It's the Principle! (Invite vs. No Invite?) RSVP for Gods Sake!

United States
August 20, 2010 8:12am CST
My little guy is turning 5 this weekend and we're having a party for him. I sent out invites to friends and family and even gave him invites to give out to his friends from school & camp... My first question is why in heaven's name don't people RSVP when it's requested???!! This is so rude and inconsiderate! Out of 10 invites given to school/camp kids, only ONE responded! My second question is, would you invite more people just to have a full house/party even if you don't care for them? I ask because my son's dad thinks it's better to have a ton of people here, even if it means we have some here that we don't like, than to have a smaller gathering with only those who we like... He wants to include extended family (Gramma's husband's kids/grandkid) just so we have 3 additional children here to play with our son. He says we should invite them, even though the chances of them actually showing up are slim to none. Invite everyone, they won't show up, and we know we offered to include them. I say, you don't make a show of being nice just to say 'we offered' because then what happens when the DO show up?? You have to assume they WILL come! Then you have a house full of people you can't stand!! You don't invite people who you don't want to be there! I'm not going to invite people I don't like and we don't socialize with, who have monsters for children, to my home just so there's more bodies here. My point is quality/quantity. What do you think?? Sidenote: 25 guests have confirmed they will be here, including 6 of his little friends... so I think the party is more than large enough and will be more than sufficient to show him a good time. What do you think??
2 responses
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
23 Aug 10
I think that you are completely right in not wanting to invite additional people just so that you are able to have a full house. I know when my daughter turned six we decided to do a birthday party at our house and she invited her entire classroom full of kids. There were only two that showed up. However, because of the fact that no one RSVP'd, we bought way too much food, etc. I wish that people would extend the common courtesy of RSVPing, but it seems that people just don't understand that these days.
• United States
25 Aug 10
Good morning, Thanks for your reponse! Well, we usually go way overboard with food too, but this time, it was perfect. I was happy to see his little friends here, I was relieved not to have to deal with children/adults that I don't care for, and everyone had a great day.
@pastigger (618)
• United States
20 Aug 10
I agree with you why invite people who could ruin the day if they do come. It is your sons birthday and should have nice children there. 6 Friends is more than enough for his age. I don't know when peopled started having to the common courtsy to RSVP. It is just one more thing lost. It sounds if you already have a full house and don't need more bodies there to take up room. I hope you have a nice time and your son enjoys his birthday. It is hard with such blended familys these day but it comes down to 3 additional children are not needed and your son should have his friends and children he likes there.
• United States
25 Aug 10
Good Morning, Thank you for your response. We had a very nice day; everyone who was invited and said they'd be there did show up. And my son did have a very good birthday, which is what it's all about! I'm glad I didn't cave and invite more people just to have 'more people'. Thanks again!