Do you get along with your family?

@Lore2009 (7378)
United States
August 17, 2010 6:04pm CST
I used to think my family was perfect when I was younger but after many life changes, I started to see the imperfections of my family. I realize how there is a lack of communication in my family and much resentment. How do you get along with your family?
9 responses
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
3 Sep 10
that was the case with my family before....but things changed after many years of being apart.... i guess we grew older, more mature, and speaking of the resentments, i'm okay witht he idea of reopening the subject to talk about it.... but on the other hand, maybe it's not that necessary...
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
8 Sep 10
It sounds like the solution is to be apart for a while. Thanks for your comment.
• Australia
21 Aug 10
5 fingers on a hand is also not the same let alone human beings. i mean in a family there is definitely gonna have some problem, depend on what kinds of problem you are facing, then you can find a solution. for you i think it is about communication, therefore spend more time talking to them, it mayb just that they no longer no who to turn to when they need help. for me communcation sometimes also have problem i may get angry, but then i will take a little time alone to cool off so that they would not be hurt by me when i flared up. and also i have a sister who will listen and we will discuss about methods to solving the problem. there won't be resentment in a family for long period and if you leave it there too long thinking time will solve it then you will be wrong. sometime solving the problem immediately will be good for you and your family.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
25 Aug 10
Thanks for the comment! You are right about the communication. But for me, right now, I don't know which is worse... to communicate or the situation.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
18 Aug 10
There is no magic about a family, it's full of people who can be very different from each other. If it's a large family there will most likely be all the unpleasent interactions that can go on within a group of people. Best to remember you don't choose your family members but you can choose your friends. Don't put a lot of energy into your extended family to solve the problems, the people involved have to solve them. Blessings
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
20 Aug 10
Yup everyone is very different in my family. I think I had this 'ideal' from when I was little and that is probably where the resentment comes from. That is where I need to learn to accept.
• China
18 Aug 10
Yes, most time we get along with each other. But some insignificant quarrels are still present in our family's life. Maybe all of us have a stubborn character. Even though, we love each other so much.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
20 Aug 10
Everybody is stubborn in my family too. That may be it! Haha.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
Yes, we get along well with my family. It has never been much fun being with my siblings now..and my parents don't comment when we go out every weekend. And sometimes we get together every Sunday at our place together with my sister's family..we just talk, watch movie at home and of cours...eaaatt.! Love my family..
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
20 Aug 10
That's great! Seems like there is a lot of communication and connection.
• United States
18 Aug 10
My family gets along great! We are not perfect, no family is. We do not have arguements and resentment. We love and respect each other. Our parents taught us love and respect and we carried that with us into adulthood and now teach our children that. I have 3 brothers and sisters and I can truly say there is no bickering or resentment. We are together often and enjoy each other's company. My parents have been married 52 years and they love they instilled in our hearts is still burning strong!
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
20 Aug 10
Wow, that's amazing! Hahah.
@snowy22315 (170010)
• United States
17 Aug 10
I get a long with them for the most part, but my dad gets on my nerves with his crtical remarks. i dont see them alot and that might be part of the reason that we usually get along.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
17 Aug 10
That is true! When I lived away from them, it was more peaceful. I hope I can move out soon. Thanks for the comment.
@garychie (157)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
Every family is imperfect. There is no such thing as a perfect life but even though there is imperfection, we should live our life and fill every moment with perfect memories. My family is not perfect as well. My parents always fight. My dad is a drunkard making my mom nag every single day but at the end of the day, we talk, we laugh, we are happy as if no problem. It is life, it is not perfect but we can enjoy it and make every moment perfect.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
20 Aug 10
Yup, there is not such thing as perfect, but to strive for it is a good thing.
• United States
17 Aug 10
I get along with my family. We are pretty disfunctional in reality but it is at least held at bay so that we can get along at functions and all. We are all very different and even though we disagree on various topics we have a good time when we do get together.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
20 Aug 10
That's nice! Seems like you guys know how to keep the balance. Maybe I just need to step away for a bit because we are always together! Hahha.