How do you deal with expectations?

Setsuna! I have learnt from bitter past experiences that I should tell or show people straightaway that I cannot fulfil all their expectations and state my position clear. This is a lesson I imbibed from my husband .Apparently,[my close family tells me this] I am a person who gives contradictory signals--I basically am very talkative, would like to be friendly but have my limitations.People normally tend to take me for granted but I don't like it also.So, I have learned the lesson [whether I am implementing it in full is another big question mark]that I should follow a set consistent pattern .I am making attempts to tell people straightaway.

I don't expect too much from others so I hope they won't expect much from me as well, if ever that they expect more than I can prove myself for them that's already out of my control,I'm just a human being and I cannot be that perfect to meet all the expectations they had in me,And I believe we cannot expect we can please others for what we've done and for who we are, and I don't think I'm living to please everyone,all I can that is all from me to please those who can accept me and capability. Good day friend

What about your expectation of others? This can or could be a 2 way street. Personally I'm more concerned about what I expect from my self. After all it is my life and not the life of those of who expect certain things out of me. What do you expect of your self? What do you want for your self? Those are more important question I ask me self.

Well,sometimes I do feel distress about expectations especially which come from my parents.Actually,I once the similar feeling just like you.But I feel much better now.Sometimes expectations help us find the direction we are forwarding.We needn't feel so guilty when we fail to meet other peoples expectations cause we have do our best to achieve it.The result doesn't always so important sometime.Just do our best and reach our own goals not ohters.

hi setsuna, expectations - it's one big word to mess up with. and we have to face them up in our daily lives. with my limited view, from our bosses especially. mine is no exception. very high expectation indeed. i normally carry a little note book and a pen around and they normally become handy whenever she talks. i keep checking and reviewing them on a daily basis and try to do as much each day. my kids expect a lot from me too, perhaps as much as my expectation of them. i have to be the superdad to greet them good night and good morning, to attend parents-teachers' conferences, sports day, fundraising day, prize-giving day, concert day etc etc etc. they have duties to do at home, school homeworks and class projects to complete, sports activities, exams to pass and excel, languages to learn, to respect everyone and everything around etc etc etc. i try very hard to talk with them everyday and tell them i love them very much. i make them see what a realistic and an unrealistic expectations are, the virtue of hard work and to accept any defeat after doing his best.

as much as possible, i try to inform the person beforehand my limitations. i am not very good in handling personal confrontations, so as much as possible, i give it my best in meeting expectations. i do feel guilty and depressed but will still give my best effort to make it up to the person. work wise, i see to it that the mistake will not happen again. i won't find ways to justify the mistake just to save face, if it really was my fault, i take full responsibility for it.

If i think i can do what they are expecting i tell them i will try to the best of my ability if i know i can't do it i tell them right up front.

expectations of others that I can not make it happen, would be something that is very disappointing for me. I always try not to give hope if I can not make it happen. all that I do not want to disappoint. I hope that I can not make it happen, let alone realize the expectations of others.

yes we really cant avoid those who will expect something from us specially towards work and family. and sometimes we failed to do it due to pressure. like my family before they pressure me to finished a certain course even if i dont like it, and took me 5 years to get it coz im not really interested to it and i only take few units from it and sometimes i failed. i failed 2 subjects. but then when i graduated and work, i took another course which i really want and i even got the highest grade of 1 which is 100% here in my country and lower grade of 1.75 which still within 90%. so i guess people tend to do good if they really like what they are doing than doing things only because want it.

This is my life I will do every thing I like and I will responsible for it. My parent have expectation from me like chasing a degree but I am practical person and feel bored to chase degree. My parent has to understand that is not my way of life, I will do thing that make me happy as salary like having my own restorant.