Do you like your child's school teacher?
October 6, 2010 8:29am CST
I don't really like my oldest daughter's teacher. She does not act like a teacher. She gloats on things that she can not change. I know that she has a problem with me not allowing my three year old to attend Head Start this year. I have observed her attitude when she is around me. She always has to point out something to me that I already know. When she left my apartment after a meeting, she told me, "I hope that when the next time I see you, you will be in your new place." Why couldn't she just have said something different. Why place so much of emphasis on the fact that I am still living in this apartment? She told me yesterday that she sees me and my daughter standing at the bus stop waiting on her bus in the mornings. She said that she takes her son to school in the mornings. This allows her to past on the same street that I am on. Okay, now she gets to see us everyday. I wonder how much else does she know about me. Sometimes I get the feeling, that she is checking up on me. And she is just waiting for me to slip up just so she could say, I told ya so! I don't trust her and nor do I want her for my daughter's teacher. When my youngest daughters gets accepted into Head Start next year, I will make sure that I make to where she is not her teacher at all.
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6 Oct 10
You win some, you lose some. I admire some of her previous teacher's. Some of them I don't especially the ones demanding for last minute mini projects that they want my child to submit with just a few minutes of notice. They cause me stress. One time a teacher asked my daughter and her classmates to practice for a week on a dance routine. The kids are tired from school since they get home at 6PM then they practice up to 8pm to 9pm. At the presentation day itself she announced that the said program will not pushed through..What the heck was that all about? The kids were inconvenienced and their health suffered and yet this happens? I still believe that there are those good teachers that really helped my child developed into a better equipped individual. One hopes for the best.
• United States
6 Oct 10
That is kind of bizarre... did you ASK her what her 'problem' is? If you feel this attitude coming from her, why not confront her and lay your fears to rest? If you are right, then you can take further steps, if you are wrong, you will feel better about the situation. Did you WANT your three year old to go to Headstart or not? If not, then it's your choice and YOUR CHOICE only. It isn't up to any teacher or employee or any other individual or entity on this planet, so who cares? If she harrasses you - or if anybody harrasses you about it, then take it up a notch and go to their supervisor or the school board or the district. I would never allow somebody to do that to me, and by the time I was done with them, they'd KNOW I MEANT BUSINESS AND THEY'D NEVER BRING IT UP AGAIN. If she says anything weird, turn your back on her and walk away. Ignore it. Make a point of SHOWING HER that you're ignoring whatever she said. She'll either call you on it or eventually get it that you don't really appreciate what she said - or you can say 'You know, I really don't appreciate your comments.' and leave it at that. I doubt she is checking up on you, but if you feel that way, why not ask her why she seems so interested in the daily goings-on of your life? She may have no idea how she is coming off to you, then again maybe she does. As far as the original question - do I like my daughter's teacher - yes I do.
• United States
6 Oct 10
My daughter is in kindergarten - and I do like her teacher (actually a neighbor recommended her because our kids have the same type of temperament/energy - so we specifically requested her - and we got her). I have always tried to have a teacher/parent relationship with all my daughter's teachers so we can be on the same page, but of course we don't see eye to eye about everything. So often I may like the teacher, but there may be certain aspects about the person or teaching method or whatever, that I may not entirely agree with. We have to remember that teachers are "people" too. They have their own quirks and such - some are nosier than others - and some feel like they have to butt into other people's business like other people we know. I noticed that my personal friends who are teachers (especially elementary teachers) tend to talk in an "all knowing" sort of way . . . that's the way their job is with all those kids they tend too - so they sort of get like that outside their work (some, not all). Perhaps that teacher is stepping on some boundaries with you . . . she is probably "meaning" to be helpful like a teacher is supposed to - but it's actually coming out sort of offensive. I think you're right that she shouldn't be comparing your situation with hers . . . we get enough of that with some fellow moms in class - ugh. Sometimes people just don't know how to talk politely - no matter who they are or what field they are in . . . it's not that she's out to get you - that's just the way she talks - unfortunately. What's important is, is she a good teacher to your daughter? I know you may not like her, but is she a good teacher otherwise? If it's more of a personal thing between you and the teacher, I'd shrug it off - either ignore those kinds of comments or give her a snappy come back to make her stop saying such things. Like I said, I like to get involved with the teacher no matter who they are so we have some type of understanding about each other - but that's just me.
• Boise, Idaho
6 Oct 10
Each year the teachers get tougher and expect more from their kids. You just never know about people. I would ignore what she says as much as possible. If she takes her son to school and passes you every day why is that such a big deal? Live and let live. Maybe you can talk to the people at the school and see if you can get your daughter a different teacher.