Should Husbands and wives have the same educational level?

@sagar21 (1583)
India
May 16, 2010 1:56am CST
Yesterday one of my myLot friends started a discussion about having/being a house wife/working wife.This triggered a question in me Should Husbands and wives have the same educational level? Will this create problems in our life,if the qualifications vary ? Chances are there.. I think this a major reason for most of the family quarrels. Unconditionally, home life is impossible without conflicts. Will a higher education level for husband make them feel superior over their wife? I think the best solution is [/b]same education level[/b] What do you think myLotters ? All suggestions are welcomed
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23 responses
@tomitomi (5442)
• Singapore
17 May 10
Do husbands and wives with the same educational level guarantee a couple with a happy and successful marriage? As with most other reasons cited for the holy matrimony there has never been a guarantee for a happy and a successful marriage. And never will. A happy and a successful marriage doesn't mean one without quarrels and conflicts. Instead quarrels and conflicts make up a part of married life. But how a couple resolve their quarrels and conflicts may just be a part of that happy and a successful marriage. In my limited view a happy and a successful marriage is what we make it out. It is a common consensus, a choice adopted by two adults, the husband and the wife. It is a decision to be made. It is also a skill, a skill not necessarily acquired from the institutions of higher learning but may be just a simple knowledge from the school of life. Learning from one's own experiences and the experiences of others, one's own commitments and undertakings all assume roles in making or breaking a marriage. The same educational level may help or may not help either.
@SheyBee (18)
• France
16 May 10
I think that this is not a question of educational level but more of emotional intelligence. It happens that wives with obtained University diploma stays at home at looks after the household. Maybe it is the problem in some parts of the world, but it surely is not the same all over the world! And no, home life is possible without conflicts! Even if there are money problems, wise couple will never make a battle out of it, because problems come and go, but family remains all the time the same. We have to take good care of it. And the amount of incomes or the level of obtained education should never be a reason to feel somewhat superior or weaker. It is just a diploma in order to obtained some working skills! Even if a wife with a highest education stays at home, she still can forward her's knoledges to the other members of the family. And today, I know many people who have obtained a diploma of University but works as a seller in a fast food snack bar. So, diploma is never a guarantee of respect, success and a good job.
@sagar21 (1583)
• India
17 May 10
I agree emotional intelligence matters..A wise couple will lead a happy life.. But I can't agree that an educated person don't deserve respect.. Of course diploma is never a guarantee for success and good job.. Thanks Happy myLotting
@ebuscat (5950)
• Philippines
16 May 10
For me no matter if you have different level the important is know how to be humble and wife must subject to his husband.
@sagar21 (1583)
• India
17 May 10
fine.. enjoy myLotting
@mspitot (3831)
• Philippines
16 May 10
no. a couple can be happy as long as they understand and love each other. they should have a give and take relationship and they should help each other for their development.
@sagar21 (1583)
• India
17 May 10
nice attitude , thanks Happy myLotting
@qamarep (4453)
• Pakistan
16 May 10
if the girl has more education then she can handle the family betterw
@sagar21 (1583)
• India
17 May 10
why can't a man? I think a girl with more education can support her husband better.. Happy myLotting..
@dheckerz (473)
• Philippines
16 May 10
I guess the degree doesn't matter as long as you respect, love and value each others opinion. My mom and dad had the same situation, my mom finished her masters while my dad wasn't able to proceed in his masters. They talk calmly and value each others opinion. Educational level has never been a problem to them, maybe because they are both mature and they love each other so much.
@sagar21 (1583)
• India
17 May 10
thank God for giving you such nice parents... happy myLotting
• New Zealand
16 May 10
It's best if both people in a relationship have the same education level , so that one doesn't feel superior over another. Also if one partner is more educated, this leads to the other partner feeling that they're not as valuable in the relationship. Depression can result because of this. Also this might lead to partners competing to be better than each other in particular fields in order to feel of value. However , if the feelings of love are mutual between partners , then a difference in education level shouldn't really affect anything. In fact , if having different levels of qualification does damper the love , then it shows how weak a relationship is...
@sagar21 (1583)
• India
17 May 10
good,to hear your response..
@kalav56 (11505)
• India
16 May 10
In our community where we go in for arranged marriages in a big way [i n select households]we always see that the boy is better qualified than the girl.Personally I feel that it is easier for a boy of superior intelligence an d capability to respect and toelrate his wife than what a girl does. Mine is a statement based on what I have felt and seen .If you ask a libber woman she would say that a boy of inferior capacity cannot tolerate a woman of superior intelligence or capacity [I have heard this personally from women libbers]. Ultimately I would put it down to the level of maturity ,expectation and tolerance in a person.
@sagar21 (1583)
• India
17 May 10
personally I do not like arranged marriages..esp. where dowry plays a role. The result an unpleasant family life.. There are exceptions.. who cares feminist they only constitute 15-17%. Anyway nice judgment kalav56,thank you for your response. Happy myLotting..
@amelly (1558)
• Malaysia
16 May 10
well,like my parents..they got different eductional level..my mum has a master but my dad only got a degree..but my dad is alot smarter than mum my but he kind of busy to further study now as he got a great position which is the head of chemistry department while my mum is a teacher..although my mum got a master but my dad is better than her..
@sagar21 (1583)
• India
17 May 10
thanks amelly for your response, well some people are lot brilliant and efficient..but often become careless about their studies or their family situation do no allow them..
@Augustinev (7019)
• Delhi, India
17 May 10
Education is better in life. I think no need to same level of education both husband and wife. If we getting more education we knowing more and more things and we became calm and quite in life. no superior and inferior complex seemed. education we getting not bookish but we getting in our or in our experience and every day works. augsutine
@ifa225 (11104)
• Indonesia
17 May 10
no they should not, but maybe not too far away. so they can still communicate better. can you imagine when your husband talking about tech but you don't understand at all? they should complete with each other weak.
• Indonesia
17 May 10
According to me, we do not need an equal education as long as both of them understanding each other... Higher education daesnt mean we can make ourself superior and remember husband and wife are one (your wedding promised)
@evepin (723)
• Philippines
17 May 10
i'm really not sure if both should have the same educational level but i am quite sure that even those with the same educational level does not mean that the marriage will succeed. they should have the same "wavelength." i think quarrels have to do more with financial matters. hmm. on the other hand maybe you're right, especially if the society both live in dictate that men should be the bread-winner and the more "superior" one at home.
@anne25penn (3310)
• Philippines
17 May 10
Not exactly the same educational level, but each one should be able to know how to communicate with each other. Sometimes there are couples who get troubled in their marriages because there comes a breakdown in their communication because one gets offended because they cannot understand what their partner is saying.
• Philippines
16 May 10
here in our country, it's more acceptable if the man's educational attainment is higher than that of a woman. ours is a conservative culture, being asian, so our society dictates men to be the macho type, the breadwinner, with lots of superiority complex over female species (yes, a paternal society). if a woman is smarter than them, they get insecure easily. so to maintain their status in a family, they often choose a woman of lower social status. luckily though, our culture is evolving and women empowerment is growing. as a result, we, women, don't want to be the underdogs in the family anymore. so men can save their egotism for their selves. hahahah... most now settle for same educational level between husbands and wives.^_^ i personally think, it's better that way as i don't want to be dominated by any men AND i have the tendency to dominate them if i think i'm better. hahahah...
@grkelly (1219)
• Malta
16 May 10
In my case we are both university graduates. My parents have the same educational background too, and so do my inlaws. I think it helps a lot. Nobody feels superiior or inferior and understanding, discussions and talking are more level and understandable. I know a couple where the wife is with all due respect very dumb, and the husband is a university graduate and holds an executive position. I do not know whether they quarrel a lot or not, but what i am sure of is that whenever i meet them the husband always makes fun in some way or another of his wife and her stupidity. That is not fair even though she really is a bit ignorant. But he should have known her educational level, and she should tell him to stop doing this to her.
@singlemommy (2953)
• United States
16 May 10
I don't eduacation has anything to do with how a couple has a relationship. I think if you both respect eachother for whatever career choice, etc that the other has chosen, that is what is important. Love and respect.
@sender621 (14970)
• United States
16 May 10
Levels of education should not fall necessarily to one gender in particular. Men women or husbands and wives should have equal opportunities to share in this. Everyone should have the chance to shine here.
@hati3kuro (278)
• Malaysia
16 May 10
Gosh...should this be discussed here? I think it depends on the spouse themselves, how to manage their households and so on. What is needed most is understanding and sacrifice from both sides. Regardless of the level of education that one might have, in the end the conclusive part relies on whether the couple themselves want the relationship to work, but then again, it requires a lot of sacrifice. I respect those who are willing to give up most of their self-interests just for the sake of making the relationship a relationship. That's true love. And pick your partner wisely, for you don't want to end up regretting having made the choice.
@347eat (113)
• Philippines
16 May 10
People have different preferences regarding choosing a lifetime partners. For practical reasons I would prefer my partner to have the same educational level as mine because its really a fulfillment if you marry a guy/girl with same as your educational background besides both of you can go to work to boost your family income. On the contrary I would choose my lifetime partner with not the same educational level as mine but to be sure that I have a higher degree above her. For some reasons she will become a good housewife of mine since I don't want my future babies to be taken care of by maids, I will choose the best care for my babies and that's the mothers care. Whatever preferences you choose it may varies with your personality.