Death in your neighbors's family.

@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
United States
April 23, 2010 3:49am CST
I was wondering if people still do like we do in my neighborhood when there is a death. two sisters who live in the neighborhood lost their brother yesterday. Someone usually calls all the neighbors to see if they want to go on & fix a meal or buy something like a deli tray. The deli tray usually wins. i called & ordered one for today but i'm also fixing some food to carry over. Do y'all do that in your neighborhood. I hear people say they don't know their neighbors but we are all pretty close which i think is a good thing. how about y'all?
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• United States
23 Apr 10
I think it's a nice thing to do. I don't really know my neighbors that well but if I did I would do that.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
23 Apr 10
Hi LYLA, THANKS FOR YOUR RESPONSE.Maybe u will get a chance to meet your neighbors. Have a good weekend.
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@cream97 (29179)
• United States
23 Apr 10
Hi, ANTIQUELADY. Yes people normally do this for their family or friends. I also think that they do it for their neighbors that they don't really know that well too. I know in my family, they always prepare food when someone passes away. It is a generous way of expressing their sadness due to someone dying. I am sorry to hear about your neighbors loss of life.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
23 Apr 10
Hi cream, Thanks for your response. Good for y'all. I think people really appreciate your kindness at such a bad time. Have a great weekend.
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@lumanman (82)
• China
23 Apr 10
It is very kind of someone who help the people needs help, especially for the people in sorrow.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
23 Apr 10
I think people need to help one another more than they do. Thanks for your response.
• China
26 Apr 10
People needs to think of others more instead of themselves all the time in family,in neighbour and in society. In doing so, we gets more back invisible...
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@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
28 Apr 10
I agree. There are too many self centered people now. I think kindness is returned to u. Have a happy day.
@Celanith (2334)
• United States
24 Apr 10
Some do but most no longer rally around when a neighbor loses a loved one. I know when our family lost our little four year old grandson and son last August not one of our neighbors came around, called or showed any concern. We had friends and family for a month or two but after that we have been struggling on alone on our own I get more prayer and support on the net than on and through going to the healing rooms and sometimes to church.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
24 Apr 10
So sorry about your grandson, how sad for all concerned. As for your neighbors SHAME ON THEM.I can't imagine people being that way. Thanks for your response. Have a good weekend & many blessings to u.
@lelin1123 (15647)
• Puerto Rico
24 Apr 10
That is a very nice thing to do. I wish I lived in a neighborhood like that. However back in New York and now in New Mexico the neighbors are not as close as I wish. Here in New Mexico you hardly ever see a neighbor at all. Part of the thing is we all drive into our garages and close the gargage and that is it. I think I'm the only one who walks up to the mailbox because I never see anyone else picking up their mail and I go at different times of the day all week. My neighbor did come over the other day to ask for some vinegar and invited me to watch the first two movies of Twilight tomorrow night with a bunch of her girlfriends. She said once you see other people coming come on over if I want. I'm thinking about going. However, as for knowing about my neighbors that is not happening. The one thing that everyone does is when driving by we all wave at each other but that is as far as it goes.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
24 Apr 10
tHANKS LELIN, I DO live in a good neighborhood. It's a shame that people can't be more friendly to their neighbors. I hope u did go over & watch the movies. That would be a great way to make new friends. I hope if u went u had a good time. Happy weekend to u. thanks for responding.
@cyrus123 (6383)
• United States
23 Apr 10
Not everybody in my neighborhood does this any more. People in my church do, though. Some people cook something while others will go out and buy something. I don't know all of my neighbors, either, but I think it's still a nice and thoughtful gesture. I hope you have a great night. Kathy.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
23 Apr 10
hI kATHY, that's a good thing to do. I'm glad your church family is like that. tHANKS FOR RESPONDING. Hope u have a happy weekend.
@dawnald (83889)
• Shingle Springs, California
23 Apr 10
I don't know my neighbors here, but I did that in my old neighborhood when somebody passed on.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
23 Apr 10
Thanks for your response.
@hibang (80)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
Wow, that was a nice custom/gesture, I hope there is something like that here in Philippines. Or maybe there also a custom like that here that I just don't notice.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
23 Apr 10
Thanks, it is a nice thing & people are very good here about doing things like that. Hope u have a great weekend.
@freymind (1347)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
It depends if you are staying very long in an area. I know most of my neighbors but they are not that friendly. Most of them are not really the original owner of the houses. I have some few friends in our neighborhood since gossip is everywhere. Since most of the "ladies" in our area doesn't have work. You are lucky that you are close with the people around you. There are a few people you can trust nowadays and unfortunately for us there are few in our area.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
23 Apr 10
Sorry your nrighborhood is like that. Yes, i am very fortunate to live in a carring place. Thanks for responding & i hope u have a happy weekend.
@riyasam (16583)
• India
23 Apr 10
ya i have also heard that in some regionspeople donot mix freely but in my place it is not so.we mix quite freely but i take care to draw the line so that nobody takes advantage of me.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
23 Apr 10
That's great. It's a good feeling to know someone has your back. Thanks for responding & have a great weekend.
@Thoroughrob (11772)
• United States
23 Apr 10
We don't, there are rentals beside us, and they change families so much, that we don't get to know them well. We have a business on the other side. My parents, on the other hand, they all know each other and do that sort of thing.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
23 Apr 10
That's too bad u don't get to know your neighbors & them know u. U both are missing out. Thanks for responding.
@dorannmwin (36610)
• United States
1 Dec 10
In the neighborhood I live in now, I honestly don't know what I would do because there are really only a few neighbors that I have gotten the opportunity to know. I would probably fix a casserole or something like that for one of those three families. However, for the neighbors that I don't know, I think that I would wait and see if one of the other neighbors approached me about it and I would donate something if they did but I wouldn't go to the same extent that I would go for with those neighbors that I've gotten closer to.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
2 Dec 10
We have gotten where we just take up money & get a deli tray etc. Last time i got them a gift card at a restaurant because there was not going to be people at their house. The deceased lived in another town so that worked out well for them.Thanks for responding.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
9 May 10
When HUbby pasted our neighbor to the south Sent over food and anotehr person for the church that neighbor belongs to sent over food. BUt we never hear aobut deaths now till it is way to late!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
12 May 10
That was nice that they did. It really comes in handy especially if u have a big family. We are pretty close in our neighborhood. Thanks for responding.
@neildc (16907)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
i still never experience having someone die in this neighborhood. but what i experienced from my mom and my mom-in-law, people who came over usually bring something that we can share with the people who also came over. something like coffee, rice, cookies, etc.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
26 Apr 10
Hi Neil, i'm glad u haven't & hopeu never do. It is very nice when people take the time to make nice gestures to people who are experiencing it. Have a good one.
• United States
26 Apr 10
People don't seem to be as close to their neighbors as they were when I was a child, so I really doubt that anyone but ones very dear friends would make the effort.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
26 Apr 10
Hi & THANKS FOR RESPONDING. i THINK U ARE ROGHT BUT U KNOW WE ALL COULD DO BETTER TO GET BACK TO LIKE SOME THINGS WERE WHEN WE Were kids. pEOPLE JUST DON'T TAKE time for others like they should. Have a good one.
@JenInTN (27571)
• United States
25 Apr 10
Oh yes Jo...we do that in my area too. We have actually been doing some bake sales at work recently to raise money for some people that I work with that have lost some loved ones.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
25 Apr 10
That's great, Jen. I think when u are kind to people it's always returned. Don't see u on here much anymore. I bet school & work is keeping u pretty busy. I'm proud of u . Have a great sunday. hugs.
@RobtheRock (2485)
• United States
24 Apr 10
That's the one good thing I can say about my city. Not necessarily neighbors but people from the church or neighborhood bring food by the house. Some people still send or give money in the Sympathy cards.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
24 Apr 10
That's great, rob. It is the least u can do for people when they lose a family member. Thanks for your response. Have a good night.
@gabs8513 (48822)
• United Kingdom
24 Apr 10
Hi Jo No that does not happen here any more I do remember a time when there used to be a Collection so that they could send Flowers for the Grave, but none of that goes on nymore
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@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
24 Apr 10
That's too bad it's stopped. Time sure changes alot of things. Thanks for responding, Gabs. Have a good one.
@sylvia13 (1851)
• Nelson Bay, Australia
24 Apr 10
Gee, I find that what you are doing really shows a neighborly spirit and congratulate you for it! I think your neighbors are lucky to have you!
@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
24 Apr 10
U are very kind, thank u. They have been good to me in many ways & i try to return the favor when i can. Hope u have a great weekend. Thanks for your response.
@pergammano (7737)
• Canada
24 Apr 10
Good morning..dear Jo. When I first moved here, the Island was much less populated and it was much easier to know the community! We have now grown so much..and become such a melting pot...I only know the old-timers...and yes, we do follow those traditions..casseroles, cakes, cookies..snacks, coffee, tea! It is becoming more common here to have a "celebration of life" where we all gather at the community hall and mostly funny stories are told, songs sang...and lots of great food! Take care and Cheers!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
24 Apr 10
hELLO MY FRIEND, I THINK THAT IS A GREAT WAY TO DO IT. I knew u would do something kind, u are jusrt that kind of person. Thanks for your response. love & hugs.