Do men have to share the household works?

India
July 26, 2010 10:49pm CST
Men were the sole breadwinners of the families in olden days. Now things have changed and women also go to work and earn. Nowadays to maintain a decent standard of living both have to work and earn. Now it's not fair to expect women to do all the household works too.Men have to share the domestic works to some extent at least so that the women are not over burdened with works. Have men understood this? Or still they are living with their egos? In my opinion I see a lot of changes in men these days. What you have to say on this friend?
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45 responses
• India
27 Jul 10
Yeah, Few men have changed, but there are a lot more who wouldn't accept helping out their women as their responsibility. I mean when a women shows her responsibility towards the financial security of a family and shares the responsibility, it wouldn't hurt a man to help her out in the household responsibilities.
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• India
27 Jul 10
hi, keep_onwatch, I do agree that there are still men who don't share the household works with their women. But there is significant change.You must give men some more time, they will definitely change. I am sure women will be able to share the works with men equally in future.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
27 Jul 10
It's really an easy one to answer sweetie. Men can help with the household chores. They won't break a nail or something, i hope. It is only more than fair. If both work, both should handle and share the chores. TATA.
• India
28 Jul 10
hi, saphy, if both work, then the man must help the woman.I love helping my wife and two sons whenever there is an opportunity. It gives me a kinda of happiness and satisfaction. Sometimes I won't be able to help, they understand me on such occasions.TATA sweetie.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
28 Jul 10
Don't come to me with that if both work. Both live there so both will do the house chores.
• Malaysia
7 Aug 10
i agree with you saphrina (4581) have a nice day & happy myLotting
@Jotomy (6157)
• India
27 Jul 10
Hi anna, yes my husband will help me in all the work. If both will share in work that house will be a happy one.
• India
30 Jul 10
hi, jotomy, nice to hear you have a great hubby who helps you in your domestic work. I am so happy for you dear sister.
@Jotomy (6157)
• India
30 Jul 10
thanks anna
@vathsala30 (3726)
• India
27 Jul 10
Ofcourse, you are reasonable vijayanths. Indeed in these circumstances, men also should share some work and relieve the woman from being over burdened and fall sick earlier. I see so many women are aniemic or sick in so many ways due to this onus and lack of time to take care of themselves.
• India
28 Jul 10
hi, vathsala, thank God my wife is not anemic. Of course I see that she is not over burdened.
• India
28 Jul 10
That is very kind of you
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
27 Jul 10
Yes, yes, yes. Some Asian men still think they are the boss.
• India
27 Jul 10
jenny, I do agree that still Some Asian men think they are the boss.
• Malaysia
7 Aug 10
only some...not all
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
28 Jul 10
These days a lot more men are involved in household chores and child caring and so they should be, especially if the woman is working as well! If there is not a fair division of labour in the house there will eventually be a lot of the resentment from the overworked partner which is usually the woman. Nothing will make a person feel more unloved and uncared for than being overworked with no sign of appreciation. Thank goodness times have changed a bit although, in my opinion not enough!
• India
30 Jul 10
hi, paula, it's true that these days a lot more men are involved in household chores and child caring.Its also true that if there is not a fair division of labour in the house there will eventually be a lot of the resentment from the overworked partner. It's mostly the woman as you said.
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@Steinway (312)
• United States
28 Jul 10
I wish I could get my boyfreind to help me with the household chores. We went to visit his dad and stepmom, and they have a really nice and clean house. His stepmom is a manager in a convenience store and his dad works for a farm company. And, I asked her how she found time to keep the house clean. And she told me both her and husband do household chores to keep it looking the way it is. I just wished some of that thinking rubbed off on his son...lol
• India
30 Jul 10
hi, Steinway, I can understand your wish to get your boy friend involved in household works increased after visiting your boy friend's step mom. I think your boy friend would help you in such works soon.
• United States
27 Jul 10
I think men are evolving! I am a stay at home mom and on the weekends, my husband will still help out around the house! AND...he is a much better cook than I am! Men are changing...for the better!
• India
30 Jul 10
yes, janhillmann, even in India where men are supposed to be superior to women, men have changed a lot for the good.Now Indian men don't mind sharing the household works.They realize that working wife is truly overburdened.This is a good change.
@Galena (9124)
27 Jul 10
whoever lives in the house contributes to looking after the house. the shape of your genitals doesn't dictate what jobs in the house you should be doing.
• India
30 Jul 10
hi galena, that's a bit funny as well. yes, I do agree with you that whoever lives in the house should contribute to looking after the house.
@thesids (22453)
• Bhubaneswar, India
27 Jul 10
c'mon in countries like India and many others there is always the MCP. However, what you say is about change in the attitude and thinking of man is more true in cities where there is knowledge and work-load. In modern days, nuclear families, growth in the education level and the competition to earn more... makes us re-think and CHANGE. I am not that MCP sort of guy. I love my wife and feel that we both have a life together. The first step in making a marriage success is sharing... and when we think to share I believe we should share everything - including the work load. I feel happy when I do some cooking not just to surprise my wife but also help her do all other work. Unfortunately, this is not true in a major part of India and people (males) still are the way as they were ages back. We are too far from liberalization forget the women's lib.
• India
30 Jul 10
hi,thesids I fully agree with you that in a major part of India men still are the way as they were ages back. But in cities I find a lot of changes taking place. Men seem to respect working women. They share the household works too these days.
• India
27 Jul 10
HI vijayanths.... this is a nice discussion that you have started. my opinion is that all egos, male dominance had become old now a days. today men are giving equal importance to women. they share the household works too. in some family men used to look after household works and women used to earn, but they make a best living out of it. Men should share household works which will lead to a happy life.
• India
30 Jul 10
hi, balajee, nice to learn you liked my discussion.It's true that all egos, male dominance had become old now a days. Today men are giving equal importance to women. That is why they share the household works too. It's a good change, I would say.
• Pakistan
27 Jul 10
you are right dude. even if the woman is not the earning part, it doesn't matter, as if, at the end of the day she is taking care of your home, family kids etc. ego does not pay at all.
• India
30 Jul 10
hi,TruemanTheOne, you are right that even if the woman is not the earning part, it doesn't matter. After all she is taking care of the home, family kids etc. Ego should not be there at all as you rightly pointed out there.
@sunilpaul (173)
• India
27 Jul 10
Simple my friend...do you like the way some countries treat their women...like Taliban in Afghanistan ? Rather join in and do the daily household chores than live in a fictitious fantasy that "that is below my dignity"..I wouldn't mind even dish washing if it helps her...
• India
30 Jul 10
hi, sunil paul, I agree with you. Great to say ".I wouldn't mind even dish washing if it helps her...". Well said.
@monkeylong (3147)
• Guangzhou, China
27 Jul 10
AS far as I am concerned, I think it will be OK for me to share the household with my girl friend. As men should take some responsibility to ptotect our wonmen. So I think I will be ready to share some household with my girl friend ,and do some help to her. Let her have a good rest and live a happy life.
• India
30 Jul 10
hi, monkeylong,nice to note that you are sharing house hold works with your woman.That's really cool.yeah, you can let her have a good rest and live a happy life.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
hi vijayanths! well i guess men should share household works too. it won't take their manly gestures away from them if they help out in our homes right? with me, i find it cool and added factor for men who knows how to help around the house. i can consider it macho for a man who does household chores. it would be a sweet thing if a man does something for their love ones right?
• India
30 Jul 10
hi, skbh, you are absolutely right.It's true that it won't take their manly gestures away from them if they help out in their homes. If thy help sure women wuld love them more for that. You said it so beautifully.
@jinjer168 (1599)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
For me, Yes. Men have to share with the household works. This is because, woman needs help. It does not necessarily mean that when you're a mother in the family you will have to punish your self doing all the house hold chores after your work. House hold works should be divided so that responsibility among the family member will be shared. Its best for the children to be exposed in this kind of shared house hold works so that they will know the meaning of responsibility inside the home. Good night!
• India
30 Jul 10
well said, jinjer, you are right. children can also take part in household works to some extent. Of course Men have to share with the household works.
@jugsjugs (13045)
27 Jul 10
I do not work as i am unable to work and never will be able to work again due to not being well.My husband works every day and he has to still come home and cook the dinner aswell as house hold chores,so he has todo both.I used to work and so did he and i was the one that was doing both,the house work aswell as working nights and bringing up the children.
• India
30 Jul 10
Hi, jugsjugs, sorry to note you are not doing very well. You can definitely make money working at home. Internet is the best source of income. I am happy to note that you took care of both outside and inside house work before. Now your husband is doing it for you. good.
@lissa12p (99)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
A lot has changed over the years which includes seeing men working chores in the house :) I salute the modern men. They are more practical and open minded. My brothers help out at home and are most of the time better than I am specially when it comes to cooking or kitchen works. But there are still some that are so into being a "macho" or man of the house, and won't even wash their own coffee cups or pick up their dirty clothes :(
• India
30 Jul 10
very true lissa, modern man has changed a lot. That is because women have become joint bread winners of the families. Men realize that women are over burned with household works. They have to work at home after coming back from work. That is too tiring.
@syankee525 (6296)
• United States
27 Jul 10
yeah i would to share the house work with my wife. i do 90% of all house work then my wife. i always pitch in with the house work since i was married.
• India
29 Jul 10
hi, syankee525, I'm so glad to hear that from you.,??your wife must be very lucky as you do 90% of all house work.
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
I'm just wondering about you. Being an Asian, you have a broad understanding about women. Yes it's really unfair for us women; coming home from the job, our husbands just crouched in the sofa and don't even mind to wash the dishes. I'm a Filipina and well I could say that most of the time my husband does not have a penchant to help me with the household chores. Sometimes it irritates me but because he belongs to the culture of men who refuses to embrace the new generation of women, or let's just say making it an alibi because they're lazy. It's really hard for me because I wanted to work and to have a career but I'm anxious about the household chores because nobody in my home wanted to pitch in.
• India
29 Jul 10
hi, mercedlegurpa, thanks for the compliment. I guess the situation is the same in Philippines as in India. But In India men are changing a lot these days. Here both men and women work in many homes in cities. So they naturally have started to share the household works.