Why do people cheat?

Philippines
May 26, 2010 3:29am CST
I don't have any constructive intro for this. It's just sad that cheating has become more and more a norm nowadays and relationships don't last longer than months. Why do people cheat anyway? do they not know that their actions affect another person so much which could lead to emotional trauma? have people become so insensitive to other people's feelings that all they want to do is just sate themselves with their illicit affairs? why do people not have the courage to end what they currently have before starting a new one? yeah i'm directly affected by this. It seems like because of me being busy i failed to see the warning signs so hermit mode here we come
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@ivarmj (21)
• Belize
27 May 10
you will know exactly what you are talking about when you are the one doing the cheating.........but it is mostly due to insecurity
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• Philippines
27 May 10
so let me get this right? in order to know why people cheat i have to do it? isn't that like creating a vicious cycle and promoting cheating? i'm sorry friend but your response is just downright idiotic
@ivarmj (21)
• Belize
28 May 10
what i am trying to say is that when you experience it then and only then you will find the answer to your question after all thats what you have to do live and learn
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29 Oct 10
I don't really know for sure. Some people like the danger of doing it, some people are bored in life and see it as exciting, some just do it because they like hurting others and often it's because they can't control themselves. I would never cheat on my wife, I know for sure she wouldn't cheat on me and I think people tend to forget what they have rather than seeing what they could. It's very rewarding when you have a successful relationship, as you build history and a life together. I wouldn't ruin this for anyone! :)
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• Philippines
29 Oct 10
that is admirable that you are faithful to your wife i wish everyone will have the same type of loving relationship in their lives
• Philippines
16 Jun 10
People do cheat to achieve something or maybe they are not satisfied of what they have. Like a man, he cheat to his woman because he don’t like one woman to be in relationship, because there are more woman than of man. Their thinking is a man should have twice women to be equal in ratio. I am not certain with this one, it is just my estimation. Some people cheat because they want to achieve something, the want every thing to be possible to happen. They want to make sure just like during election day, people who cheat is not confident that they will win. They want to have a sure win that is why they do it. They don’t want to accept defeat. Being a cheater is never peaceful, you always living in doubt.
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@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
29 May 10
Iam also ina hermit mode. The last relationship finally ended after i caught him many times each time with a different person. The relationship had spanned over many years. But i just could not take it anymore. He even texted me yesterday again saying "i will always love you". Well in my opinion he never did love me or he never would have cheated in the first place.
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
28 May 10
cheating is something that i want to do again. it's hard to bring back to trust of your partner. but by this time, i know i am slowly but surely recovering, and i will not get back to it again.
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• India
27 May 10
It seems that today people consider it smartness if they can take advantage of others emotionally or financially. Getting what you want at any cost is ultimately important, building relationships-not. People build relationship in the spirit of networking i.e. to get something and therefore relationship is important only to the extent it can help you achieve your objective (materialistic mostly). So once they have extracted the benefit and nothing more is to be extracted, they ditch And you are right, they are insensitive, actually there is no room for being sensitive.
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@hagirl (1296)
• United States
27 May 10
There are so many reasons that are given these days..... It could be because of self-esteem, control, they are not comfortable in their own skin, the relationship or marriage was not based on moral values and ethics in the get goo..... This is not only pertaining to guys but women today...... Believe or not I hear more about women stepping out than men these days.... I think people are jumping into relationships before they are ready
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@common_man (1799)
• India
27 May 10
hi It is sad that you have become victim of cheating in relationship. As you said because you were too busy you could not get early signal. There lies the min reason why people cheat in relationship. When one partner is too busy to give time and attention to other partner, he develops feeling of not being loved and experiences a void in life. This happens particularly when the busy partner is not able to take care of emotional feeling of other partner who is not busy. So the partner with time, try to get his/her needs satisfied from some one else who can meet his/her emotional needs.As busy partner is too busy to find out that his/her partner is feeling neglected, can not take care even if he/she wants to do so. And then when one day he/she comes to know that his/her partner is getting emotional and physical needs satisfied from somewhere else, claims that his/her partner has cheated him/her.
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@qamarep (4450)
• Pakistan
27 May 10
it sbecause the people nowadays want the variety in the friends and they wnat to be with more men and women then just their loved ones
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@derek_a (10902)
27 May 10
I think people may cheat because they are afraid of losing out. As a therapist and Zen practitioner, I have realized that a cheater cheats nobody but himself. Whilst the person who has been cheated may feel upset for a while, he will get to feel better after a while. On the other hand, a cheater is creating stresses in his/her subconscious mind because what he/she says and what he/she does are not in harmony with each other. At first this conflict will be barely noticeable, but as time goes by, the cheater will begin to feel more unhappy, but probably blame outside factors for his/her unhappiness and will feel more inclined to continue cheating to try and put things right. _Derek
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• Philippines
27 May 10
For me, just for me..I think its nature. People do cheat because its nature. I don't know where it started it just came out in the nerve. I myself do cheat. people like what others have. i think this will just be prevented if people look at the bright side of their life.
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@hexeduser22 (5854)
• Philippines
27 May 10
There are just a number of reasons on why people cheat. It can be because of confusion, greed, no contentment and etc. We can't actually say that it's the norms nowadays just because most people do it. It's just that many people deviate from the norms because they know they can. It's not the good when you are in the losing end and sometimes I think it's not also good when you are in the cheating end. Human nature of self preservation comes first for this people and I guess at some point all humans would tend to preserve their selves and avoid conflict no matter what. For me cheating is a cowardly act and very selfish but it's an option always available for us all. It's up to the person to if he/she wants to cheat or not but for me it's definitely not an option... Sometimes cheating can be caused by how the relationship was founded and molded or how it was shared. I say we must be always sensitive on our partners feelings so we can be there if they need us and avoid the cheating situation
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@maxito100 (150)
• Argentina
27 May 10
i guess the ones who cheat is simply and basicaly cause they don't know how to be truthful to themselves in the first place.
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• Switzerland
26 May 10
Why do people cheat? Basically, because they want to be happy and for them to be happy is to cheat even if it is bad. When people cheat, they benefit from doing so but ruin the other party. I do not want to cheat and I do not have any intention to cheat especially in a relationship.
@asmd1990 (29)
• United States
26 May 10
I don't know why people cheat. And I totally despise them for it! Its not fair for people to cheat and I don't know what influences them to be unfaithful to their partner. Some reasons why I can see it happening is that they are not happy in their relationship or just don't respect their partner... Some people do it to boost their self esteem or just for the thrill. But I know that I will never cheat! Its not fair to me or my partner. Plain and simple.
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@lakman (56)
26 May 10
I thing every thing is related to rising population on earth. Every body wants to and has to live on this planet. For that we need money and everything. If people cannot meet these by faire means they seek alternative means like doing crimes. Cheating is is one of them. In future this crimes will grow and never come down unless the respective government of each country adopt a proper mechanism to promote the well being of increasing population.
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@busybee10 (3191)
• India
26 May 10
We are living in a dry and tempering world with out any taste . Because, I do not find the meaning of the love,good conduct,respect to elders,neighbors,friendship and truthfulness in the dictionary. But live courageously bearing every negative thing U face in life. We cannot run away from life instead take it as a challenge
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@kharlav (1673)
• Philippines
26 May 10
People cheat because they are not satisfied with the one they are with, and I believe that they dont really love their partner because a person who loves will never purposely hurt the one he loves. Another thing is, people cheat because they are afraid to be cheated, they'd rather cheat and have many partners so that if one will be gone, they still have someone left and it will not hurt as much.This is according to my friend who always cheats.
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• Philippines
26 May 10
people cheat bco'z of time,lacking of time spending together. busy in work, and other curricular activities. Insecurities, and most specially jealousy and you lack respect to the you love. honesty of courseand understanding together to build a strong relationship. people also cheat bco'z they dont love their partner anymore and they can't express it bco'z many people will be accepted especially their children.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
26 May 10
There are so many reasons and conditions and situaations that give people the opportunity to cheat. Some cheat because they are bored and it gives them something better to do. Some cheat because they need the excitement in their lives. Yet others will cheat just because they can. Some cheaters don't expect to get caught. Others cheaters are just waiting to get caught. Cheaters crave the attention it brings.