do you have any enemies on mylot?

United States
August 20, 2010 3:54pm CST
Well do you? I wouldn't necessarily say enemies, but people who you would rather not comment to your discussion! I have about four of them so far! Not fun! Some mylotters are truly being what i like to call being mean/rude in a nice way. I hate it! But I know mylot is all for people sharing their opinions so you can't unfortuntely block people from commenting on your discussion. but what do you think? do you have any people you would rather NOT comment on your discussions? or is everything happy go lucky with your experience here??
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@mysdianait (65127)
• Italy
20 Aug 10
Enemies? That's a big word. Probably or then again probably not. It doesn't bother me one way or the other and I welcome amyone and everyone on my discussions. The more the merrier. I think that when we post a topic or a response or a comment there will always be someone who will misunderstand what we wrote. Maybe they are in a hurry, maybe they read something more or less serious into a response thgat was supposed to be humourous or even sarcastic. Some will understand but some will not and then they might not like us appearing on their discussions. I have no-one at all that I don't want to see on mine, well not yet
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• United States
20 Aug 10
ty!
@mysdianait (65127)
• Italy
20 Aug 10
yw!
• India
21 Aug 10
lols, Diana, ..when you were after me, reading all my older posts of over 3 years, and referring to them, some 3 months back, I thought you were considering me an enemy, out of some of my odd comment here and there. lols... now, I am glad to read that you have no-one at all. and, why did you add that ... not yet? ..
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@Angelgirl16 (2175)
• United States
21 Aug 10
Hi K, Listen, we all write discussions and comment on other people"s work. That is what Mylot is all about. You have the right to write whatever is allowed here on Mylot's site, but if you think that people are going to comment the way you expect them to, you will be letting yourself in for deep disappointment. The key to being successful here, in my opinion, is to understand that what you write about is here for everyone who wish to comment on, whether their comments are good ones or not so good one. If the comments are not what you want to hear, accept them and move on. No one here is your enemy, I wouldn't think of it that way. They just have their own opinion about what you wrote, that's all. There are over two-hundred thousand members here, if I read correctly, surely not all of them are going to like are dislike the work of others. Enjoy what you are doing and don't get caught up in messy mess.
@mysdianait (65127)
• Italy
21 Aug 10
Great points that you make there It is just like offline, we can't please everyone all the time - and is there really any point in trying just as long as we are within what is allowed?
• United States
22 Aug 10
i understand what you mean angelgirl! thanks for sharing
• United States
23 Aug 10
Hi, I think as long as we are enjoying Mylot we should remain here, but if it gets to crazy we can always take a break. I think if we just do whant we came here to do, which is to make a little money, and forget the rest, we will survive.
@Graceekwenx (3163)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
i couldnt really say he is an enemy nor can i say that i am such a bad sport. I just dont like it if people would pick on a religion especially for Catholics. Every now and then, i would see topics here that would insult catholics and since this is religion, you can damn well say that it is a sensitive one. If you cant say anything nice here in the internet, might as well shut up!
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@Hatley (164357)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Aug 10
Grace if someone really insults you for being a Catholic you can and should report them. we are su pposed t o be good to 'each other here. I may be a protestant but I have friends in lots of other religions here too and I respect their beliefs as they also respect mine.
• United States
22 Aug 10
hey grace, i agree w/ haley. report rude people! lets make mylot a lot better! thanks for sharing guys!!
@chrislotz (8203)
• Canada
14 Aug 11
I don't have any enemies on mylot anymore. I used to though. I had one girl, I don't even know where she came from, that started commenting on my discussions and on all my responses I made on other discussions, nasty stuff. I noticed her one day saying some nasty stuff to me and my first thought was, where did this girl come from and what did I do (say) that got her mad at me. So I went back to my recent discussions and responses, from my profile page, and couldn't find where or why I got her mad at me, but she also went to my profile page and commented nastu stuff on my responses to other discussions. She called me all kinds of names and how if she could find out who I was she would come find me and beat me up, stuff like that. She was telling other members here, on my responses, that I was all kinds of things. She made me into a very bad person. I asked her why, she wouldn't tell me, I asked her to leave me alone, she said she would haunt me for the rest of my life here in mylot. This went on for about 3 days so I started reporting her responses to mylot as abuse and after about 20 complaints and a week, mylot finally checked it out and got rid of her and all of her responses and comments so no one else could read them. That lasted about a week and then she showed up again as a different person. How did I know it was her, she told me. She said no matter how many times mylot got rid of her profile she would just open another one and haunt me. So again I reported her to mylot and again they got rid of her, but this time mylot sent me an email telling me she won't be able to come back because they blocked her IP address. I guess she could still come back, just has to open an account with some elses computer, but so far she hasn't and it's been about 6 months so hoepfully she has given up on me.
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@oindy54 (3446)
• India
25 Aug 11
Shocking to hear of such a troll.You have had almost a nerve-wrecking experience!Good riddance with that person!
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@Aaleexix (2291)
• India
21 Aug 10
I myself great enemy here in mylot. I myself my enemy because I am unable to cast myself with the environment of this site. I myself my enemy because I unable to understand the rule and guidelines properly and mistakenly break the rules and annoyed other people. And if any other figures out my fault and reports feel angry with them. I myself my enemy because I am unable respect the sentiment of other people and hart other people with rude word. I myself my enemy because I have wrong estimation on myself. I myself my enemy because I have wrong idea on my quality and in superlative complex think myself right and other people wrong. I know that I myself is my great enemy. So I fight with myself. I think if I can dominate my enemy that hidden in me than I think no other outer enemy can do any harm of me.
• United States
22 Aug 10
i completely understand! thanks for sharing!
• United States
21 Aug 10
I fortunately in the two in half months I have been on here have yet to get any negative responses. But I tend to do a lot of reading on others responses and do notices a lot of animosity here and there. What I basically do is completely ignore discussions of this sort as the way I see it I have plenty of crap in my life to be dealing with anything like that on any site, when it is indeed my choice.
• United States
22 Aug 10
not a bad idea. i'll try to to just ignore certain people. thanks for sharing!
@chickabee (119)
• United States
21 Aug 10
I know what you mean. I have been told all my life that the two subjects that can get people hot under the collar are religion and politics. I don't like to argue or even debate. However, when it comes to my Christian faith I will not hesitate to tell anyone, especially if they ask a question, my opinion and my beliefs and what I consider to be the truth. I have had a few myLotters be very rude to me and other Christians here, even to the point of calling us names. We take care not to do that back to them and try to be courteous. I am willing to answer any question about Christianity, God, the Bible, Jesus, etc. but I will always tell the truth as I know it and will not sugarcoat anything. I don't want enemies. I hope myLot is a place where everyone can express themselves.
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• United States
22 Aug 10
I completely agree! thanks for sharing!
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
25 Aug 11
I do not have any enemies so to say at Mylot but there is one person whose comments and responses I find pretty sarcastic.It seems as if he can never say anything except in a roundabout and pinching manner.He behaves like an authority here and that is what I dislike.I would be happier if he did not comment on my discussions.He reported one of my discussions and it was deleted as it was a repeat post according to him.However it was not since I had expressed my personal opinion in that post though the heading might be the same as another post.However what annoys me is that he fails to see that there are thousands of discussions coming up everyday dealing with the same topic.He does not realize that he cannot control all the interest categories and every discussion here.In fact just now a post similar to the post that I had created,has been started by another member here.I hope he will now see that and report too!Or else I will know that he is blind!
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• Philippines
14 Aug 11
I love everyone who responds to my discussions, that means that they took their time to read the discussion and answer them. Even if it is BS or not, the fact that they answered is what matters to me. I'm just new here in MyLot but I can safely say that most of the people here are friendly, although there are some people who prefers to be with themselves, I just let them be.
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@sid556 (31000)
• United States
29 Aug 10
Hi Keshia, Nice name. That is my niece's name. I can't think of anyone that I would have a problem with if they posted under my discussions even if their opinions and views differed very much from my own. I do know of a couple of people who probably wish I would leave their discussions alone though.
• United States
30 Aug 10
lol. their lost! thanks for sharing!
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@sid556 (31000)
• United States
31 Aug 10
Oh no...not their loss at all...just ask them.
• United States
31 Aug 10
lol!
• India
21 Aug 10
From my side, NO.. I DON'T have any one. but, I cannot assure you that I am not on anyone else's list of enemies. there is my dirty tongue, which often causes the whip-lash. and, sometimes, I don't know how to react to a situation, and just rant. This has caused me quite a loss on my rating. I am a RED STAR.. as you observe. I think a lot, and envy a lot about the blue blood. I always want people to come and comment in my topics and responses, so, there is no point in wanting someone not comment in the discussions. NICE idea to provoke people. :o)
@mysdianait (65127)
• Italy
21 Aug 10
How can you/we be certain that we don't have any? We can hope surely but can we ever be sure? They are not likely to land on our discussions telling us that they can't stand us are they? Oh I left a comment to your other comment too
• United States
22 Aug 10
none of us can be to sure. a lot of us are quick with the tongue. I know I am at times. but anyway thanks for sharing consultrainer!
• India
23 Aug 10
keshia and mysdiana, .. i am honored to have your comments back. thanks .. I love to be with you all.
• United States
20 Aug 10
I don't have anyone like that so far...but I think I am that person for someone else. I have someone who I do not respond to her discussions because I know I am no longer welcome...I don't know what I did or said to upset her. All I know for sure is that I am far more upset over it than she will ever be. If she sees this, she should just know that I welcome the chance to reconcile.
• United States
20 Aug 10
well thats great that you are willing to solve the differences between you too. hope it works out for you. i'm not sure if i'm a problem for any mylotters. but like i said. i have a problem w/ a few mylotters. but anyway thanks for sharing!!
• United States
20 Aug 10
no problem...honestly...I'm not sure how big the problem is now. I might be over-thinking it a bit...the timing of my response was a little uncanny. I'm hopeful that it works out okay...but I guess time will tell :)
• United States
20 Aug 10
you're right! time well tell! thanks again!
@minx267 (14738)
• Hartford, Connecticut
22 Aug 10
LOL. I know exactly what you mean. I have at least one I can think of off the top of my head. I will not respond to this persons discussions and I hope they never comment on mine. Some people Are just very ignorant but think they know it all and that really annoys me. Don't come here and start a discussion and then tell everyone that comments that they are wrong in their opinion or even if they provide a link with facts.. this person will not admit to being wrong or that there could be another answer that is perfectly acceptable.
• United States
22 Aug 10
crazy right? anyway thanks for sharing!
@minx267 (14738)
• Hartford, Connecticut
22 Aug 10
Yea, really crazy, I read whatever they wrote and I want to pull my hair out. not only for the misinformation but the person makes up words and yells at others for using "big words". FYI yelling at someone whose English is a 2nd language when You are from America where it is you first, And telling them their words are too big.. Does NOT look too well for your intelligence.
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
I believe I do not have enemies here. Never had an argument too. If I think that my answer would somehow make someone mad, or if my answer is somehow sensitive. I always write that it is purely my opinion, that I do not intend any harm on others, that I completely respect there opinions too.
• United States
22 Aug 10
thats great. if we all respect every mylotters opinions, mylot would be a happy place. right? anyway thanks for sharing!
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
I totally agree. We all have our own opinions. And we are different people. It would be really nice if we respect each other.
@inu1711 (5288)
• Romania
21 Aug 10
I don't think I have enemies on myLot. In fact, I like to beleive I don't have enemies at all. I'm glad for every comment on my discussions, and I try to respond politely to all of them, even if some are agains my beliefs. You should do the same, even if some users are being mean , respond politely and let everyone else decide who's the rude person in there.
• United States
22 Aug 10
you're right. i will just have to start ignoring certain people! thanks for sharing!
@inu1711 (5288)
• Romania
23 Aug 10
You know, there is an old saying: if you can't beat your enemies, join them. Maybe this help you in any way...
@LittleMel (14053)
• Canada
31 Aug 10
Well not everything is happy go lucky here for me. but after 4 years I get used to it and doesn't bother me LOL in real life I guess I am fortunate to have a supportive husband and good friends for many years, so if I don't enjoy it on mylot, I always have someone to turn to. therefore if my discussions never get many responses or anything like that, I never get upset about it. I can see why it upsets other people, because if you reply to someone's discussion, it's normal that you expect them to respond to yours. But I have met quite a few of unreliable and unsupportive 'friends' so I don't expect much from friends on here either. I have been a member for 4 years but you can see from number of my posts, that I don't get on here often. I used to be here every day, but that was before things picked up in my life since 2008.
• United States
31 Aug 10
thats great to hear you have a supportive family. good! when things go wrong, you'll always have somebody to turn to. but thanks for your comment! good day!
@youless (96909)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Aug 10
I notice that many people responded to your this discussion:) Actually I don't know whether I have any enemies in Mylot. I don't think so:) Perhaps there may be some people who don't like me, but I don't think that we are enemies. Enemy is a strong word. I also won't think the people who don't respond to my discussions are rude or they are my enemies. After all, sometimes we just have no idea what to say to some discussions. It's OK and I can understand it. I think I have more good friends here:) I love China
• United States
30 Aug 10
thats great to hear you have more good friends here. thanks for sharing!
@ifa225 (11097)
• Indonesia
27 Aug 10
i don't take my lot seriously just like in my real life. if someone takes me as his/her enemy it is ok for me. but the matter is i don't take them as an enemy, maybe just unfriendly
• United States
28 Aug 10
i understand, thanks for sharing!
@MsTickle (25058)
• Australia
27 Aug 10
I don't have a problem with anyone answering mine but there was a user a while back who was on my friend list and I'm sure there were two people sometimes using the one account because of variations in the writings. One of them felt so sorry for herself and was always complaining in posts that were very similar to former things she had posted about her boss, her job, her work colleagues, her old boyfriend, money or lack of it, travelling to work. She constantly whined in posts about lost love and others including me encouraged her to be more positive, less negative but nothing changed. She made dozens of posts about her former relationship and I just knew the reason the guy left her was cos she is such a pain in the a$$. Her posts were often contradictory too which was really annoying. I had to turn off her alert and eventually I crossed her off my friend list.
• United States
28 Aug 10
i would have done the same. thanks for sharing!
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@nangisha (3504)
• Indonesia
26 Aug 10
Hi Keshia2007r!. I think people who never response to my discussion doesn't mean they are your enemy maybe they just don't like the subject of the discussion. I think I don't have enemy here but I had one or few member rated me negatively and I lost my blue star . I think we can not guest what on others mind or my word has offend them, I always try to polite but I don't know whats others perception. Nice discussion and Have a nice day.
• United States
26 Aug 10
i understand. but i was not suggesting that. i was referring to the fact that i rather not have a couple mylotters comment on my discussions. because i would rather that they did not. but anyway they do help me reach payout lol. so i'll use them! thanks for sharing!