How to end an argument with our child?

@pogi253 (1587)
Philippines
September 1, 2010 11:09am CST
As a parent, it is a challenge to keep our cool and say the right thing during the height of disagreement with our child. Can you give suggestions on ending an arguments with our child?
4 responses
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
1 Sep 10
Hi, In the first place, stay cool and let yourself calm down in order to sort out the arguments. Both parties really need to cool down before sitting down and have a good chat over the main problem. As a parent,it is best not to argue with your own children. Try to listen to their explanation and then give them the best advices based on your judgement and experiences,of course, our children might have their own thinking and may not listen to your advices...that is fine, if they determine to do on their own way..let them do it and if there is a problem occured, then they may have to solve it themselves.
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
14 Sep 10
In my opinion, it really, really depends on the age of the child. My children are just seven and three years old, so in a certain sense I still have complete control over my children. So whenever there is conflict between my self and them at this point in their lives, I think that I'm able to end the argument by telling them that I am the parent and I said so. However, I think that it is going to have to have a much more diplomatic approach when they are older.
@gicolet (1704)
• United States
2 Sep 10
It depends upon what you're arguing about. If it's something the child did as utterly wrong then I won't finish an argument until I make sure that I'm understood that it's not going to happen again. Now if it's something that the child question about what the parent did and the child sees it as wrong then I won't stop also until I get my point across. Children sees what they see with their ignorant thoughts and that's why we need to stand up more as a parent than as a friend to them to make sure they understand what's right and wrong until they're old enough to figure it out themselves. Leaving an argument unfinished is not a good thing for me as children can hold grudges toward parents. We as parents should never give up no matter how tough it is to deal with. Before I end up an argument with any of my children I make it a point first to let them know what the problem and consequences are about and solution can be thought about by both parties the next day or so. It needs to be talked about until it's settled and at least before dinner the next day. It shouldn't last longer than that.
@kquiming (2999)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
me being the first to shut up usually works for my 6 year old.