Only women should cook, to wash ,do clean the house, take care of children?

Romania
April 19, 2010 8:06am CST
Only she eats, make mess in the house have dirty clothes or make kids alone? If she works too, so goes the office for 8 hours, come home, do homework with children, preparing them to eat, wash clothes and dishes, I wonder, what still needs a man in the house? What to do with him ... only children? Gentlemen, will you help your spouses in house with chores? What are you doing? Know how to cook to care for children, sometimes, why not use the washing machine? Ladies,do help your husband in your work in home? What do you think? husband must to help his wife in household chores? Or not?
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@ada8may21 (2420)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
Household chores should not be done by the wife or the woman alone. Not on this age, maybe before when its not so in demand. Nowadays, its only man who is working in the family its also the woman. In my case, like for example my dad: Even if my dad is working for 8 hrs when he comes home sometimes he is the one cooking for our dinner. If its weekend he is the one preparing food for our lunch and dinner time. For my boyfriend when we I live with hi. When I comes home from work, he is the one preparing for our dinner. It depends when he is in the mood. But he is usually washing our clothes. So i guess this is a team work job. It needs to be done by both parties not only the woman is responsible for all.
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• Romania
20 Apr 10
Hi, you are a lucky person, seems that man s from your life know to apreciate work in team, this mean to be equal pertners in a team
@ada8may21 (2420)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
I guess you can call it lucky. Because only few fathers are helping household chores. Only few boyfriend knows how to give a hand when you need it most.
@beaty28 (15)
• China
20 Apr 10
hi marianna, i am very agree with your opinion.That is the old society only woman do the housework and make mess.And now when two person married,they are a family.They have the responsiblity to keep the house tidy.Husband must to help his wife just because he is a man.
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• Romania
20 Apr 10
i think a woman should know how to "educated"her husband , must to know to impose their views, both work outside the home, both have to work and home
@lingli_78 (12860)
• Australia
19 Apr 10
i don't agree with this at all... i think men and women should share the household chores equally especially if the women are also working to earn money... the load should be share together... i am very fortunate to have a hubby that is really helpful... he always help me to do the household chores everyday and we work as a team to maintain our house... take care and have a nice day...
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• Romania
20 Apr 10
This is great, if your hubby help you, this mean that he really loves you; if women and man are a team, they must to be a team in everything, not just as words, must to be in facts too
@monkeylong (3147)
• Guangzhou, China
19 Apr 10
As far as I am concerned, I think I do not agree with taht it can only be done by women. I think the men stil have the responsibility to do these to help the wives and the family to do some of these. Such as we can do some cleaning in our home, we can do some washing in our home, There are a lot of things that we can do in our home,which can do a lot help to th efamily, then all of us can enjoy a very comforatble life.
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• Romania
20 Apr 10
If everyone in the family, eats, all dirty dishes, all made mess in the house, why they say that only women should cook, wash, clean? Is not FAIR, you're right, the work must be divided equally IN HOUSE TOO, all are egual, even kids must to learn to help
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
for me it depends on the situation,yeah i agree with some reactions and comments that if they are both having work,both husband and wife are helping together to do the chores and care for their children...
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• Romania
20 Apr 10
What things can be different? A woman works in the house twice more than one person works at work outside the home, but unfortunately, domestic work is not appreciated at its true value, never shown us how to eat, how many dishes are dirty, many clothes must clean.
@Ritchelle (3798)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
of course not. then it should be an unspoken rule also that the putting up of one's family should be the sole responsibility of the man of the house alone. i think a woman has a choice to either do this or not but since it is in our nature that things are / should be in order well we end up doing these things anyway whether we like it or not. i guess this is why women cannot stop nagging and being emotional and temperamental at times. we're tired and sometimes sick of it but we have no choice but be everything in the house.
@mezulu (166)
• United States
20 Apr 10
I strongly disagree with this. There are no lines anymore. There are stay at home dads and working moms, and vice versa. It just depends on your situation. There is no reason why being a certain gender should mean that you are doomed to an existence filled with chores and children. These things should be shared, that way everyone can enjoy their lives.
@cripfemme (7722)
• United States
12 Dec 11
I think that especially, but not exclusively, if both people work outside the house everyone must help. But I also feel like it's important for both people to contribute to all the chores in the house. This make sure that their children have a view of equal relationships, which I think will be the goal of everyone in the future.
@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
23 Nov 10
I think that it is very important that my husband take care of some of the household chores as well. I've been a stay at home mother for the last four years, but I think that it is important for all people that live within a household to take some ownership of the state of the household. This means that I expect my husband to do certain things around the house. It also means that I find it important for the children to do some errands in the common areas of the house as well.
@pan_23 (420)
• Kuwait
20 Sep 10
hi, in my counry india,men feel that all those works are ladies duties. she should do office work and house work also. they lazyly sits in house after their office work. ladies should do house works,office work,cooking ,and should see children . if i am not well or if i am not in house also,my husband will not do any household works or cooking. like other indian men,my husband will also not do household works and in sometimes when there are any parties in my house,he will do some cooking .
@flauee (92)
17 Sep 10
i object to men who see's women/wives as their very own personal secretary... screw you! men should help around the house too.. it does not mean that house wives life is easy... how bout a switch?? lets see if they can handle it... multitasking with almost everything...
@kmaram (2535)
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
men and woman nowadays are in the state of equilibrium. what a man can do (mostly) can also be done by a woman. we are now in the modern world. if a woman can now do the things that before only a man can do, why can't this men learn the things that before only woman could do such as washing clothes, doing the household chores and taking care of the children. a man and a woman should work hand in hand for them to live a peaceful life together. they work together to have that children right? hehehe so why not work together in any other things in the house?
@ifa225 (11104)
• Indonesia
12 Sep 10
they have too help their wife. if they are really love their wife they should do it even if her wife does not ask him. that is an understanding between lover.
@weasel81 (2502)
• Australia
24 Apr 10
times have and are changing in the respect that ladies don't alaways stay home and do everything. men also at some stage have to live by them selves, and be domestic. i think men should help out round the house, especially if both are working. i've just gotten out a relationship, where my partner basically had me doing all the work. i called him spoilt rotten, i don't mind doing things long as i'd be apperciated and i can also get the freedom to do what i want to.
@garychie (157)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
Nope. My husband helps me with every household chores like doing the laundry, washing the dishes, cooking, watering the plants and cleaning the house. That right there is a perfect gentleman. Even a little bit of the husbands help can be a lot to the wives. We, women should not let ourselves be our husband's personal maid.
• United States
22 Apr 10
ABSOLUTELY HE MUST HELP! In today's world where most households need 2 incomes to survive, the work should be split equally. Decide who will do what, and when the other is having a bad day or not feeling well, then pick up the slack. Pet peeve: Man who thinks his day is his own after clocking out of work. This is not true, unless of course you're a bachelor w/no responsibilities other than yourself. Guys remember: Respect is earned not given. Women need their men to be "men" and children need dad to be "dad".
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
dear marianna, i definitely would not agree to that arrangement, even if he is the one bringing in the money for the family. i prefer a man who treats his woman like a queen not a cleaner or housemaid. thank you for this discussion. ann
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
There are times that this may depend on a given situation- and there are factors involving this. Your culture or social norms might have a little effect on this scenario. Like here in our country. The usual setting and expectation here would be; wife doing all the household chores and responsible for attending to the needs of the children and her husband, while the husband would be responsible for working and bringing in money for the family- financial matters. If this is the case- then it is acceptable for the wife to stay in at home and do whatever needs to be done. But for example the wife works in the office, and the husband doesn't have work. I think the husband should make sacrifices for the family. It is very tiring for a mother to travel to work, work for 8 hours, then travel back home then still do household chores. I think she still can help children with their homework, fix some things, but it is tiring for her to still cook, wash the dishes and the clothes. If both wife and husband works, i think there should be a division of work. Or better, get a housekeeper. But in my own thinking, whatever the situation would be, it is better if wife and husband would share all the responsibility with their children and their house- communication is the key.
• United States
20 Apr 10
Do you repair the cars, mow the lawns, pay the bills, and other so called 'manly' things? I think men and women should be able to do just about everything around the house, then when one is ill, there is no wondering "What do I do now?" I clean house, cook, care for my disabled husband, change the tires and oil in teh car, clean the garage, cut the grass on a two acre lot, sew, wash, iron, do the dishes, and general housekeeping. I also take the cars for their three-month tune-ups and build things I need around the house, such as a wheelchair ramp for my husband, doghouse for the dog, or a new dresser for the bedroom. I crochet, paint on canvass or the walls of the house as needed. Fortunately, before he became ill, my husband handled 'manly' things but he had no qualms about helping out in the house, too. The bills we did together until he was no longer mentally capable of doing so. So should husband help around the house? Yes. Should women do 'manly' tasks, too. Yes. If each can do all of these things, why do they need the other - because they love them and want their company more than anyone else's.
• United States
20 Apr 10
I think it depends on the couple and the chores that each person is good at doing. My husband and I aren't having kids, but he does the cooking, dishes, garbage take out, lawn mowing, and half of the laundry. I do the other half, take care of our cats (and our bunny!), and keep the house clean and organized. We've fallen into these categories since, quite frankly, I'm too lazy to cook everyday and I hate touching dirty dishes, but my husband hates doing litterboxes and organizing. We both work, but since I'm a landlord I really don't put hours into my career unless one of my tenants has a problem. So besides working part-time at home with a small charity job, I really am free to do as I wish. My husband works every other week third shift, seventy hours one week, off the next. Yet he still does his chores and enjoys doing them. If I didn't have my husband (besides the talk about how lonely, depressed, and depleted I'd be), I wouldn't eat as well, I'd be stuck using paper plates and plastic silverware, and the lawn would be overgrown. If he didn't have me, the house would get dirty extremely quickly, not to mention he wouldn't be able to afford the house without my salary. So we both have parts to keeping the house running smoothly. I would have never married anyone who thought it was a "woman's job" to both have a career and keep the house running by herself. I'm a woman, not a slave!
• India
20 Apr 10
Well a woman does not necessarily mean chore worker. In my house, my husband and I together do our household work. He was never like this before marriage, but now he offers to help me in cooking, shopping for household stuffs, or even helps me in tidying the place. So I would say as individuals we must equally take part in doing the household chores. Its not gender biased.