is it wrong for man or boys in the family to help up?

Nothing is wrong with man doing household chores. I have 8 siblings. Six of them are boys. But all them do household chores. My brothers are actually good housekeeper. They clean the house better than I do. They wash the dishes, do their laundry and beautify our house. But don't think they are not straight, I mean gay. No they are not. They now actually have family of their own. I guess its the training that matters. Our parents trained them that way. Though my father cannot be entrusted of household chores. It's my mother then. I grew up with daily assigned task. Washing dishes was rotation as well as cleaning of the house. For the laundry, we were trained to wash our own laundry. Talk to your mother. While your brothers are still young, they need to be trained as responsible individual.

They should be sharing with the household chores. It is sexist and wrong of them to think that just because you have female parts that it is your job to clean up after them.

I know the feeling, I am the only daughter in the family and I have 3 brothers. They are not really forced to do chores as compared to me. It seems my father has this mindset and my mom follows the same. Though I don't complain because they do their share in other stuff but not household chores. But once in a while they do ask if I could teach them to cook so that when they go for boarding school or school away from the home they could well do these things for themselves. I used to complain a lot but as we grew older, I knew why they were like that and actually it's for my benefit.

Well it can go the other way around. Would you like to help with carpentry or car maintenance? If yes then you are great. The good thing with boys is that, they don't ask the girls to do what's intended for guys only. You have to understand that boys have more things to do than just feminine tasks. If you ask for their help in a soft mannered way, they will comply.

I also have 3 brothers. I am the only daughter and they also tell me that girls should be the one doing the household chores and not the guys. So when we are asked by our parents to clean-up since our maid wasn't present, my brothers would always make me do the chores. The only thing they say is that... it's the "girl's job". How unreasonable they are. I didn't do the chores assigned to them by our parents. No way will I do their chores. They are passing the chores to me which makes them even lazier! It's not fair. If they have important things to do and they really need to do it, then ofcourse I will help them with their chores. But since they are just sitting around doing nothing, they should also help. That is what I think.

Of course, they should help you out. Being a boy/s is not an excuse to not do their share in household stuffs. And mom should not have favorite child over the other, or discrimination with genders among siblings. But you know what, it's a common issue already among siblings, pointing out to each other as to who is going to this and that. And later on, when growing up and reach the stage of maturity, siblings would just laugh about those issues and would learn already to give and take, and share work, hopefully it would be your case with your siblings later on. happy mylotting!Smile even you wash your brother's dishes,lol.

Hi amelly, You are right the boys should help with the housework. There was a time when the women were expected to do it all but times are changing and now many boys even take turns with the cooking. I think that boys should learn to cook just as the girls do and of course they can wash the dishes and should make their own beds. Blessings.

I agree with you. If they got it dirty, they should be the ones who clean it up, whatever it is.

Your mom is probably old fashion with thinking that the boys should be out fixing something while the girls are inside washing and tidying. However, in todays world those boys are going to have a rude awakening when/if they try to find someone to settle there life with. For example: in my house I most certaintly do NOT want my husband to do the dishes, mop the floors, or heaven bid do the laundry! Not because I dont think its hit job but because theres no way he will get it done to my standards. But that doesnt mean that he doesnt offer to do it or atleast occasionally wash a dish. I want him to want to help me not to assume its not his job. I think that you will have to be the mean, nagging, pushy sister and force them boys to do something for themselves once in a while because it will definately help them out later down the road.

Hi amelly, I think it is a custom here as a girls do all the chorus at home. When I was younger, my mom would clean up my bed and wash all dishes. Usually we just leave after finish our meals. My sister would help my mom to do all the chorus. But, as I am getting older, I do most of the thing myself except during "kenduri". It is not a hardest thing to do to swept our own room or living room once a while and wash our dishes after we finish our meals. But, we need to train the young generation at the earlier stage before they were to lazy to do it. My untie teach all her son to do all the dish washer and clean the house while they were still at the age of 7.

For me not because if they used to help when they got married there wife is not pressure to there work in the home.

How can it be wrong? I think men and boys, being members of a family, should really do their part of housework. There is nothing to be ashamed about. In fact, males should be proud of them for their contribution in the family. For me, I always help out with the housework, especially those heavy-duty ones. Actually, doing housework itself is also a good form of workout. At the end of the day, I not only have a good sweat and muscle workout, I also get to see a house which is cleaner and tidier. This is indeed what people say, "killing 2 birds with 1 stone".

wow, you are so pathetic.. lol.. anyways, your mom should do something about it.. it should be fair..

Let me tell you something you poor thang... Them boys need a boot in the but before they get married.. or at least before they find a girl to move in with.. I say that because when my husband and I got together he lived in a house that his mom and dad had bought for him and his twin to move into after they graduated... therefore it was still basically her house... he was 20 years old and his mom was still coming out to his house to do dishes.. because of this when I moved in me and him got into a ton of fights not only over his mother but because he was lazy... Now we have been married for 4 years and after I whooped him into shape.. but it took 4 years mind you and alot of fights.. In my opinion if your brothers would like to have a "peaceful" married life they need to get up off their butts...

hi!amelly! you are right!it is necessery to do clean for the boys and girls.maybe your mum don't think so!but i think you should ask your brothers to help.maybe they are glad to help you.if they are not,you should ask them do the clean for themselves,for examaple,wash their own clothes,tidy their own room,etc.they are used to cleaning slowly and then they will help up.