When would you tell your family that you are pregnant?

April 7, 2010 1:38pm CST
My cousin announced not long ago that she is pregnant - 9 weeks to be exact. I was pleased she told me. We are quite close and when she told her parents she wanted me to know. I was surprised though - most people only say it after 12 weeks... Would you tell family earlier than 12 weeks?
5 responses
• Philippines
8 Apr 10
I told my family that I was pregnant on the 5th or 6th week. I told them immediately because it was my first baby and I didn't know what to expect. I wanted someone to help me out through the pregnancy, so I immediately told my husband right after I used the pregnancy kit test, and my parents some hours after that.
11 Apr 10
True, it is good for getting advice and support if you tell people early on.
@grkelly (1216)
• Malta
7 Apr 10
Yes i think there is nothing wrong to tell your closest relatives as soon as you know. There is an element of happiness which cannot be disguised especially with parents, brothers and sisters. I think I told my parents and in laws when i was barely 7 weeks!
11 Apr 10
I bet they were excited. My cousin waited until the heartbeat could be heart on the scan - that seems sensible.
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
7 Apr 10
i didn't find out that i was pregnant with my first daughter til 1 was a couple of months, then i had a miscarriage at 3 months with our second child and with our youngest daughter, we waited til i was 3 months.
11 Apr 10
I'm sorry about your miscarriage. I think 3 months seems to be what most people do.
@maximax8 (28559)
• United Kingdom
7 Apr 10
I think it is sensible to tell my close members of my family if I am pregnant. At 4 to 5 weeks pregnancy I keep the news to myself. I announce it at 8 to 12 weeks. I think that is better to wait until after the 12 week scan to announce it to my family if I am concerned with any bleeding. Some ladies suffer a miscarriage and it can be ever so upsetting for them. I announced my pregnancy after 12 weeks when I was expecting my daughter. People's first reactions asked if I was expecting another disabled baby. My toddler son has got spina bifida and hydrocephalus. My baby daughter is normal and healthy. Congratulations to your cousin on her pregnancy.
11 Apr 10
I think 12 weeks ia good time, too. I am sorry about your son...
@karen1969 (1788)
18 May 10
I have heard of the 12 wek rule too and would maybe wait this long to tell wider family and friends, but I think I would be so excited, I would have to tell my parents straight away! I have 4 children all born in the 1990s and I remember ringing my parents to tell them the news soon after I knew it myself.