hurting

Philippines
April 17, 2010 6:47am CST
what will you do if your husband is a jealous guy? even here in mylot he thinks that i am flirting with someone. would you break with him and find another? explaining with him doesn't count. what kind of love is that. dont understand anymore
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@khalida (1130)
• India
17 Apr 10
well jealousy comes when people are insecure. i am not telling that's the only reason but that might be areason too. if tht's the thing then you should simply reassure him how much u love him and how important he is for u and u can't live without him and the like. express ur love, he might get the confidence that u would not leave him or cheat him!!
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• Philippines
17 Apr 10
yah. he is insecure. just this night, i told him that i will leave him because i can take it anymore. he slap me bacause im vociferous he said.
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@khalida (1130)
• India
17 Apr 10
well i think you are just making things worse by doing that. for all its worth, u can just give him a chance and explain things and show him how much u care abt him and the family. if then too it doesn't work. . . he doesn't deserve you erichjohn!
@npadecio (161)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
It's not I'm like being biased since I'm a guy too but there are guys like that, I don't even know why and I'm a complete opposite because I trust my wife. Do you have any history of trust issues with your husband? Try to look for the cause why he's been like this to you, even here in mylot, he's suspecting something not good about you. If I were in your situation, I will let my wife sit beside me while mylotting and explain how this site works. That way, I can try make him feel better and secured that I'm not doing something silly behind her back.
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• Philippines
17 Apr 10
he have. his ex wife cheated him. that's what i'm telling him a while ago. to come sit here and read what i have reply to the guy here at mylot. but he don't want to understand. thats why we got into quarrel. a very big one
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@npadecio (161)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
I see, I'm sorry to hear that. Just a quick suggestion, probably you can tell your husband that at least, this is what you love doing and at some point, he should understand. Why? Maybe mylotting makes you happy. I think that's very short and concise answer. If he calms down, maybe you can explain already that you've just been mylotting for fun because your learning so many good stuff and get paid. :)
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@laglen (19783)
• United States
17 Apr 10
no it isnt a healthy love. Was he this way before you got married?
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
i didn't know until we get married. and yes we got quarrel this night and he slap me.. i don't know what to do. I pity his children that's why i couldn't leave. I wanted to.
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@laglen (19783)
• United States
17 Apr 10
If there is abuse then you should definitely get out and quickly.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
19 Apr 10
hi there, i am a guy and i had a girlfriend who always disliked when i talk with an another girl. it made her envy and later on i gave up her ( this is the only one reason, there was too many reasons of breaking). but if it happens after marriage, then we should request our partner to observe the entire mylot forum so that no complain ever creates on his/her mind. have a nice day.
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• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Assuming is a bad habit. Both sexes do this stuff and neither can avoid doing so. I wonder where this is all coming from. I guess if you invite him for s e x he wont be suspicious at all.
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@markleob (1904)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
hmmm i am laughing because i am a bit guilty.. i am jealous when my girlfriend hides something. i would be jealous if she texts her ex even saying hello? hahaah well, what my girl did was, she showed me that she loves me and i am the only man in her life... she lets me handle her cellphone just to make sure that she is not texting bad while i am not at her side.. i didnt accept the cellphone because i know she is telling the truth. from then on, i realized that she is not cheating on me... just give asssurance to your husband that you are not cheating on himmm... accompany him when you are Mylotting... if he wants let him make his own account so he could understand how is it to be a MYLOT ADDICT.....
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@pratheep87 (1228)
• India
17 Apr 10
I think your husband is so much possessive on you and your love try to talk with him again and again so he can feel your love towards him Cheers all the best.
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@syankee525 (6298)
• United States
17 Apr 10
ok here's a man view.. i love these. well ok one he knows you must be a knock as i mean good looking. insure him there isnt anything you are hiding. show him. heck even give him your password and stuff and say here. but i am sure if you ask for his accounts passwords on the net he wont give it up. 9 out of 10 times guys who accuse their woman of flirting or cheating is trying to hide that they are. jealously is a one main reason why marriages dont last. often time it can lead into other things. verbal abuse, then phiscal. to me i never asked my wife who or what she does on line. i dont have to check up on her. and she dont ask me either. we trust each other. so i would tell hubby ok let sit down and i will show you. here is my user names and passwords. check it anytime you want i have nothing to hide, but ask for his. and see what happens. yeah.. and if this keeps up then you have to decide what you want too do, no one should live this way at all. and you guys must havent been married to long as well huh ? good luck. but try this.
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@velentina (893)
• Mauritius
24 Apr 10
I think you will have a hard time if your husband is jealous. He will always doubt you. You will not have a peaceful life and he won't listen or believe the truth. You will have to tell another person to talk to him and make him understand.....if he does not understand the nyou will have to take a decision.
@Hatley (152289)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Apr 10
hi erichjohn Did you ever read anything about how wife batterers start? It is first jealousy,he wants to know about anyone you talk to, and on mylot too, now He has slapped you thats the second step in wife battering to strike his woman, show her who is boss, he is infatuated not in love because he wants control of you, if the hitting comes again, for goodness sakes leave him, get to a battered woman's shelter.no wife ever deserves to b e hit or slapped or shoved or pushed, that is not love that is infatuated controlling. I would suggest if he really loves you he gets some anger therapy as that's no way to treat his wife.You are not supposed to be slapped because he is jealous, make him watch while you are mylotting, try to make him understand its just fun for you but do not let him hit you again.