A friend is one who usually lets you down!
By barehugs
@barehugs (8973)
Canada
July 13, 2010 1:12pm CST
As I read the posts on myLot day after day, too many times I've noticed that Friends cannot be trusted. " Best Friends," are especially untrustworthy. Friends borrow money and won't pay it back! Friends steal your lovers. Friends tell lies about you, and Friends smear your reputation!
Yet in the midst of all this bad publicity, Best Friends remain wildly popular on myLot. It appears that very few myLotters can function without a (so called) Best Friend to lay their troubles on.
Isn't it about time we all grew up, and overcame this fallacy of Best Friends. Be wise and be our own Best Friend? ~ To your own-self be True!~
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8 responses
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
13 Jul 10
Don't trust anybody except yourself. Yes many so called friends or best friends as other called it but have different intentions. Maybe at the other side she/he will be your friend but within money matters don't trust anyone. I am already a victim of this issue that is why I never give my trust to all of my friends although some of your friends help you in any other aspects. I prepare to trust my pet than a human.
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@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
14 Jul 10
Its ok to put Some trust in a friend, but Never lend or borrow money from a friend, that would be fatal! If you sneeze, and don't have a handkerchief its ok to ask a friend for a Kleenex, but that's the limit. Generally speaking your dog is the only friend that you can really trust.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Jul 10
barehugs that is your experience and bitterness talking, and it is
not my experience at all. A friend to me is one who helps me and i help her or him, I have never had a real friend let me down because I keep only real friends, not the ones who are pretend friends. I function fine without son or best friend thank you very much bu t I love my best friend and my son and will not turn on them just because I can help myself as I need them to help me not go bananas in this stupid retirement center. He is a sane person to whom I can relate and so is my best friend Nelda too. they are my lifelines to the o utside world. Right now I a m coping with a roommate who is losing her memory and possibly her mind and its hard not to get upset with her but its not her fault at all. We all are trying to figure out what happened to her as two or three weeks ago she was just a alert and bright as I am then suddenly she cannot remember things.
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@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
14 Jul 10
My Dear Hatley; I am not bitter, and have never had a bad friendship experience. Its quite ok to help your fellows, and for them to help you in return. The trick is to never allow yourself to become dependent. Always keep the key to your life in your own pocket! Give of yourself from your heart, and do not expect anything in return. This is what we call,"Absolute Love." Absolute love demands nothing in return.
People who Love Absolutely, do not expect anything in return.They are just "So Happy," to have been a Good Friend!
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Jul 10
hi barehugs yes we should keep that key in our pocket, your absolute love is the same as my unconditional love, I first learned that when my hubby to be sat me down and told me I do not want you to change the color of your hair or try to be an extrovert , I love you unconditionally just as you are, a shy womand with beautiful caramel colored hair, do you love me as I am too, andI told him yes of course ,we accepted each other as we were, we did not want each other to change at all.this is absolute love too. My friend Nelda has the same thing with me.As a person who has always been a bit down on my self these two have made me feel sort of special. lol
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
14 Jul 10
Sometimes we can expect too much from a friend. A best friend is put in a different category. Rejection and disappointment come easily when expectations are set too high. This is a place where we usually put our friends. That is a way to be let down by them as well.
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@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
14 Jul 10
You have it Right!
If You never expect anything from a friend, that person will never disappoint. Its ok for you to be a Best friend, and give from your heart. Problems can arise when you expect the same from a friend. This is what we call," Building yourself up for a Big Letdown!"
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
14 Jul 10
Yeah, as far as I am concerned, I think I just can not agree with you that A friend is one who usually lets you down!AS for me, I think A friend is a person who usually gives you the most help and share s the most happiness and sorrows together. A friend is a person who usually cheer you up and give you the strongest support in your life!
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@ohiocy (214)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 10
You know, the way how you put things in order will have to be the most perfect idea that everyone can carry out if we were not human. We, by nature are a social animal which means no matter how much we trust ourselves, we still give the benefit of the doubt to the strangers around us so that we can actually experience something in reciprocal.Life is not worth the living if it ain't about learning the ways how life can always bring you down and yet you are able to actually pick yourself up after that.
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@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
16 Jul 10
Yeah, and I used to be a Mucket farmer! Had the loveliest field of Muckets you ever saw. The market was hot and I negotiated the best price ever! Seemed as if everybody wanted a fur-lined cover for their Thunder Jug! Harvest day arrived, and I was up early, and went out to the Mucket field, only to find that my Muckets had all flown away! Life really brought me down, and I never was able to pick myself up after that!
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
16 Jul 10
Your wife is supposed to be your best friend, am I right? Try this test to see if she really is -
Lock your wife and your dog in the trunk of your car and leave them, for about half an hour. Then open the trunk-
Your dog jumps out barking and loving you like crazy! Your wife can't wait to file for divorce!
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
13 Jul 10
Dogs are man's best friend, no doubt about it. You can trust a dog for ever, and it will never let you down. Once we had a farm dog who was never tied, and had the run of the place. One frosty morning My dad was on his way to the barn when he met the dog coming up the drive with a frozen roast of beef still stuck to the platter. The dog set the roast at Dads feet and wagged his tail. A neighbor was thawing the meat and had left a door open by mistake.
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@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
14 Jul 10
Yeah, as far as I am concerned, I think I just can not agree with you that A friend is one who usually lets you down!AS for me, I think A friend is a person who usually gives you the most help and share s the most happiness and sorrows together. A friend is a person who usually cheer you up and give you the strongest support in your life!
