I want to know, if a man really loves his wife, why would he kiss at his ex?
By cream97
@cream97 (29087)
United States
August 28, 2010 11:29am CST
My ex-boyfriend said "MUAH", to me in a chat. He is claiming his love and devotion to his wife after this. I don't understand why would a man kiss at his ex-girlfriend when he is currently married.
I feel bad for his wife, because he really does not love her like he says that he does. If he did, he would never have smooched at me with his lips. If he loves his wife, I would not believe him at all! He is a liar! I will not tell his wife about what he did to me. How will she ever find out that her so loving husband, kissed at me in a chat? If I don't tell her, then the case of bad Karma will catch up with him, no doubt! She is bound to find out that her honest husband is practically a natural born liar!
I feel bad for his wife, because he really does not love her like he says that he does. If he did, he would never have smooched at me with his lips. If he loves his wife, I would not believe him at all! He is a liar! I will not tell his wife about what he did to me. How will she ever find out that her so loving husband, kissed at me in a chat? If I don't tell her, then the case of bad Karma will catch up with him, no doubt! She is bound to find out that her honest husband is practically a natural born liar!2 people like this
9 responses
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
29 Aug 10
Hi Cream,
obviously, he is not as madly in love with his wife as he claims to be. I saw some of the other responses and I get it that it was over the net and not physical. Still I don't agree that it is "nothing". If he were my husband, I'd be furious if I caught on to something like that. Every physical act starts out with a thought and from where I sit, he was sending you some pretty big thoughts. If I were you, I would avoid him and be very grateful that you are his ex and not his wife.
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@celticeagle (159400)
• Boise, Idaho
30 Aug 10
Men don't think like woman. Woman think with their emotions. Alot of men think with.......well, you know. Men go with how they are feeling at the minute and unless they have had some good bringing up they will do as they please and whatever they are 'in the minute'. Bad Karma? You bet. And few take lying seriously.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
29 Aug 10
Hmmm... Like you, I thought that way, until I realized "It's all in the mind". You see, men just tend to do that, no reason at all, most women do that as well when we say "I miss you" to our friends or when people ask "How are you?" without even really listening to the answer.
I come across that fact when a good friend of mine who is already married typed a lot of "mwah" and other friends did the same. It wasn't really a kiss, it was just like saying "take care".
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@juggerogre (1653)
• Philippines
28 Aug 10
If my understanding is correct it only happened while you are chatting right? And that "MUAH" might just be a kiss in the cheeks or just a simple flying kiss. So I don't see anything wrong with it. It can just be a friendly kiss. How can you tell that he don't really love his wife by just a kiss in the chat?
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
29 Aug 10
Hi, juggerogre. Because before he said, "MUAH". He asked me what if he came where I was at, and kissed me like he used to, hold me like he used to and ?????? like he used to. He said this statement to me. So if he was so in love with his wife, he would have never brought up our intimate past right up on the chat.
@cajimenez (452)
• Philippines
28 Aug 10
It was only a friendly gestures. It doesn't mean a thing to him. People do that in a chat.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
28 Aug 10
Hi, cajimenez. And you really think that it is a friendly gesture as he is married and I was his ex girlfriend? This makes it okay then?? I don't think that it does. If I was his sister or cousin, it would then be classified as being a friendly gesture then.
@cajimenez (452)
• Philippines
29 Aug 10
It's up to you, if you think he's flirting with you. Maybe you should try to keep your distance from him.
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@lizdr28 (3)
• United States
29 Aug 10
If this was on a chat, then it means nothing!!! Yes, if his wife was to find out he kiss at u on a chat, she will b upset for sure, just for the fact that it was an ex girlfriend! But it sounds to me like u want it to mean something! Do u still have feelings for this man? Just by u saying that u feel bad for his wife, just for that is not a reason! I would b concern if he was kissing his ex physically!!!! You can go base on just that, he loves her enough that made her his wife!!! That don't meant he don't love her!!!! I would be careful if I was you, u could end up with ur feelings hurt!
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
29 Aug 10
Hi, lizdr28. I have closed any love that I have for him up. I no longer love him like I used to. He is a liar and he does not deserve his love. I don't want it to mean something. It is what it is! He has feelings for me, there is no denying it. I don't have to be careful, because I have deleted him completely from my facebook friend list.. Everything about him is gone. I have also delete him from my heart too.
@lizdr28 (3)
• United States
29 Aug 10
Well that's good to hear that u have deleted him from your heart too! Us women tend to b more passionate and thats why we get in trouble sometimes by thinking about the what ifs, If he is a liar "u must have ur reasons to say that" then ur doing the right thing by staying away from that mess! Good luck!!!
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
29 Aug 10
Thank you! It took so much from me, to tell myself that I have to let him go. He has abused my love for him over and over and over again. Until,, I just can't take anymore. It is like my heart can't take anymore of him. I have to be smart and leave him alone. He has played too many games. There are many things that I have not still understood about him yet. I am tired of trying to find out. He know what he has done wrong and for that, I am just moving on to someone that is not going to waste my time.
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
28 Aug 10
Its all in the mind. Just throwing a flying kiss in air or on chat will not make a bug deal. It actually matters what happens next or what action does he take. Socializing will not harm a relation. i dont think his wife will also mind if she comes to know about this. i think she will only mind if he has physically kissed someone.
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
29 Aug 10
Well....you have given the right example. Yes i agree with you that she would feel unlove with this act. M sorry for thinking in that manner.
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@sweetloveforeve (13106)
• Portugal
29 Aug 10
ohh cream but he said muah in a chat? well i always say muah to my friends and is a kiss on cheek like that. if was just a kiss he sent maybe his intention wasnt that you thought. also you said he says he loves his wife right? so if he wanted something with you or flirt with you he would say he still has feelings for you and not say he loves his wife isnt? did he say something about love or care for you? if he didnt then maybe that kiss was a friend kiss and you just took the wrong way.
@Sha033 (29)
• United States
30 Aug 10
I don't know why he would kiss at his ex, but it could have been just a friendly gesture. If he takes it any further than that then it's a different story. If it bothers you that much maybe you should let him know that you don't feel uncomfortable with him doing that and see what his response is. But that doesn't mean he doesn't love his wife just because he smooched at you. Maybe he's just trying to play some kind of game with your head. And if you are concerned about his wife's feelings maybe you shouldn't be talking to him anyway, especially if he's talking to you behind her back.
