A SELFISH mom?!

Sometimes it is not being selfish,maybe over protective. But you are right,you are already on the right age to make decisions on your own. I had a friend who faced same problem like yours. She's 26 now and yet,she can not do things without her mother's permission. I know it's not right anymore,i am also a mother and i am also strict with my kids,but,at 20+,i guess it is right time for my kids to do things and make decision of their own. I can give my advise,or suggestion...but i won't control their life as long as they are not doing wrong things. I hope your mom will understand about your feelings. have a good day always

Sometimes it's hard for moms to let go. When my oldest daughter had her first child I had to force myself to say "you might want to..." instead of just telling her how to take care of my grandson. I think I've done a fairly good job of letting go of my 4 but some moms need help. You're going to have to start standing up for yourself with your mom but do it kindly. If she makes decisions or plans that are in conflict with yours, tell her in a nice way and then do what you have decided to do. It will take time but she will come around.

oh, I don't know if I can say I am lucky because my mom is not a control freak.She respected our decisions even if those decisions hurt her and our father.She always stood beside us no matter what the outcome of what we decide might be. But, do not take that against your mom. She must not prepared yet to let go of you.The thing with mother-daughter-relationship is it is difficult to let go and trust and obey when both mother and daughter are not open to each other. Give your mom some time to deal that you are no longer the baby she used to carry and cuddle whenever you came running to her crying in pain.This is the right time by dealing with this misunderstanding between you the mature way. I nstead of being resentful talk to her in a mature way and tell her what you feel by her controlling your life. A mother will listen to her child only if you speak to her gently. A mother needs assurance the her precious child will always be safe so give her that. Prove to her that you are one responsible grown up.It'll be hard for her to let go, but, she will soon respect and trust you.:) Goodluck. She just loves you so much. Be thankful for that.:)

I am 27 and my mom still wants to make decisions for me. That's just how mom's are. You don't have to argue with her. do what you want while putting her into consideration or you can do what she wants but with your personal touch. It's isear to live without conflict, plus your mom wouldnt insist on anything that she wouldnt think is good for you.

Hi. I know what you are talking about. But moms are not selfish. They are plain protective and possessive of us and I am telling this as a mom myself. Yes we do get frustrated when our moms behave that way. Imagine being 31 years old, married and the mom of a three year old kid being told even when to go to bed! My mom gives advice when not needed and intereferes in things which are not relevant to her at all. Not only her, my dad does that too which drives me crazy most of the time. But they are your parents after all and they have your best interests at heart. So try explaining to her that it is out of boundaries to her and simply refuse to accept her decisions. She will not listen in the beginning but slowly will relent. Hopefully:-D

They aren't selfish, they may seem to be like it, but they're not. They'd say that they're doing this for our own good, and they actually mean that, but sometimes they don't realise that they're doing it too much and that sometimes its turning out to be for their own pleasure. Sometimes we need to constantly remind them that we know what we're doing, and if we fail we'd gladly accept it, because we're all grown ups now and them as our mums, should be there to support and encourage us, not to try and get us off from what we want to do.

do you still love at home? sometimes it comes along the lines of my house, my rules...

Wow, this is like something I would write! I know exactly what you mean and I have had many conflicts with her because of this... actually, probably all conflict with her is because of this. I end up arguing with her, but.. in the end, I probably need to live far away from her.

hello wiwa I think that your problem lies just in the thinking, you are young and have not seen much of this world. You mom has spend almost 2/3 of her life and she wants to save her daughter from the problems in life. Thats not her fault, that is the heart of a mom. Also there are differences in thinking of people of different ages, so i would suggest you to not to get angry with your mom, as it will hurt your mom very badly. I would say just try to understand what she feels for you. Try to listen to her and even if you dont like try to agree to what she says some of the times so as to make her feel that you love her and understand her, slowly and slowly you'll feel that she'll also try to understand you. Anger is not the solution, try to think over it and hopefully you;ll get out smoothly. Take care

That's normal for parents or particularly your mother. When you have your own life and have children you will realize why. I just obey them of course it vary on your justification the way you say it to them.

That's just really how moms are. In my case, I don't take it as an intention to control but a way of constantly letting us know about other good options so that we can arrive with right decisions. Each time I reveal my ideas, I expect my mom to tell me about the exact opposite. I guess that is one of a mother's indispensable role, to keep us well-rounded or to show us both sides in dealing with life's major decisions. Indeed, you will surely appreciate and understand everything when you become a mother yourself someday.

ive got a same feeling same as yours but i think of this thing one more time and understand what my mom wants and compare it to what i want and found out that there is something that we cant see but mothers does cuz they already been there on that problem and they know what to do and what not to do. but its normal to get angry and irritated i always feel that when my mom dictate when what to do and what not to do :) but in the end mother's always care on whats best for us