what's the suitable age gap between couples?

June 7, 2010 7:03am CST
what do you think guys what's the suitable ages between man and woman. like i with my girl friend. There are 2 years between us. hmm. sometimes i think we have many common stuff.but obviously sometimes we fight each other because of this the ages gap between us is small. What the suitable ages you think ?
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24 responses
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
for i think age doesn't matter when you love somebody because for me i believe that love conquers all. when you love , even the worst things happen you still love your love one. :)
7 Jun 10
I agree. age gap does not matter.. but if a huge gap. this is kind of ... well if is a huge gap they still stay together. i think they must love each other. if love.. why not concern about the age. Thanks for your comment. Have a nice day.
@reetu3 (264)
• India
8 Jun 10
ya nichola i completely agree age gap does not matter as i am one year older than my husband and it does'nt make any difference in our relationship it is up to you ....but i think 1-2 year gap is sufficient...i don't think there should be so much difference between couples ....being less age diffrence they should be more friendly....
@med889 (5958)
7 Jun 10
According to a research it is said that there should be a difference of three years between the two people, however my boyfriend is only twelfth days older than me, and I think understanding and maturity is much more important to make a relationship last than the simple age gap between two people who love each other.
7 Jun 10
As we know. the age gap concern with some other stuff the two people is.. like if there is 6 . the older definitely will show more responsibility .more mature. and this is more important for stable for their's relastionship . Basically love is the foundation. Thank you
@Ravenladyj (22994)
• United States
7 Jun 10
Well the suitable age difference is whatever any couple decides it is...there is no set number ya know..There are very happy couples in love who are a few months to a couple yrs apart in age and there are also some that are decades apart in age...Whatever works for the two ppl involved is the right age difference
7 Jun 10
Haha. just like you said. there is no set number. Just they enjoy it. they feel is happy.that's all. hmm. for this stuff. every people has its own situation. they can make this decision. hah. Have a nice day. Thank you for your comments.
• China
7 Jun 10
Suitable age between couple could be 3-7 years old. Then there will be understanding which is very important for relationship. 2 years also ok. If there is love exist in a relationship then no need age gap.
7 Jun 10
Just like you said. 2 years is for love exist. in the gap. the couples age near each other. they have many common subject. They can understand each other easily. But suitable can be 3-7. because under this situation man older than the woman. he can act mature. he can make the decision. they love between them is more stable. Thank you. Happy my lotting
@Masssko (239)
• Estonia
7 Jun 10
I have experiences age gaps from 2 until 13 years in my relationships. In my opinion 6-8 is optimal, but only when younger part wants to learn something from the older one. In other way, this might become a complete disaster. I am the younger half in our couple, and I really enjoy wise, a bit parental relationship between us. Moreover, my boyfriend tends to behave much younger than he is, so sometimes I think I am the older one =).
7 Jun 10
In my opinion. 4-6 years is optimal. Man should older than woman. because this man take good care of woman. if their age is near each other. Sometimes they may both act like child. sometimes if they both Mature. they have their own standard of conduct. they may fight each other... if they are both act like child. and how can the familly farwarding... For the age 4-6. the Man older. this relationships is more stable. Thanks for your comment.
@maximax8 (27059)
14 Jan 11
I think that if the couple are the same age that is perfect. If the man is up to 12 year older than the lady that is fine. Should the man be up 5 years younger than the man this is also acceptable. Really what matters are love and compatibility. I think that 2 years age difference would be completely fine. One time my friend saw his ex-girlfriend in a bar and she asked if he wanted to meet her new boyfriend. He imagined it was the handsome looking bar man. However he was man that looked like her grandfather. She was 30 but looked much younger and he was 60. They are still together now that she is 38 and he is 68. I think that is a considerable age difference but they seem to be compatible.
• India
14 Jan 11
Welcome to mylot May be you are right because of the small age difference, you must try to adjust.. Well age is certainly a factor, in my family the wives are younger than the hubbys.I was married in 1968, i was only 23, my wife was 16, my brother, my sons are 7-10 years older than their wives, my daughter is 8 years younger than her hubby , all are happy But now girls and guys in same job marry, it is kind of love marriage, they are almost same age, many are happy, but some not, they probably did all post marriage things, before marriage, no charm left.. Thank you so much for this post. Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
@Hatley (115346)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Jun 10
nicholaya two years sounds good its not the age gap so much as the maturity of each person. If you really love each other unconditionally that is accept each other as you really are warts and all. This makes much less stress between two people learning to know each other. so love a lot and keep stress free.
@grayxenon (1307)
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
i think there is no proven formula, but majority of couples i know that successful till now living their marriage on a strong note are those couples wherein the man is older by at least 3 years. My uncle married a girls twice is age, but they live happily although the girl sometimes acts childish or rather appropriate (sometimes) on her age. i think the popular adage in love remains, age doesn't matter!
@Jacobus1919 (1685)
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
Well, My age gap with my girl is 4-5 year. And the good thing is we do not have problems with the age gap. I do not see anything wrong with having a large or small age gap. It really depends on how you make of the relationship actually.
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
There's no suitable age gap, that's for sure.. :) Agreeing and disagreeing on things are common in a relationship, no matter what the age... It also depends on the maturity of the couple.. Even if you're partner is way older/younger than you, you both have the responsibility to make the relationship work or not.
@chm001 (207)
• India
8 Jun 10
I think it's 4-6 years.
• South Korea
8 Jun 10
honestly its always better if the boy is a little bit older than girl i think..if if i would marry someone i would prepare someone who is atleast 2-6years older than me..coz i always wanna be his baby..lol :p
• India
8 Jun 10
I think it should be 3-5 years....not more or less than that...I have a gf...and I'm going to marry her .We have 3 and half years of age difference b/w us...and we have good understanding and good carefulness for each other....and i believe that girls have a more matured mindset than a boy....so a man should be capable enough to match her mindset.
@akopoaysi (740)
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
i think 3-5 years will do... because for me you need something to do that you both like... being too different is hard.. but there is always compromise and sometimes change is good too... maybe it wont matter as long as someone will always change for the other... for me age is not an issue perse... what matter for me is how you compliment each other... good day everyone!! :)
@juggerogre (1659)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
There's really no suitable age gap for any relationship. You should consider more the maturity of each of them. It will really be hard if the one is too matured and the other one is like a child. And sometimes it is enough that they love each other. Age after all doesn't matter on love.
@cortjo73 (6503)
• United States
7 Jun 10
I think it first depends on how old you are. The younger you are, the weirder it is to go out with someone with a large gap. I think for older couples, 10 years is an acceptable gap. But, by older, I mean 40 to 50. 20 to 30 would be sort of gross and wrong in my opinion because, you grow a lot and your experiences are vastly different from 20 to 30 years of age. And, going along that thought, a 15 year old dating a 20 year old is too much of a difference. Not to mention, I don't think it is legal. So, it really depends on where you are in life. The older you get, the less the gaps in age seem to make a difference. But, again, by older, I mean 40 to 50. Maybe a 50 and a 70 year old could date but, a 20 and a 40 year old...gross. A 30 and a 50 year old...yup...gross. LOL! 2 years isn't that big of a difference. My hubby and I are 2 years apart also.
@katsmeow1213 (24665)
• United States
7 Jun 10
The age difference between a couple is totally up to each individual person. It depends on a person's maturity level. For me I've always been attracted to guys who are a few years older than me, and more mature, because I myself am mature for my age and always have been. When I was 20 I dated a guy who was actually a few months younger than me and it didn't work out because of how immature he was. I'm now married to a man about 6 years older than me, and we match quite well.
@SHAMRACK (8350)
• India
7 Jun 10
Dear friend, I do hope too much gap and too less gap is might be not better. But the more important I consider how well those couples understand each other and how happily they lead their life. Age is just a simple part but it is the sincere love and effection that couples keeps matter much better. In that case any age is suitable when the couples go well and leads a happy life.
@sender621 (14970)
• United States
7 Jun 10
Relationships are complex enough without age coming between two people in love. Couples don't want too many years to bridge the gap between them. Anything more than 5 years apart is easy to cope with. !0 years or more of an age gap makes more issues than it is worth. There are exceptions to every rule. Your heart is the best judge of your love, not the age gap.