children's behavior inside the church.

Philippines
April 26, 2010 11:51pm CST
I really don't know how to rate my patience. Sometimes, I'm cool. Sometimes I'm not. But when it comes to children, like many, parents, I am sensitive too. For me, almost all children get active every now and then. Sometimes they're just super active or sometimes they throw tantrums. But there are also times when they are quiet. Sometimes it worries me more when they are quiet than when they are talkative. Because, more often they are sick when they are not in the mood to talk. There was this incident where I almost lost my temper, when one of the church goers told me to tell my children to behave well inside the church. I admit that church is a place of worship but it is also a place where families gather. You will notice, family gatherings is now very uncommon. The churchgoer was a girl, who is almost the same age as my eldest daughter. What irks me was the way she said so. I told her that I'm actually reprimanding them. But they're just too happy at that time. The girl didn't even say sorry for hurting my feelings. She had an older companion who, instead of telling her to shut up even backed her up. I pondered for days whether I was right or wrong. I keep imagining if Jesus was physically present then, what would He has done. Will He get angry with my kids or He'll be just as happy as they were. Maybe, He'll scold me for losing my temper, but I'm sure He will not get angry with the kids. Remember the bible verse where He was asked who is the greatest in the kingdom of God? I'm sure my kids will eventually outgrow this kind of behavior. We don't expect them to dance inside the church when they reach that girl's age. I wonder what or how that girl would be when she reaches that parenthood age.
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@tolted (191)
18 May 10
people need to be more considerate. I am sorry u had to go through that. Even Jesus reprimanded his disciples when they sent the children away. Children are the heritage of the Lord.
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• Philippines
21 May 10
It gives me a feeling of relief when I see comments with empathy. That was what I've thought during that time. However,on the other hand, that bad experience made me think to be a better mother. I really had to make my children realize that not all people are that patient with active children around them.
@tolted (191)
21 May 10
You are right. Some of life experiences help us to be better people and it is good that you have spoken to your children as well. Before I became a mum I used to look funny at mothers with screaming babies but now I know better. There are some things mothers can't help but we can only try our best and leave the rest. Am sure you'll be fine :)
@hvedra (1623)
30 Apr 10
Is there only the one service? A lot of churches do a family service and another service without kids that can cover more complex themes.
• Philippines
5 May 10
Supposed to be an earlier schedule is for children's mass. But since children are mostly accompanied by guardians, there are a lot of adults also. Even adults without children attend there also.
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@hvedra (1623)
5 May 10
If it is scheduled as the children's or family mass then there should be no complaining. If they find kids annoying they can go to the later mass and avoid the kids.
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
30 Apr 10
Hello Mr. dollar!!! I think it's just natural for parents to think of what is good for children. Some people just don't understand or they just have there own way of doing so. Just think of it as a challenge. You still need to know maybe or there are some things you need to improve. Just with proper guidance. think positive. We all have our own view of right and wrong and the two of your views just doesn't match at all.
• Philippines
30 Apr 10
Actually, after that incident I pondered on the times when I was still single and younger. I had also little patience with hyper active kids then. However, I never came to a point where I had to communicate my disgust with the children's parents. Thanks for the advice.
• India
29 Apr 10
lol i am hindu, we go to temples for worship, we have so many temples in my city, the women folk carry their kids, who really create much distubence, but the priest does not get angry easily, but if there is some sort of preaching, we all feel disturbed.. Thank you so much for this nice discussion, cheers God bless you. Prof
• Philippines
30 Apr 10
At first I was really hesitant to post about that discussion because we belong to different religions. I realize now, it doesn't happen only in Catholic churches but in other religion's temples or places of worship as well. After the mass, I immediately reprimanded my two kids about what happened. Hopefully, they'll behave better next time.
@sid556 (31037)
• United States
19 May 10
Hi Mdollarmom, Well not being there it is hard to judge the situation. I know that any place where people gather to listen to a person speak whether it be church or a lecture hall etc then it is only polite to keep quiet so the person can speak undistracted and others can hear the speaker. That being said, I probably would not interfere with any mother who was having trouble with their little ones. I know how kids can be and they do need to be taught how to behave in such a setting. I know that when my kids were small, they were told how to be and if they started acting up, they were given a warning. If it continued, then I'd just leave with them. I still would not go up to another parent and tell them what to do. We all have our different parenting styles and the girl should have just done her best to ignore it.