And They Lived Happily ever After?

Hmmm... Most people would force or 'guilt-trip' their partner into marrying them. I would not want to be in that position. I know I have been mentioning 'marriage' often but I make it sure that he understands that it is out of 'wondering', I never assume that it will be me and him in the end. But I know that these conversations causes pressure to my partner which is why I try to steer clear of these topics. However, as a woman, I think it's ultimately pressuring me to settle down before my time runs out, so to speak. Further, I'm more worried about him being forced to marry me instead of worrying of being single forever.

Or why one would constantly push the other to remain in a marriage that wasn't right any more...

HI dear! You getting married is one's personal choice. Anyone should not be forced to get married, because married life is entirely different from a single's life. Those who are willing to taste the fruits of married lives on their own peril, should venture into it.

I don't believe it would be a happy situation if someone "forced their partner to marry them" but you have to be a weak person if someone can strong arm you into the marriage bed. I don't believe if I didn't actually want to marry someone that I would...as for me.....I don't know that I'll ever remarry...

I've seen a number of marriages that were like that. They were rather sad, pathetic marriages really. Granted those marriages are better than the screaming yelling, divorcing, children without both parents, and broken homes, for sure. But I've met people that you could tell there was no flame between them at all. It was like watching two completely separate people, who just happen to live in the same house. At the same time, I have a higher respect for them, who are at least taking responsibility for the children they brought into this world, than most people who seem to be so self-centered, that they couldn't care less what damage they do to their children. There's even a woman on here who publicly talked about her coming divorce, and I asked her about her kids. She said basically oh they'll be ok. I shouldn't have to live in this unhappy marriage. Amazingly selfish. Likely why she's getting divorced. Yet I know of many parents who choose to stay together for the benefit of their kids, at least until they were grown an out of the house, and their kids were way better off for it. Of course the key is to not get in that situation to begin with. Don't sleep with someone you are not married to. Don't marry someone unless you really intend to spend your life with him. And you are wise to not get married if you have no intention of changing yourself. Marriage is nothing, if not a series of sacrifices and compromises. Learning to live together is entirely a matter of changing who you are to fit your spouse. If either person has absolutely no intention of doing that, then yes, marriage will be nothing but a tug of war, that both sides lose.

I also don't get why everyone would force someone to marry him/her. The main factor in marrying should be love and forcing other means they do not love each other so why bother marry? Anyway I totally disagree with forced marriage. He/She should love each other first before deciding any wedding. The one who was forced is the one that's gonna suffer in the end.

Hi sarah ruth beth: I think that when you decide to get marry you must feel free and totally sure of your decition. If you decide to do it to make someone else happy, the result is that you won't be convince of your decition so it's a bad way to start a new life. I think that peple can be happy being husband and wife if they want to work together for this and if they keep romance in their lives. Thanks for telling us your experience. Have a nice day. ALVARO.