How do you control your anger?

@verptc (247)
Philippines
April 29, 2010 3:00am CST
Anger is but normal to every one in a certain level of situation. It happens to me sometimes when my wife does not want to listen to what I am saying then burst of anger explode me.But suddenly in few seconds, I contained it by cooling down myself asking God for forgiveness for my rude behavior and stay away from her and come back later in good spirit.In discussions with my friends and other people, I used to behave myself when argument situations are getting worst to avoid any serious happening.I make an alibi just to move myself away from any trouble coming in as I sense. Friends can you share on how do you control your anger?
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20 responses
• Bulgaria
30 Apr 10
I can't control my anger, but I am angry too rarely. When I am very angry, I usually brake something made from glass, or my keyboard, If I had been in front of my PC. This is the reason, because of I used to buy a new keyboard or mouse every 2-3 months :(
@verptc (247)
• Philippines
1 May 10
It is a pity for you kingsizewe that you cannot adjust to situation. Try to learn how to control your anger to avoid material damages around you.
@libramie (563)
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
I just shut off and stay where nobody talked to me yet. After a while composing myself and calm down. Begging forgiveness for the rudeness done.
• Mexico
29 Apr 10
Hi libramie: I think sometimes that's just what we need. This makes you reflex and think about what you have done, what you feel and if the way you're reacting it's rational or not. So, it's better to give ourselves this time when we need it. Thanks for your answer. Alvaro
@phoenix8606 (4978)
29 Apr 10
hell0. years ago i didn't try to control my anger and every time I got angry I began hitting and kicking, breaking some things at home or at school, and i wasn't really proud of my behaviour then, but know I have changed and the way taht I try to control it, is when I get angry, I always try to remember the days in the past, and how disgusted were everyone around me when they saw, what I can do in my anger, and the bad feelings come into me and I just calm down! maybe it sounds weird or stupid, but that's the way I do it for myself and I am really happy that I can control it that easy way, without no medicines or some therapy or some other things which can help me controling my anger. even my friends tell me that I behave much better now in situations when I earlier have been very angry!
@verptc (247)
• Philippines
1 May 10
Everyone is changing in their emotions and feelings when something went wrong.I wish you happy life. You change your self for a better person.
@nehmer (609)
• Philippines
30 Apr 10
what i do when i am angry at someone i go to gym and then punch the sandbank then sleep that way i tend to forget what happen...
• Philippines
30 Apr 10
Whenever I'm at my boiling point I went to my pet cat, they are really my outlet of my anger. Call me weird but I do talk to my pet cats. You can feel that theirs an attachment or they can understand what you're feeling. With their looks, you cannot resist but to feel light again.
@ladylola (10)
• Malaysia
30 Apr 10
I can't! Sometimes I tried to distract myself to other fun things but when i remember it back, I got angry again! My boyfriend always told me "learn anger management" but it only makes me want to punch him. I always feeling like buying a punching bag, so that I can release my anger.
@rhodalyn (251)
• Philippines
30 Apr 10
..when im not in the mood to ride on anyone's joke or whatsoever, i can easily get mad..in the point that i will utter words that can hurt anyone's feeling..but as of now!im trying to control it by transferring my anger to any thing..at least i can't hurt anyone..or if at the moment there's no thing to rely on, i will just behave and leave for awhile, spending my time alone..so that it can easily refresh my mind..
@airakumar (1555)
• India
30 Apr 10
Well, anger is very bad for health. Controlling your temper isn't always easy. But these effective anger management tips will help give you the upper hand. Although it may seem cliche, counting to 10 before reacting really can defuse your temper. Take a break from the person you're angry with until your frustrations subside a bit. It's healthy to express your frustration in a non confrontational way. Stewing about it can make the situation worse. Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. Go for a brisk walk or a run, swim, lift weights or shoot baskets. It can be helpful to write down what you want to say so that you can stick to the issues. When you're angry, it's easy to get sidetracked. Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work with the person who angered you to resolve the issue at hand.
@jap468 (106)
• United States
30 Apr 10
This sounds very similar to me when i get angry really fast but i cool down really fast as well. I find it helpful to just walk away from the situation and try and watch something that makes you laugh or something.
@amelly (1558)
• Malaysia
30 Apr 10
i'm not a kind of hot tampered person..but sometimes i do get annoyed easily and it makes me mad..but usually my anger will last for only 5 minutes as i think it is just a waste of my energy to get mad..if i'm too mad for some reason or at someone, i need to go somewhere calm to cool down..at that time i will not show my anger at others and that;s why my friends thought i never get mad..hehe
@syankee525 (6295)
• United States
30 Apr 10
with me having bipolar i have to remove myself from where i am at, and go off alone to calm down, i might play a game or listen to music. but its all depend why i am angery about too. if its something totally bad then i explode and hope i can walk away. with my anger i dont trust myself when i am totally out of control. but i do play games or listen to music, but knowing how to really control it and without it exploding is a leason that took me along time to learn
@stanley777 (7175)
• Philippines
30 Apr 10
I take a very deep breath, inhale, exhale... and I also count- sometimes I focus on something nice and happy to make my anger go away. It works all the time..
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
I'll be the first to admit that I blow up when I'm angry. I turn into a whole different person, literally. One of my new year's resolutions is to control my anger, so what I do is every time I get angry, I try to walk or turn away for a few seconds first. so the person I am angry at would not get the full brunt of my anger. it works.
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
breathe... count to ten release. think your thoughts very carefully coz spoken words can make or break a person.
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
I would like to answer this question again! There are many ways to control anger like counting 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 or more. but my new technique now is getting rid of myself from people whom i got angry like excusing myself to the company..To elaborate this thing, i will cite an example. If ever my anger is starting, to avoid seeing myself shouting i move on to another place and think of something interesting work to do.
@Edzornam (138)
• Ghana
29 Apr 10
Great, I think we share almost the same sentiment. Generally, I avoid places of anger..and when I get myself in one, I try to explain myself..if you don't want to hear me, I stop talking and move out. When I get sober, I came back. I swim of get myself in real time activities just to cool off an anger... Have Fun!
@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
29 Apr 10
Anger to be controlled with proper substitutes. As it emerges with a natural cause and related to various reasons. Just avoid the situations, if possible. Find some alternative to the situation and simply being angry will always creat health problems. Find out some justification wihich in turn result to reduce the intencity of your anger. Be more possitive and if at all unjust and cannot tollerate, just relax and get out of the seen, you will be saved. Regards, Thank-s
@qamarep (4450)
• Pakistan
29 Apr 10
i am very much angry person i only control with breaking up the stuff at home
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
I easily get mad but of course I also try to control my temper. Whenever I feel so mad, I have to be distant from that person and ignore for the meantime and think of happy thoughts. I also ask for forgiveness and try to understand that nobody's perfect and I have to learn to accept the person for who he is. I have to respect the person. I also tend to keep quiet to avoid arguments which will be unnecessary.
@acey76 (1278)
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
I used to be a hot headed person and easilly find argument on topics , and mis behaviors done to me, but now i tend not to react to situations on an impulse hence i just count 1 to 20 on my mind.....believe me it works ...it makes the surge of my blood to subside or cools you down......reacting to impulse or by anger won't be always right most especially if you react negatively its mostly the memories or moments that you regret. We just have to take it with a sound judgement and contained anger.=)