Does a man has rights to hit his wife?

@srganesh (6349)
India
June 21, 2010 12:42am CST
What do you think? Should he have rights really to hit his wife for any silly reason or what so ever the reason? This is for women. Will you accept your man to hit you like that? If so, what is the reason behind it? Do you take it under love or consider it slavery and fight back?
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@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
21 Jun 10
Sweetie, no man has the right to hit his wife. And that is not called a man, it is a sissy. No women can tell me that it is love. I won't fall for it. It is disgusting and very low to lift your hands to a women. No excuses. TATA.
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@erikmama (12935)
• United States
21 Jun 10
saphrina,i can think of a fgew other words to describe the OJ's of the world!....Of course my lot wont allow me to post them here.I think my ex is a pussi biatch for what he did to me.A sissy doesnt quit give it the full effect!!
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
21 Jun 10
Well, i was trying to be very polite, but as you have said i might reconsider my words next time. Hope you gave him some of his own medicine.
@srganesh (6349)
• India
23 Jun 10
saphrina! We need not go to the extreme of discussing brutal men who hit their wives for silly reasons and to show their potential. Just consider men who hit their wives in an emotional out break that would be unintentional. He may plead sorry for that, then. How do you see this?
@_Honey_ (781)
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
Battered Wife - Never be one.
I don't see any reason why a man should hit a woman or even vice versa. If this happens to me, I'll make it a point that my husband won't see me again. But to begin with, I'll make sure that my husband will respect me and will not even lift a finger to hurt me. I think it has something to do with setting your boundaries. Never let a man shout or yell at you. Never let a man curse your or say bad words. Never tolerate him and he'll know how to treat you better.
@erikmama (12935)
• United States
21 Jun 10
Thats right. Make sure you get the respect you deserve.If you dont demand it you wont get it.No man should put his hands on a woman.It is abuse,it is wrong,and noone should go for it.Smack him back upside his head and see how he like it.Bet it wont happen again!
@erikmama (12935)
• United States
21 Jun 10
O yea let me add a pic forr the abused women
@srganesh (6349)
• India
23 Jun 10
You are right Honey! The women should draw boundaries and show what is the limit for the husband. That will solve most of the problems. But will it not spoil the intimacy when you are so keen on watching the boundary line? Will it work?
• Romania
21 Jun 10
well i never hit my girlfriend and never will i have violance , i was wondering what could she do so i could hit hear and i think that everythig she would to to hurt me i woud never hit heri would just dump hear
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@srganesh (6349)
• India
21 Jun 10
Oh! You are a great lover. You won't hit her even if she hurts you. That is the power of love. Only without it, more men are hitting their girls. If love rules their heart, there will no flaws noticed and a happy life is possible.
@agv0419 (3030)
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
It is not right to hit a woman, women should be love not to hurt them. Women now a days know there rights and they don't tolerate the beating of their husbands or they boyfriends. As a women we should always use our head not always our heart because sometimes it deceives us.
• Romania
21 Jun 10
it has been 3 years since we are togheter and i never hit hear i cant hit a woman , its just not fair
@lelin1123 (15647)
• Puerto Rico
21 Jun 10
No man on this earth has a right to hit his wife for any reason whatsoever. I would never let a man hit me. If he hits me once he is going to jail and its over between us. Once a man feels he can hit a women he will continue to do so and it will just get worse for the wife. So there is no way- hit once you are gone in my book. I believe a man who hits a women is a man with low self esteem and is a very weak man who will only abuse a women. A weak man would never try to fight a real man they only go after the female in their lives. So for me a man like this is not a man but only a punk.
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@srganesh (6349)
• India
21 Jun 10
lelein123! You have a brave heart. Deciding to be firm against a hitting person, you show your determination. But not all girls cannot have this strength. They just learn to accommodate with their beating husbands. That is right. Only weak man who cannot show their valor outside the house, displays it on their wife.
@debsgw (256)
21 Jun 10
well said lelin, I don't believe any man should hit his wife (nor wife her husband), relationships need to be maintained in love and respect not fear and abuse. Only cowards bully those weaker than them and I wholeheartedly agree that anyone who behaves this way cannot be considered anything other than weak punks. I do know that it can be very difficult to deal with brutality though either because of social reasons or family pressures when all looks so good on the outside and people find it difficult to believe what is really happening. Women in this situation can be so down trodden and stripped of all coping mechanisms that they cannot see a way out no matter what. I had a friend who experienced this in silence for just those reasons many years ago and she was not someone that I would ever have suspected would put up with that kind of life. It made me realise how fortunate I am to be strong enough to know that I would not let it happen more than once ever, I think that inner confidence and self knowledge, puts off the kind of men who behave this way - they are looking to prey on those who have insecurities and are lacking in confidence already so it makes it easier for these despicable men to behave in any way they wish and get away with it.
@lelin1123 (15647)
• Puerto Rico
21 Jun 10
You are so right. They know who they can prey upon and who they can't.
@sid556 (31030)
• United States
21 Jun 10
Hi Srganesh, No man has the right to hit any woman for any reason. If a woman is being hit then she should protect herself and leave the marriage as soon as possible.
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@srganesh (6349)
• India
23 Jun 10
Yes! No woman is made a slave in the name of marriage and no man is given rights to hit his wife under the license of marriage. But we should not forget that ll the women shall have the courage to quit the marriage set up. So, how should she tackle a rough and tough husband within the set up?
@sid556 (31030)
• United States
24 Jun 10
Well, my husband was abusive. I did all I could to save the marriage but it only got worse. I left and raised my children on my own.
@vandana7 (45491)
• India
21 Jun 10
I think men hit when they go wrong, and dont want others to open their mouth. So best way to shut the mouths is beat up wife, sister, or daughter. There are men who hit their mothers as well. It took a lot of patience to change my papa. Life spent away. But they can be changed.
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@srganesh (6349)
• India
21 Jun 10
Yes, vandana! In more cases, men use violence as their last word. When they lose patience to explain things( especially when the fault is on their side), then they know hitting the girl will put a full stop for that problem for the time being. But they don't know that will not resolve anything.
@vandana7 (45491)
• India
21 Jun 10
May be mel. But mel, my papa has completely stopped beating me! Part of the fault was lack of communication channel, I used to be too busy in office, and too tired for any communication once I returned. I used to get irritated at slightest lapse in home and in process, my papa would react abusively making me all the more defiant. After I quit the job, I calmed down considerably. So such differences have come down considerably. May be, part of that anger was also due to my autocratic ways - a position in office spilling over at home. I am just trying to understand myself. I am sorry mel you are going through something like that.
• India
21 Jun 10
I personally believe no man or woman has right to hit others.There is no country in the world where beating/hitting others is legal. or there is no law in the world stated that man has right to hit his wife.
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@srganesh (6349)
• India
21 Jun 10
Yes! Nobody is allowed to hit others in any country's law. But this is going on inside many families and will not come into light until something serious happens. There are more divorce cases which has a base of the husband beating his wife in suspicion. Do you think that they are just to be treated psychologically or prisoned?
• Israel
22 Jun 10
I would never be with anyone that hit me or even threatened to hit me or my pets. I have a zero tolerance for violence. Children should never be hit either. There is no reason to hit a kid. Pets should never be hit. No reason to hit them. I never hit my horse. I got her to obey because she respected me.
• South Korea
21 Jun 10
I believe what ever is the reason or mistake of the wife...a true man never hits her wife... everything will not be changed hitting your wife... for you give more reason for your wife to think about why she got married to a man like that.. if ever it will happen to me... that will be the first and last time... coz i believe a woman like me deserves someones better..
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@srganesh (6349)
• India
21 Jun 10
But some girls are very meek to accept this brutality towards them. They think that nothing can be done with a husband like that and don't even complain. They are bound by a lot of social reasons. I am proud of you that you are not one among the crowd like that. I think you are a working person and that gives you this boldness. Am I right?
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
Hi Princess and Srganesh, I totally agree with you Princess. A man, no matter how a wife has wronged him, has no right to hit her and a real man at that is someone who would never put his wife in any danger much more be the cause of her sufferings. Like you, I will never allow my husband hit me in any way. I specifically told him that I will not take physical abuse silently. I will fight it in court if he does hit me just one time. Srganesh, in my opinion, a woman need not be a working individual to know what rights a husband should afford her and boldness does not come from the fact that she has a stable source of livelihood. I am not a working individual but I know my rights as a person. I am not perfect but neither is my husband. We are all of equal footings no matter what social standing we belong in.
@tatzkie23 (774)
• Philippines
21 Jan 12
This has been two years ago, but you see, i think that hitting your wife is not acceptable! if you love someone you would not want to hurt her! If my one hit me just one time, i would leave him. I don't care if he's sorry. But hitting me is way too unforgivable. Especially if there's no reason to do it, even with reason, i still leave him.
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@seemared (771)
21 Jan 12
What if he accidently did it out of his drink? wouldn't you forgive him?
@sagar21 (1583)
• India
21 Jun 10
hey there's a similar discussion Does a Man has right to beat his wife? http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2012724.aspx?p=1 no,I don't think so... thanks for sharing.... have a great day/night.....
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@srganesh (6349)
• India
23 Jun 10
sagar21! I am not aware of that discussion until you indicated. Just saw the link and than god, it was an year old and I think this can be discussed as a new one. From that discussion, I know that there are some women who think that they can be hurt like that. It is very disgusting.
@aquariand (467)
21 Jun 10
There is NO valid reason for a man to hit his wife ever, if he is hitting his wife then there is something wrong with relationship as there is no respect for his wife. I was in a relationship with a violent man and am now divorced i would never accept a man that hit me for any reason. If a problem cannot be resolved by talking then there is something sadly wrong, I have taught my son vever to hit a woman, even if she is screaming at him he should walk away. Once they have hit you and got away with it they will carry on hitting you and soner or later you will get hurt and if he hits the woman the children would likely to be next. This is wrong i would never put up with it.
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@srganesh (6349)
• India
23 Jun 10
aquarind! That is so nice of you to preach to your son like that. Yes, the younger generation will follow what they saw when they are kids. So, his father's behavior will surely have an impact on him and he might think that is not a fault at all to hit his wife. That should be corrected when young and you are doing a nice job.
@qisyaz (40)
• Singapore
21 Jun 10
No, no husband has the right to hit his wife for whatever reasons..problem should be solve through conversation..husband and wife need to respect each other and work through their problem through conversation or the help of professional..violent is never the answer
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@srganesh (6349)
• India
23 Jun 10
Yes! Violence cannot be a solution to any problem at all. If they cannot sit and have a conversation to see what is the actual problem, then they should see a professional, here a counselor, who shall resolve the issues between them. I agree that no husband has rights on his wife to hit.
@1hopefulman (9680)
• Canada
21 Jun 10
No, a husband does not have a right to hit his wife. It is a criminal act. Any religion that allows or advocates that a man can hit his wife should be denounced. Husbands should love their wives and not harm them. The world would be a better place if both men and women showed respect for one another.
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@srganesh (6349)
• India
23 Jun 10
Yes! There are some religions which grants the husbands, rights to beat their wife. that is different and a woman born in that religion will be well aware of what can she expect. Speaking in common, well, what you said is true. If man and woman can respect one another then heaven will be here.
@erikmama (12935)
• United States
21 Jun 10
Why does a man have the right to hit a woman just because they are married? NO a man NEVER has the right to hit a woman.I went through mental and physical abuse for 6 years,and allowed all of the things to happen to me.It wasnt right.I didnt fight back til the very end, and I tell you, a man better think twice about touching me again cuz I aint going.I might get whooped but I bet he wont hit me again.
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@srganesh (6349)
• India
23 Jun 10
You didn't fight back for 6 long years and how did you get out of that hell? Did he leave you or the world? I am sorry to hear that you have to be in a critical situation like that. But what held you up there? Is it your financial situation or you tolerate him for your kids. Why were you dump?
@Cutie18f (9566)
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
With or without any valid reason, a man has no right to hit his wife or any woman for that matter. That's abuse. Any man who does that to any woman should make a report and file a case against that person. Using one's force is never tolerated in any civilized society and hurting a woman using force is a crime. A man who does this should serve time in jail. Look what happened to Rihanna her boyfriend. That should serve as a lesson for all men.
@srganesh (6349)
• India
23 Jun 10
Does all the women have that courage to file a complaint like that to the police and do you think she will get all the support from even her family itself? There are police stations now run specially for women but are they utilized well according to you?
@adoremay (2069)
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
A man has no right to hurt me or the right over me.
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@srganesh (6349)
• India
23 Jun 10
That is one added point well. He has no rights over you too. He is not superior to you in any sense and hence he has no rights to ill treat you by hitting you for any reason. That is a valid point to this discussion which I welcome.
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
theres too many husband out there who just hit their wife as easy as like that. and of course its not because they are married it means he have all the right to do that. husband may think that they already owned their wife if they marry them and the wife will stay no matter what for the sake of the children or its because they have nowhere to go and that they cant find good job thats why they absorb their husband even if they hit them, but if the wife have the capacity to have work as she is educated or have degree then those are the only woman who have guts to leave their husband.
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@srganesh (6349)
• India
23 Jun 10
homeshoppers! You are exactly at the right point. Since most girls are not educated well and they don't know how to earn fro their living, they have to be dependent on their husbands and so the males took them for granted and ill treat them by hitting. A girl who has self pride and can walk out of him will not get treated like that.
@Ruby722 (798)
• China
21 Jun 10
course not man doesnt have the right hit his wife,
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@srganesh (6349)
• India
21 Jun 10
You are right. Man has no rights to hit his wife. But do you know that there are some women hitting their husbands? That is really worst than man hitting wife. Those henpecked husbands cannot say it as it may damage their image more. What is your comment on this?
@peace001 (727)
• China
21 Jun 10
there is no reason that a man can hit a woman,expecially she is one who you loves,everyone is special and unique in the world,your family belongs yours,and your wife can run the family well,so man should cherish his wife,and make her happy and then your family will run better
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@srganesh (6349)
• India
21 Jun 10
That is right. One has to cherish his wife so that she will nourish the whole family in turn. We are all human beings and we don't need the brutal way of punishments like hitting or any other form. After she is the lover and she should not be treated like a criminal.
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
A man doesn't have rights to hit his wife for whatsoever reasons he may have. That is against the law.
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@srganesh (6349)
• India
21 Jun 10
Agreed! But there are some women who accepts this as form of expressing love and they are more united after that incident. When the man wants to pacify her, she wins whatever she wants to have. This happens in rare cases where the hitting is not a usual thing but an emotional action.