some parents never learn at all.
By syankee525
@syankee525 (6261)
United States
June 28, 2010 6:54am CST
last night we found out our nephew put a gun to his head but lucky enough his dad had called him in time, and stopped him.
to feel you in about my nephew life. mom and dad had him out of wed lock. when he was growing up both parnets was to worry about trying to make each other look bad. so in the mix he was tought some bad ways. and then a few years ago he was in a bad car accident which his best friend was killed in. and my nephew almost died.
bothe parents and step parents sat there and cried and swore things would be different. the poor boy got brain damage so he's not all there at time.
to make things even worst a short time after coming home his wife left him. and now trying to keep his daughter away from him.
parents need to see when your kids are young and they see things you say and do, it teaches them. and even when they are older dont blame the kid, part goes to you as a parnet. and when they have medical issues you dont turn your back specaily with brain damage it suppose to make you more understaning to the outburst and learn how to deal with them
parents make no sence to me at time, i couldnt igmine turning my back or tossing my own kid out on the street
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8 responses
@nrab_11207 (174)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
hi kifndir :)
the problem is that, some parents don't even know they are until it is already there.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
6 Jul 10
I think that if this was the situation that either of my children was in, then I would do anything and everything in my power to help my child through the tough times in their lives. Based on the fact that you've mentioned the car accident that your nephew was involved in several years ago, I think that he really doesn't need to be left alone at all, especially during the rocky patches. His parents need to grow up and be there for him right now.
@ladysurvivor (4746)
• Malaysia
29 Jun 10
Hi,
I pray that your nephew gets help quick. It is sad to know how certain parents are not responsible enough in bringing up their children. My parents are the same too but I think nothing can be done now except that I have to learn to accept my fate. It is sad but what else to be done.
For your nephew maybe you can do something to help him if you think that his parents are of no use at all. Maybe you can bring him to meet someone who can really offer a helping hand, understanding and love. Good luck.
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
dear syankee,
filipino families are just so closeknit almost to the point of spoiling the kids. but of course parents now are much open minded.
i just get very disappointed at people especially parents for that matter who turn their backs on their kids .. more so when he is ailing. where is the compassion and the love?
ann
@candyfairy21 (2039)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
This is a nightmare. Words do have a big impact in everybody's life, Avery big big impact. We all must be careful with our words they can either build or damage a life. In this case there is more damage because of words that should have not been said. I feel sorry for your nephew for the hell his parents put him in but then also he has a choice that is to make things better for himself. I used to feel sorry for myself because of what relatives kept telling me about my family and about me, it did hurt but in the end I had a choice that is to make things better for me.
@lantisred (77)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
One of the tragedies of modern life.....
You are right, some don't learn at all. And after so many years and so many relationships still some won't learn at all
Being a wife or a husband is very much different than being a parent.
You can have a bad relationship with your wife or husband but still be a good parent for your child. Some parents don't even know that every single thing that is happening around a child affects the outcome of his thinking and his attitude. Yes, words do mean something, but what he sees, specially between his parents is what yields the best or worst in him. Environment is the biggest factor affecting children and yet some so called "grown-ups" doesn't have a clue at all. For example, even if you talk to your children about the bad things smoking does, but still he sees you do it, do you think he will not try to smoke? Walk the talk. If you want your child to be loving, show and make him feel love. Show him disrespect, anger, hatred, the worsts in life, and he will grow up hating everything. Prayers for your nephew my friend.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
This is a sad story, Syankee. I couldn't help feel sorry for that nephew of yours....
It made me look at my own situation. Husband and I have issues and sometimes I can feel that we are trying to do the same thing that your relatives did with each other. Tsk.... I am so silly I did not see this to be real... Must sacrifice more to avoid such thing to happened to my dear kids....
I, myself, will never turn my back on my kids. I may not be a perfect parent but I will always there for them whenever they need me and I will never say no to them...
I will toss myself out first before the they can make first step going out of our door...
@rosie230 (1696)
•
28 Jun 10
I could not toss my kids out on the street either, I am their Mother and I love them, and even if they were in trouble I would support them the best I could, because that is my role as their mother. All kids no matter what age they are do need their parents, and both of them. Your nephew sounds like he is going through some difficulties in life and pain. He really needs his family around him, to support him, and be there for him. What would have happened had his dad not called him? Would he have gone through with it? It is really sad that he can be so unhappy that he feels he needs to do this... I hope that he gets the help that he needs, and that nothing like this happens again.
