thank you for responding... yup, that is roughly what I have in mind too... especially in my case, it is a car, it has to be sold at the right price.
@ralphido (842)
• India
6 Mar 10
well.. that would be the usual course of action.. but with items that hold a certain sentimental value i would prefer giving it to a friend or acquaintance ... they will take better care of it...
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
6 Mar 10
you may be right. But won't you have to urge to want your stuff back when you see it with your friends? or have the heartache that your stuff is now your friend's?
1 Mar 10
I would rather sell to a stranger if I was selling to get money as I would feel I had to offer it cheaper to a friend but if I didn't really need the money I'd happily sell to either.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
6 Mar 10
money is sure a worrying factor....
@MrKennedy (1978)
1 Mar 10
I don't know to be honest. On the one hand, I know that friends will look after what I am selling them and I can trust them more to pay me and such. However, selling things can also harm a friendship because they may not like the price you are offering, whereas with a stranger will try to barter less because they don't know you as well and don't want to come across as rude. Plus, you will never see that stranger again (hopefully), so if something goes wrong, you don't have to deal with any problems
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
6 Mar 10
that is one reason why i prefer to sell to a stranger, as he/she won't come back to you saying that is something wrong with the product when the cause is not your fault... thanks for your response mrkennedy
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
1 Mar 10
I would be uncomfortable selling to my friends too. Beside the 'friendship-discount' that they'd be asking for sure, I would hate any after effects the sale would have to our friendship. Say for example if you sold the car to your friend, wouldn't you think he or she would get back to you for every little problem the car would have? If you value your friendship, my advice is dont...
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
6 Mar 10
yes, that was on my mind most of the time.. Luckily, we seems to find an interested buyer... Now is to ensure he is genuine...
@Ginoyes1 (40)
• United States
1 Mar 10
Better to sell to strangers than friends or family. Remember I LOVE LUCY and the washing machine episode?? Never do business with friends - if something goes wrong, it always comes back to haunt you and ruin your friendship. Some little part breaks - and you say 'gee, that NEVER HAPPENED before' - and your friend thinks 'yeah right - sure it didn't'. So things get sticky and complicated and you are not 'friends' anymore. Don't do it.
• Mexico
1 Mar 10
Hello Ksherrie! You are right to rather sell it to a stranger because you'll definitively make more money. If you need to sell the car right away then sell it to your friend, but if you can wait for a better offer you should. When I just want to get rid of stuff I tell my friends first, because making money its not my goal but have more space or get rid of things, you know. But things like a car, or if you sell technology stuff, I think its better not even to tell your friends. I guess in your example is already too late. If I was in that situation I thought: I'll tell him I've already made a deal, but I don't like lying to my friends and also if they find out things would get worse. So my suggestion is to tell him the truth, that you wanted to receive good money and you already investigated and the price won't get lower! If he thinks you are rude or something ask him if he needed the money, wouldn't he rather sell it to someone who gives more? If I was rich or something, I'll sell it to him and put my friendship on first, but if I was selling it because I wanted to buy another or needed the money, I'll be clear! I hope I made my point, Libna! Happy mylotting!!
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
6 Mar 10
hi libna! Thanks for your opinion.. I am lucky enough that my friend expressed interest but a stranger has given an offer first... so i wasn't lying when I tell my friend that we found good offer... no hard feelings incurred in my case.. i agree, the truth is always the best with friends..
• Singapore
2 Mar 10
you just be frankly talk to your friend i think that person will not bargain it if you explain about some reason you might have or not ,i think if you sell to a friend should be better than selling to some one stranger ,might get cheated .
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
6 Mar 10
I don't think all strangers are out to cheat. I just don't want money or some other things to spoil the relationship that I have with my friends, even though they might understand. Thank you for your response.
@figjam00 (1445)
• India
1 Mar 10
I would feel pretty comfortable with stranger for sure because when you are dealing with friend you want to give him best deal but also you need to take care of your profits so all the situation because so uncomfortable to handle. But yes selling things to friends have some advantages such he/she will tell others to buy from me.
@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
For me, I would rather sell my stuffs to a complete stranger than to my friends. why? because i don't want my name and reputation to be in jeopardy. sometimes, second hand things don't last long and they can break anytime.. at least, if i sold the item to a complete stranger, i wouldn't feel guilty or feel ashamed... however, before selling any second hand item, i always make sure that it's in perfect condition or i let them test it (gadgets, etc) before purchasing...
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
6 Mar 10
You sound experienced.. How do you sell your stuff? through blogs?
@daliaj (5674)
• India
1 Mar 10
I prefer to sell things to a stranger rather to a friend, especially when it comes to second hand things. When my husband and I vacated the house and shifted to a new city, one of my colleagues expressed his interest to buy our AC, but I was not interested to sell it to him. I didn't want to take the risk of selling to him and later I didn't want him to come up with complains about the material. I feared that the business may affect our friendship.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
6 Mar 10
Yes, that is what I feared too. There are friends who can only be friends and not business partners.
• Canada
1 Mar 10
Hi Ksherrie, Depends on the friend. Some will bargain for a lower price but others know what you're selling and trust you and will pay the asking price.....for a car. For more personal stuff, Id rather sell to strangers and not have to see my stuff at my friends....lets say furniture or even clothes. Jewellery, Id rather sell to strangers. I couldnt bare to see it all the time.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
6 Mar 10
hi magicalbubbles, you are right, i can't imagine what i will do if i see my friend with my stuff after I sold it to him/her... I might be quite protective or forget that I have already sold it... Might in the process affect a friendship too..
• United States
1 Mar 10
I prefer to sell in an stranger because one thing I have learned during the years is that you don't mix business with family and friends, so I wouldn't make any kind of business with any family or friends, because it is hard to make money decisions with them, and when you put money in the middle, some people feel obligated to do some things, and others feel that they have the power.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
6 Mar 10
that is what i believed too.. Then again, i have recently just seen cases where a business has expanded pretty big because it is a family business.. It is also helped by family and friends... which is quite unbelievable to me.. Hard to understand but true..
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
Hi ksherrie, We have the same wavelength. I prefer to sell something to total strangers. If I sell something to my friends, they would bargain a lot and haggle, and they know I would give up easily to their price coz I have a hard time saying NO to them. With total strangers, I could be firm with my asking price without worrying about their feelings.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
6 Mar 10
High Five onlyprincess! Somehow, it is just hard to say "NO" to a friend... now the problem here is finding the stranger with the right intention and the right price..