not so perfect

United States
April 16, 2010 2:02pm CST
Could you love someone who is overweight? How about someone who had a grave illness? Could you love someone who already has children? Why or why not? I have heart and lung problems. Have had all my life. Lack of exercise has contributed to my weight. I have a son. When I met my significant other, all of these were true. Just after we moved into a home together, I fell at work and broke my knee. I had been back at work 2 weeks when I found out I had stage 3 cancer. He loves me in spite of everything and I feel so blessed. I hope there are more "keepers" out there who understand that appearance isn't everything and love triumphs over all! I believe his love has helped me survive (nearly 7 years cancer free!!) I wish all of you the same love I have found.
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putoboi
@putoboi (25)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
To be honest while reading the first part, i was partly saying no, but reading the rest of it I was able to understand that i am also wishing that what i have is a keeper. Happy for you! I just had a change of heart!
puddebear
@puddebear (34)
• United States
26 Apr 10
Good for you! We all grow every day until we die.
Galena
@Galena (9110)
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16 Apr 10
I married a Schizophrenic. he's still perfect. the love of my life. the sweetest, kindest, most affectionate, most caring, most loving person I've ever met.
DeenaD
@DeenaD (2684)
• United States
17 Apr 10
Yes, I could, provided that it was someone I already knew and loved. In that case I would just continue loving them. However, to be honest, if it was someone I met for the first time, these things might turn me away so that I might never get to know the person. I know it's unfair, but there it is.
rizadel
@eloveriz2004 (499)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Wow! your partner is an admirable and praiseworthy person. He loves you despite your physical appearance and previous illness. There are people in this world who can love like that and I guess I'm one in the group.
MeritSelket
@MeritSelket (68)
• Germany
16 Apr 10
it happened a few times to me, that I felt in love with some man who is not what the soceiety would call the "perfect" man. love is something very fragile and it searches its own way you can love anything everybody....it´s just for anything-everybody somewhere is the matching opposite somewhere I only know for myself I never look for the perfect partner....in my mind I might do it as we are all "teached as young ones to find him" but in my heart I always end up with the opposite of perfect and I guess that´s for 2 reasons: nobody is perfect and love is unique and does not know any borderlines!!!!!!!!!!!
ejs0316
@ejs0316 (28)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
"Nobody's perfect" as they say and that's true. Even if some have everything physically, for sure they lack something else. As for love, one can only say that they are perfect for each other if they can compensate or adjust to whatever their partner lacks.
recycledgoth
@recycledgoth (9894)
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16 Apr 10
Congratulations on your 7 years cancer free hun. I feel that not one of us is perfect, and it is often those little imperfections that we love the most. My partner loves me even though I am overweight, unable to walk very far, and frequently in pain. He proposed to me at the end of last year and we are getting married in a couple of weeks time. I feel blessed that he loves me that much
Beautyfactor
@Beautyfactor (1512)
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16 Apr 10
7 years cancer free, that is excellent. Certainly something worth celebrating. I would say yes to all of your above questions. I am not a shallow person so I don't chose guys who are good looking without baggage like children. I think to truly love someone you have to take with that everything that comes with it. When i got married I meant my vows 'in sickness and in health' etc. I love my husband no matter what, because he is who he is.