Should I advice my colleague?

Vietnam
August 28, 2010 2:22am CST
My colleagues (boy) had wife. But his wife is quite ugly. Now he like accountant in my company. Maybe she loves him, too. I feel poor his wife. I want to advice him stop. How do you think?
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7 responses
@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
28 Aug 10
I think you can't really do anything about it, unless of course the colleague doesn't know that your friend is married - if so, you can tell her. I don't think you can help their relationship either unless you'd like to be in a lot of mess. But it's sad really, if you're witnessing someone cheating their wife. Whew.
• Vietnam
28 Aug 10
Yes, you're right. But you know, when we work with them in the same office, It's uncomfortable.
@meemingNEW (2228)
• Philippines
28 Aug 10
If I were in your shoes, I would really feel so uncomfortable.. more of feeling guilty about it. I mean, who wouldn't want to be in the position of a wife whose husband is getting too close for comfort with a colleague. Why can't some guys resist temptations of someone more beautiful than your woman or your wife? Anyway, If I were in your shoes, I would talk to your colleague , the one who's married if they have something going with the accountant. I mean, whats the deal with you and the accountant. Even confronting your colleague is even uncomfortable.. Tsk. Here's what I'll say to him. but I'll approach him as lightly, calmly as possible.. "you're a married man buddy. and you have a wife. doing it with the accountant is wrong and you know that. but if you really stick to it, don't be unfair to your wife. or don't wait for the time that she'll find out for herself. tell her the truth so avoid trouble. it may cause you your marriage but you would not want the possibility that your wife could confront the girl herself in the office. it would cause more trouble and humiliation. and could even cause both your jobs. So to cut it short, be careful. I sure want to tell him to stop. But I don't wanna be in the middle. He's mature enough to take responsibility for his actions. I'll just remind it to him again . It, meaning his status and what could happen if he continues his dirty little secrets.
• Portugal
28 Aug 10
you must talk with your friend and tell him that if he doesnt love his wife anymore he must tell her or he might cheat on her soon with that accountant. your friend must be honest. is not his fault if he fell in love for other woman but he must tell to his wife. if he doesnt then he is acting wrong with her :( and thats not fair to her. she loves him so the best he can do is be honest.
@voldrox (7204)
• India
28 Aug 10
Hello, If you are doing something on your own, you would be getting into trouble, so better we careful. It is sad there is very less that can be done. It is sad to see someone cheating their wife, he should be shameful of it, but he won't realize that fact. It's a shame when people do such things. He might be flirting with that girl and maybe she doesn't know that he is married. I just hope somehow she gets to know she is falling for the wrong person.
@mlhervas (482)
• Philippines
28 Aug 10
If you are closely related to this person (the husband) then by all means tell him that what he is doing is not right. No matter how what are the physically differences of his wife and that other girl he should still have to stop. He married his wife right. Ask him why? If it's for money then let him be, he will still loose his marriage in the end. But if he married his wife at the first place because of love then he should try his best to save that marriage.
@atv818 (1988)
• United Arab Emirates
28 Aug 10
Be careful in giving unsolicited advice. Most of the time, this is not welcome especially by those who are doing something not legal whether it is of marital nature or not. I don't want to think negatively. Let me just inform you that you should be prepared of the outcome regardless if it is good or bad. Before you undergo such action, pray to God for guidance and assistance. I wish you well! Good luck!
@ravend (661)
• Malta
28 Aug 10
If you ever have a chance... do drop a hint(indirectly) that he has a wife.Be smart. don't make it too obvious that you're mentioning his wife on purpose to let the accountant know that he's married. Than its up to the accountant. It's really really sad when marriages fail cos of this reason.