I hate it when my daughter is away

@jugsjugs (13045)
September 7, 2010 6:36pm CST
My oldest daughter is 18 years old and her boy friend lives miles away.Normally she would go and see him one week for a few days and then she would come back,then the following, time he would come here to spend time down this end with him.She had been on holiday with him and his parents for a week and then she stayed at his for nearly a week aswell.Two weeks of not seeing her was horrid,even though we chatted on the phone,i still wanted her this end with me.
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@jasmeena (850)
• Indonesia
8 Sep 10
I agree with the opinion that if your daughter is still unmarried, she shouldn`t be allowed to stay at her BF house. Go out is fine, but not stay. I can understand how you miss your daughter. My mom has two daughters:My eldest sister and me. My sister is already married with one son, and still lives with us, but for weekend she goes out to her mom-in-law`s house.I am single, but I rarely stay at home because I work. My mom sometimes feel lonely too, expecially our house is too big for all of us.
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@babyEj (1525)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
I do understand the feeling. In our culture we can't just let our daughter or son stayed with their boyfriend or girlfriend. However, in your case, is she the only daughter you have? If that's the case it is really difficult. Just wish her she's in good health and group of people.
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Welcome to the reality of letting go against parenthood ,Jugs.:) Whether we like it or not, we have to let go of our kids sooner or later.... Sigh... that's the day I dread not happened when my kids are old enough to take care of themselves... But, hey, cheer up, dear.She'll be back and she won't be gone for too long. I'm pretty sure she does miss you, too. Only she has a life of her own now. Just be prepared for the inevitable, dear. No matter what and wherever our children go, we will always be their parents. :)
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8 Sep 10
I know your feeling.I am not a father,but I have a lovely nephew who is 2 years old. I haven't seen him for two years and I miss him even if I can hear him on the mobilephone and see his photograph.
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@akn1961 (1035)
• India
8 Sep 10
You love your daughter very much ,i have got two daughers they are living in hostel which is 300 miles away from my house ,i love them ,but for me their happiness is bigger then mine ,if they are happy i am happy ,if they are unhappy i am unhappy ,the whole problems are lying with our expectations ,if we do not expect ,and give happiness to others ,problems will be no more ,let your daughter enjoy her life ,find happiness in their happiness ,i know it is very simple to say then to implement ,thanks for sharing.
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@carolscash (9502)
• United States
8 Sep 10
I feel for you. My oldest daughter used to live next door to us and after she met the boyfriend that she has now she moved in with him. She lives about 20 minutes away but there are days that I don't see her and I hate it. I enjoy having her near and I hated to see her move in with him as I felt that I wasn't done with her and still had plenty to teach her. Hopefully, your daughter will come home soon and she won't ever leave you totally.
@shibham (17025)
• India
8 Sep 10
Perhaps, every mom feels so but i think you are lucky bcoz the boy friend is not from abroad. Lol
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• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Hi jugsgus. I think I know how you feel. I have a cousin who, years ago, moved to the USA with the whole family. When the eldest girl turned 18 she told her parents she would like to be independent and live alone, a thing which in our country is not heard of. She couldn't do anything. The following year, the second girl asked the same thing upon turning 18. And this time she stamped her foot. But before that she called her mother, my aunt, and cried "Mama, I am losing all my girls!" (She has 5 daughters and 2 boys. Quite a family, I know. lol) She came back home bringing her family with her and are still here to this day. In our country, daughters and sons, leave home when they marry. Although, times are changing. Happy mylotting.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
8 Sep 10
I am very shocked, 18-year-old girl, has been living with bf. In my country 18- year-old daughter, should be still under the supervision of parents. But I know your feelings, every girl would have to leave home, to come with her husband. Maybe because you are not familiar with your daughter's departure. Your daughter has a new life and for your daughter is happiness. You must go to be happy, for your daughter.
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• United States
7 Sep 10
Awww... sounds like you have a great relationship with your daughter that you miss her so much. Don't forget to tell her that you care about her though you know she's grown and can make her own choices. It's ok Jugs she'll be home soon!
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@MDG2211 (711)
• Argentina
13 Sep 10
behave completely what you say, but found that I have no children, but it is very sad when you're away from your parents, your daughter should happen the same, the distance between our loved ones will not allow us to share more time with our relatives or who want to be close and share our lives. While one lives and is with his parents do not realize, but once you start to miss you.
@bestboy19 (5482)
• United States
13 Sep 10
You're going to have to let go of her sometime.
@Humbug25 (12552)
11 Sep 10
Hi jugsjugs My boys are now 5, 7 and 9 and I dread the day that they leave the house to walk to school on their own let alone get girlfriends and want to spend more time away from their family and I know that time will come soon enough! I am very close to my mum and I probably see her more now than I did when I was a teenager haha
@dorannmwin (36695)
• United States
10 Sep 10
I can only begin to imagine how you must feel about your daughter being gone from home. I still have a lot of years to wait until my children will be dealing with boyfriends and girlfriends, but for right now they do all take turns spending the night with the grandparents and, yes, there are some times that both of them are away from home. It actually makes me anxious when that is the case. I miss the kids while they are gone and it has never been for an extended period of time.
@doormouse (4619)
8 Sep 10
that's really sweet,i was never like that with my mum,my daughter is 13 and i hope i have a close relationship with her when she's older like you have with yor daughter
• Bahamas
8 Sep 10
Hi jugs.I understand exactly where you,re coming from. As parents we know that our children are not going to stay with us forever, but that does not make it easy to let them go.My eldest son has been on his own since last year and i,ve still not gotten use to his not being here.I wish you all the best.
@srganesh (6349)
• India
8 Sep 10
jugjugs! We are used to some routine things in our life and that is what haunting you.Missing your daughter for a week will not disturb you, isn't it? Just for the time she is away for two weeks consequently and you are disturbed. Hope your daughter come this week end to put a full stop.
@anurag3786 (6275)
• India
8 Sep 10
I think this is not called hate.. it is your caring for your daughter.. yes because you are a good parents.. and every time worried about your daughter.. because she is now young.. so normally this situations are with every parents..
@amrddy (215)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Hi jugsjugs, It is not that I hate it when my daughter is away but I worry about her. Like last night, she called me from school to tell me that they were given a project that has to be submitted the following day and she needs to go to a classmates house. I asked several questions such as who are you going with, where is the place, what time she is coming home and if somebody will drive them back. Until she comes home I worried so much, by the way she is only fourteen.