Do you fall in love with a beautiful people?
June 5, 2010 4:39am CST
I have this officemate whose always bragging about her boyfriend. She's always saying that he's a hunk, very handsome. Describing him as "Adonis". When this guy visit our office, all girls who envied her was frustrated because he's not good looking after all. I'm wondering -- do you fall in love with a beautiful people or you find them beautiful because you love them?
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5 Jun 10
It will e better to say that you find that person beautiful because you love them. You know love is a very bit thing that can control a lot of aspects in your life. Ask the question, would you be with a mate that is ugly? Everybody is more likely to say no. But in reality others might thing your mate is not good looking although in your eyes your mate is so good looking. So appearance all depend on love
5 Jun 10
Oh my gosh, don't get me started about my handsome guy for a boyfriend... Hahaha!!! Wow, at first I was blind to see how good looking he is since I had a thing for someone else at that time and I was caught in the haze, but till my cousin who always thinks most of the guys I liked looked icky looking and stuff her reaction was golden, and for sure not kidding since she wanted a guy like him and she says he's waaaaaay better looking than that guy I've been trying to hold onto before. I was all sure okay, fine you can have him - but I tried to kind of give him to her but he didn't want her since he needed me. So I was all... Ummm... Okay? I wasn't 100% in love with him at that time compared to how I was now. But I did flirt with him before not knowing the words I said but it did quite the toll on what fate had in store for us. Week by week, getting to know him... He was like the sort of guy I could ever ask for and was looking for. Wow he's so amazing at what he does and makes me laugh and makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Don't get me wrong, I was only 90% in love with him when I realized how much I've fallen for him when I trusted him somehow with something I could not just tell anyone so I decide to tell a total stranger on my own... but something about him made me feel to trust him somehow, and it's great since I'd be a total wreck or worse if he didn't come to my rescue... XD Anyways, when I realized how cute he looked not to mention the exact words I told him before that he's "adorable and he looked like a little sweet heart," ummmm... Now I know I wasn't kidding around. I was trying to keep this a low profile, but I told my mom as final judgement since she basically rejects every guy I show her that I really liked, in love with etc... Her reaction? "OMG!!! He's so handsome! Where did you find him! Oh he can call me mom! I hope he can be my son in law! You take care of her!" Oh my gosh, major face palm moment right there. She's glad to see me happy since I haven't been that way in a loooooooong time - wait... hold up. Nobody has ever seen me this happy before, without the fake smiles and the acts that I'm okay. But this time I really am! :D Within a few weeks I just know that my boyfriend just looked good not to mention better looking than all the guy's in my past, he makes them look like manure. XD He needed a little bit work back then, but I didn't mind at all since a little facial hair didn't hurt, but he says I inspire him to have a reason to wake up in the morning and other stuff that I thought I'd never hear from anyone that would make me kind of cry since he's for real and whatever feelings I have for him won't change a bit. He said to me that I was like one of those tall dark and handsome guys except for straight men... mysterious, beautiful, and filled with concentrated awesome. Kinda like that, it's kind of a blur that part of the awesome thing since my memory isn't that great if it's verbally spoken at night. But I had a feeling him and I met before and my instincts were right about him though I was blind, but the whole time? He is just - holy crap he's handsome! D: And I'm glad to have a guy like him loving me, respecting me, and someone who actually sees me by their side in the future. We're both crazy for each other and that's what makes me forget about a doubt in him when ever I have a few doubts since my past history with some guys aren't too good. But this guy for sure is true, coz him and I both know it and he's really special to me. He's cute, adorable, smart, handsome, compassionate, caring, loving, good natured, honest, and just never seizes to amaze me. XD But there's one thing I cannot forget him telling me aside from a bunch of other things but this one's for people to know... "physical beauty fades, but internal beauty lasts forever." Sure he might of got that quote from somewhere but he does have a point. To me? It just never really occurred to me then since I was looking for other qualities in a guy but knowing he reached over 96 percent in my secret what I want in a guy evaluation sheet I can surely say he's mine and I'll love him no matter what he looks like handsome or not!!! But ironically he IS!!! And I could nevermore be grateful that he's found me.
5 Jun 10
Hi animemisa: I think that's a very complex question. I think that first of all, before knowing a person you get interested of him/her for the way he/she looks like, so I think physical attraction is really important for a relationship but it's not all about. I think that if you find a person that is really interesting, smart, has a good conversation, etc. you'll start looking at this person as someone attractive. So I would say it's a mixture of both things. Thanks for asking us this question. Have a nice day. ALVARO.
6 Jun 10
How do you do, starsailover! Thanks for your comment. As you say, physical attraction is important. Yes, most men are like that, i think. They look for beautiful women, they will fall because of their physical characteristics. That's the reason, maybe, that they will fall out of love if they found later on that they are not compatible with each other.
5 Jun 10
beauty is in the eyes of the beholder... is one of the saying that we all know. the not so cool part of this is the bragging. the person might be a hunk and adonis for her eyes but not for the eyes of others. there is also one more saying that beauty is not only seen by the eyes it is also felt by the heart. welcome to the world of mylot anime. hope to see you more here.
9 Jun 10
For me beauty is a blessing. I like all the beautiful things in the nature. From a girl to the creation on earth. I like to enjoy in all respects. A song, a flower, a plant, the sun rise, the animals, water falls, good looking girls, boys, child, beautiful hair, what else not??? Everything. Nature created all for each other and we, with our mind and power, we will enjoy it. It is a must. In case of possessiveness, also, we wish to be ours for ever. It is human nature. I am sure that all are not able to keep it as our own. Still, as much time I can be with that, I will enjoy till the last moment. That is why people goes to beaches, hill stations, and odd places where they wish to be more likely things and lovable things. If you like beautiful things, I think you also a good observer and you should be like that. Regards and good luck. Thank-s
6 Jun 10
i dont really fall in love with them. i like beautiful people.. but falling in love is a different thing.. and the other thing you have talked about is the with whom we fall in love looks nice.. but it is not truth for me at least. how a person can be beautiful when he is not.. your office mate should have chek her eye sight. you know young fruits looks beautiful but they are not sweeter than the real ones.
6 Jun 10
A word spoken well,beauty lies in the love's eyes,Now I think I like best is the most beautiful.But his eyes in others who are not so beautiful.May I in his hormone.Just like what you said ,I think you collegues likes to show off,So to speak her boyfriend so well,this is hardly surprising,if really love each other.
6 Jun 10
People have their own personal preferences. What seems handsome or beautiful to one person may not appear the same to another. After all it's not the looks that only matters. Well it's an icing on the cake but it's not the sole thing that is important in relationships. People are beautiful for me when they have a good heart.
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5 Jun 10
I think that people can fall in "lust" with beautiful people, but if you truly LOVE someone, then they are beautiful to you even if they are the most unattractive person someone else has ever seen. Take me for instance, my husband is always telling me how beautiful I am, but I know that I hardly fit into anyone's definition of beautiful, but because he loves me I am beautiful to him.
5 Jun 10
According to me good looking is not a important part to love anyone in this world because with a physical beauty mental beauty is also very important to select anyone so in this way beauty is never decide to see by physical beauty always use mind at the time of selection of your partner not heart.
5 Jun 10
The love of my life is not handsome. He's not ugly either, but he's not someone who would make girls drool. We're not together anymore. I've been with other guys who are better-looking than he is, but he's the one I cannot forget and I have been trying to get over him for years. Yes, I guess I find him beautiful because I love him.
5 Jun 10
I don't.I don't even have a concept of a handsome guy.I do admit that I think Eastern European dudes are hot,but I don't necessarily think they're handsome.sometimes,when someone says that her bf is handsome or his gf's pretty,we expect too much physically.we get disappointed if s/he is not really that pretty/handsome we expected them to be.
5 Jun 10
Every one loves beautiful things,not only the man.I love my busband at the first sight for he is very handsome,how to say?let me take an example.One of my colleagues has come to my house with her boyfriend last year,and her boyfriend told her that my husband's so handsome.But I also think that the real love does not depend on a beautiful face but his heart.There is a term called aesthetic fatigue,that is!