"You Don't know what you want ANYMORE" 'Phase in Life'
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
Philippines
October 3, 2010 8:36am CST
Hello Lotters.
I hope that you weren't gonna tell me you got everything planned since you're on diapers. am sure there are chance that you were kinda lost and didn't know what to do.sometimes it takes years for some of us to realize about what should we do and how we plan for our life. specially LIVE our life to the fullest.
[b]"unfortunately, am one of those who had been in this constant stage"
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I am ashamed to admit it but some how I am lost. I've been a Volunteer, Not so experience Customer Service agent, Micro Entrepreneur and this..the mylotter. but now some how i feel stuck. I know what do as some mylotters have told me this already in some of my past discussions( I forgot
). but it seemed, I lost a lot, my will, vision, i can still dream though.
it's happening but it's only tonight that i realized it. I've lost my consistency in life. no wonder i am shocked seeing my group age having a steady job, getting married or having kids.
Not that I am asking for advice, I've heard some of it. Probably I may regret tomorrow about making this discussion. but some how, i also need to vent up a bit, of how weak have I become. It's so sick, that i am having a hard time getting out of it... I do plan every time when ever am alone in this house, you know house choirs. I might do some Manual Laundry and make more Ice since they're out.
Oh, God am so Lost...I can't even pray..for myself anymore.....
). but it seemed, I lost a lot, my will, vision, i can still dream though.
it's happening but it's only tonight that i realized it. I've lost my consistency in life. no wonder i am shocked seeing my group age having a steady job, getting married or having kids.
Not that I am asking for advice, I've heard some of it. Probably I may regret tomorrow about making this discussion. but some how, i also need to vent up a bit, of how weak have I become. It's so sick, that i am having a hard time getting out of it... I do plan every time when ever am alone in this house, you know house choirs. I might do some Manual Laundry and make more Ice since they're out.
Oh, God am so Lost...I can't even pray..for myself anymore.....5 people like this
14 responses
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
Hello Mspitot, we can talk. but at least you have a job. HAPPY TEACHERS DAY!
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
Hello Letran,
Well,there are times that we become disorganized and we tend to blame ourselves.
But,no,don't blame yourself for that my dear brother.
Besides,it's not yet too late for you to start all over again.
Some people grow and think matured late in their lives,some are matured as early during their adulthood.
No two individual person are alike,not even twins,we all have our individual uniqueness,interests and passion.
Don't feel bitter for things undone and things that passed by.
You can still start what you've started and excel in everything that you wanted to do,just believe in yourself
have a great weekdays dear little brother
have a great weekdays dear little brother
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
At least you know the feelings,and you know what kind of feeling you will be needing to give you inspiration and aspiration to start all over again.
Then,what are you waiting for my dear brother...love is in the air...(hahaha love radio)
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
Hello Jaiho,
I thought I was doing my family a favor to be acting and doing like a mature person. some how the bad thing happened and i fell down but i am slowly trying to get up again. thanks a lot. thanks for the encouragement here. I really wanted to start believing it again. the last time i truly think i could do was when i was first inlove. i was so motivated that i actually almost excelled in everything. almost. I wanted to have that feeling again.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
one point in our life something like this will happen or happened already. its a feeling of lost and dont know what to do. confused, a feeling that you know you have a lot to offer but the right time and the right opportunity is not there yet. we filipino always say "habang may buhay may pagasa" and there will be something for you as long as you wont give up. giving up is forever, but the pain you feel right now is just temporary. take a good look around and count your blessings. i think you have to go out and relax. go to church and pray. hope this work. write on a paper what you did and you want to do then maybe you will see what went wrong. cheers.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
hello seven,
You're right. As long as we are alive, there is hope. giving means it's over and you're done. but i don't feel like giving up and i think i can conquer my fears and do the samething I've been doing when i was excelling into something. oh, i know what went wrong but i believe i can still do it. thanks a lot.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
5 Oct 10
I am sorry you are feeling like this. I admit that although I have a husband, a child and a good home I too feel at a crossroad and I have no idea which direction to take. I know what it is that I am passionate about in my life but I have neither idea nor money to make my dreams a reality. There is a part of me that wants to get up and make permanent changes and the other that is totally unsure! I think that when you don’t know what to do you should look up and ask for help, then you can be vigilant for opportunities. Cheer up by looking at all the positives you have and be grateful...
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
Hello Paula,
well, at least you have a family, pets..unlike you, am almost totally lonely when no friends to talked to. some how, i need to vent out. compare to me, i think you still have you're family. although i have my mom, i wanted her to be proud of me some day and not being just a burden of sorts.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
3 Oct 10
Sweetie, as long as you can still dream you are on the right track.
Why feel lost at all?
We all go thru this eventually.
Go sit somewhere, OUT OF THE HOUSE.
Think of what you wanted to be or do.
And weigh it up to what you have and doing today.
You will find that answer you are looking for, right smack in the middle.
You cannot miss it, sweetie.
Concentrate or you might miss out on a lot, okay.
Luck.
TATA.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
Hello Saphrina,
I did sit somewhere out side the house. actually i did a few walks from home. but still i had other things wondering on my head. I did house choirs again at home, but i wasn't finish since my mom came this afternoon and do other things. i am trying my best to concentrate. most specially at the point of getting sleepy.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
Hello Jenny,
well, dream can happen to all of us if we do something about it. i should have done this last month but unfortunately, i kinda lost it again. but i guess it takes planning tomake it work. i shouldn't allow myself to be too much pitiful in this process. thank you, i hope you find your way as well.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
I believe i had felt something like that, but I do not totally gave on to the negative vibes because it will not take me to my dreams. I still dream, I still have a goal. What makes it hard is to achieve it is the challenges behind and besides it. One night I have a goal and I even plan for it, the next day some people will ruin my schedule and I even get sitted in my office because I am doing the goal of someone. And if you already fulfilled it, you will get nothing from them. I feel pity for myself sometimes. Those classmates I had have their own house, and if I ask them they do not even planned for it, they just appear, given by their company. That got me thinking maybe it is my decision 8 years before that led me to this. I believe in that. What you are now is what you envisioned five years or 10 years before. Do you remember yours?
Instead of feeling bad, why not make a goal today.Its not too late unless tomorrow is the end of the world.....
Me, i have a goal but its so hard to achieve it and it hurts a lot and I admit it.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
Hello Grecy,
I think i failed on this one. because i thought i was going to be successful but i didn't. i was about to reached my prime but i turn my back on it, some how i don't know what went wrong. i feel so sad about it sometimes that i get angry on little things. ten years ago, i didn't even imagine ended up in a house for two years doing almost house choirs and mylot. If only i could tell my past about it, maybe it could have made the difference.thank you so much
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
3 Oct 10
Remember the world is round like a football. People who are successful will stay on top while those who are confused and not so successful remain at the bottom. Once the football is kicked it will roll creating a sudden change on the position of the ball. Likewise, it doesn't mean that when you are down and out you are doomed. There will come a time when you will be successful in life. Time might not be ripe yet for you to reach your greatest potential. And it doesn't mean that those who are sitting comfortably at the top remain there forever. Their fortune is rolling too and everyone has the chance to be on top. Time will tell.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
Hello Zandi,
I had done several things but none of them exceed for my great potential. i still didn't know what am i supposed to do. well, i want to do new things in life, have fun to things that i wanted to do. i hope things will get me going one day. i can't wait forever but i guess i should do something first.
ello Zandi,
I had done several things but none of them exceed for my great potential. i still didn't know what am i supposed to do. well, i want to do new things in life, have fun to things that i wanted to do. i hope things will get me going one day. i can't wait forever but i guess i should do something first. @carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
3 Oct 10
I can only keep praying for someone to come into your life Letran. You at least admit you need something more, that is a beginning. Sometimes it is hard for us to pray for ourselves, but can you pray for others? find a prayer group where you can pray for other people, and they can pray for you. Soon you'll see that as you sacrifice and pray for others that G♥d will start working in your life..:)
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
Hello Carmel,
I am kinda tired praying for myself knowing that i couldn't do it anyways.i feel hypocrite enough to believe that i pray but i don't do it anyways, i felt so helpless. I some how believed i need to renew my faith, the past doesn't really matter even if i think of it so many times. it's hard not to matter on it, even as i know that am wasting time on this.thank you for praying for me.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Oct 10
hi letran I think most all of us go through that at times. Its hard to advise anyone as what might or was right for me might not be right
for you too. Letran as long as you can still dream you are going
to be okay. Just sit quietly and picture what you have wanted to do. write them down, ponder them then relax. When its the right time the
answer will pop out at you. I think may be you have been caught in a
vicious circle and now you are out of it and wondering now what?.
YOU know there is no set time when you must get married and so set time
when you get that best of all job or have children so whenever it is right for you is the right time. I was 31 before I met my husband to be.
and thirty two when I had my son and 33 when I had my daughter so any time that's the right time for you is the right time period. compare only yourself with only yourself. that way it will not drive you bananas.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
Hello Hatley,
I guess not every gets to have a loved one in their young adult stage. almost every one i knew have gotten married and have kids.even my cousin has a girl friend. I have never been so afraid, but every day i do my best to keep my cool. thank you for your story, maybe every one like me has it's time.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
Ey man, i was in the same state as you are now. I understand how it is. It's not that bad once you get out of it. I'm not gonna give you any cliche advice. All i want you to know is It's just a phase. Let your mind rest for awhile from reality. Once it gets back, it'll be up ready for your life.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
Hello FrontVisions,
How long before you were able to know what you wanted to do? well, i guess it's been a while. i should probably get back on track...some day. i hope when the time comes, it won't be much too late.
@Andyvil (793)
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
Thats ok Letranknight, I also am in the same predicament right now. I used to be the man with the plan. Everything in my life before was planned and then a lot has changed in the last couple of months in my life. I lost my drive to be good at what I do, I lost my motivation to excel. As of now I have no plans on what to do next year or in the next couple of years. Although I am slowly trying to get out of this phase, I am trying to figure out a solution to what I want in life by sorting them out one by one.
My solution as of now is to tackle my problem one by one instead of trying to face it as a whole. Whenever I feel frustrated I also find ways to vent out my frustration and thankfully mylot has helped me a lot. Anyway I just wanted to stop by in your discussion and tell you that you are not alone in your situation. Eventually we will get out of this phase and learn to enjoy life.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
3 Oct 10
I have lost my zest is how I call these moments in my life. You must pray, you must dream and you must continue on living... This is how I get through my days.
We have to have some hope sweetie, we really do, no one in this life time will do any thing for us. The power of prayer is a powerful feeling. We may not get what we want but we must have hope.
I will pray for you, this is what I do, when I pray I do not ask for what I want, I ask that others perhaps less fortunate, sick and or in greater needs get even and that I well continue to be more patient. It is my way of thanking God for assuring my basic needs are always met. Many of times I go to bed and the last thing I say is God please help me tomorrow what you decide is right for me I will do, which means; no expectations but the ability to be able to try and deal with the next day.
I live by this prayer and will share with you
God grant me
Serenity to accept the things I cannot change
Courage to change the things I can, and
Wisdom to know the difference.
God bless you
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
Hello hardworkinggurl,
I strongly appreciate and thankful for your prayers. for the moment i started praying again despite of the sad feeling am having at this women. I know i should be still be blessed. but sometimes it's just really hard when you are too much used to the things that you always do.
@lynlypiochy (706)
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
Hey, you're not the only one feeling the same thing. I just graduated college. I had plans before I graduated, but now that I did, I just don't know what to do. But as I go along, it's like I have these pre-determined ideas planted in my mind. I know what I want, I'm still just figuring a way how to get it. It's more like tossing a coin. You toss a coin because you want the coin to decide for yourself. But when the coin is in the air, you either think of a heads or tails. All you have to do is try to choose, and you'll know what you have to do when the time comes.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
Hello Piochy,
I don't need a coin to make a choice. but maybe i haven't tried something like that for a long time. some how, tossing a coin wouldn't make much difference, most specially if am the one either yes or not making such choice. don't you worry, you will get one soon.
