Single Again.....But Taken
@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
United States
August 9, 2010 6:52pm CST
At 1:30 today I was officially divorced. Bernie came to court with me. There was one couple ahead of us. My ex was a no show. I was relieved that the process went smoothly.
While waiting in the lobby for the court clerk to process the papers my ex showd up. He came over and asked where we had to go. I happily told him that we only had to wait for the paperwork because we were officially divorced. His look was one of bewilderment as he thought we were meeting the case manager. I repeated the statement that we were divorced and added, it is done, we are done.
The clerk called my name and I went inside to get my paperwork and advised her that "he" was in the lobby. She said she would make a copy for him. Bernie and I left the building and never looked back.
Done, divorced, single again....but taken. Now to get my name changed on all of my accounts. What a process....but worth it!
Live happy as you only live once. Big huggers to you all.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
10 Aug 10
That's what I say! Happy with my new love. Life is good.
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@Rainegurl (2156)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
It sounds like you are happy -- relieved. So I guess that is good news.
Congratulations to you 
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
10 Aug 10
Relieved is a good word for it!
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@GardenGerty (157555)
• United States
10 Aug 10
It is strange how some people are puzzled when things are finally finished. Why did he not come to court? I wish you all the best.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
10 Aug 10
I didn't even bother to ask him! I was relieved when it was over!
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@crysontherocks77 (1273)
• United States
10 Aug 10
I think it's great that you re not feeling depressed from this divorce that just happened. My mom and dad got divorced April 2008 and that was the only thing my dad had ever been on time for and actually he was a couple minutes early from what my mom said. She wasn't devistated. In fact by the time the whole process got started and end a few months later. She was very much delighted. Even changed her dates from being the anniversary date to being the divorced anniversary date. Which I was glad for her. We thought she should have divorced him a long time ago. She said stayed with for different reasons. Mostly because of us kids. But I'm 27 and my brother is 24/25 something like that. So, after we "left the roost" she still stayed. So I know she loved to some extent. She even says now that she cares about him him being the father of her children but that is about where it ends. For once I completely understand. He keeps asking her if she would ever do this or that with him again ( if you get my Drift). She keeps telling him no and says that she has something better but he never asks who it is. lol. I have a hard time associating with my dad and only talk to him because of mylittle girl. i want her to make the decision of whether to see him or not. I don't know who her dad is and he still gets on to me about that every once in a while. So, like I said there is a lot of anger issues and alot of issues between him and my mom. He asked me one time why she's not happy to see him. Like he had to ask right? well I don't know if you had kids, but I hope you are definately on the right track now reading your response it seems like this was the best move.
@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
11 Aug 10
Sounds like my relationship with my first ex. Life does go on though.
@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
11 Aug 10
I believe that everything happens for a reason and in its own time. Without having to have gone through all I did with my past relationships I would not have opened my eyes to the new one I have now.
@crysontherocks77 (1273)
• United States
11 Aug 10
well, he's still my dad and she understands that. but that doesn't mean she has to agree or like what he does and that goes for the same for me as well. you sound like your not regretful at all for it. I just wish my mom would have done it sooner. lol....
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@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
I am happy for you.Wishing for your happiness on the next relationship.Godbless...cheers!!!
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
10 Aug 10
I went through the process twice without any regrets. Good luck to you and many years of happiness.
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@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
10 Aug 10
I am happy for you, girl...CJ & I have moved on as well, that is, until the day his dad wants to truly be a family again. We're at my dad's over 1000 miles away. Everyone needs to be loved & respected. When the respect is gone then the love is sure to go soon after. His dad & I aren't getting divorced as of yet; just separated. I had just had enough with the unfounded, false accusations that was coming my way about seeing someone else. It actually made me very ill where I had to take antidepressants & blood pressure meds. When I'd finally had enough, CJ & I took off. I'm off all meds & actively seeking employment. We are both happier than we have been in several years & he starts school very soon; he's so excited. Good luck to you my friend in your new life & keep us in your thoughts & prayers as we will do the same.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
11 Aug 10
You did the right thing for you and your son. With God on your side you will be fine. Big huggers to you.
@crysontherocks77 (1273)
• United States
10 Aug 10
hon, sometimes love just isn't enough
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
10 Aug 10
Congraulations, hope everything works out for the best for u. U deserve some good luck after all u have been through.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
10 Aug 10
Congratulations! Time to turn your back on the past and move forward; it sounds as though you are doing just that, once your name is changed on everything you will feel even better. We have certain experiences in life to learn from and eventually we have to let them go so we can move on happier and wiser. All the best for you and your new relationship ElusiveButterfly!
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@ovung1978 (1)
• India
10 Aug 10
Its sad to hear that but i believe you had to choose this decision for your future,coz i know that when 2 people dont agree to stay together, its a living hell.And this moment not only you but many people are going thru the same in various parts of the world. I dont think you need to changed your profile .if you want to hide to change just change from your account settings or profile.In hai91.com you have to change from your account settings in facebook too you can change from account settings.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Aug 10
hi elusivebutterfly I am so glad its all over for you
and you did not have any horrid static from the ex.
You now deserve some real happiness. You and Bernie will
now have a great life together. After what you have been
through you sure need some happiness back in you life.
Of the process of getting one's name changed is a
hassle but well worth it as you say.
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@eleven1984 (62)
•
10 Aug 10
from your word, feel you are happy now
hope you can be still happy in the future
tomorrow is new day
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@juliusports (274)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
congratulations, what a relief. Do you have you r child with you?
