Is is okay to apologize via Text message?

@segungb (169)
Nigeria
October 9, 2010 2:40pm CST
I really offended a friend today. I totally forgot to attend her dad's burial. I had to send a sms to her, but i feel that was not enough. It is absolutely impossible for me to her today. Is it ok to apologize with SMS?
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@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
9 Oct 10
her dad's burial...hmm that it was important for your friend, and it would have been helpful for him/her to have you there. but if you forgot I think you should apologize in person. put yourself in his/hers position and ask yourself how you would feel if your friend apologized to you via sms, in such an important moment...then you'll realise what you have to do
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@segungb (169)
• Nigeria
9 Oct 10
Thanks Swissheart. I will see her in person tomorrow to apologise, I did not want to wait till then so that it would not seem as if it is when I see her that I even remembered.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
9 Oct 10
hm..depends on situation my friends.. if you and her/his is separated away so maybe send message about apologize is OK and understandable.. but if you and him/her is in same place, i think it`s not polite you do (send message apologize) id to her/his...it`s better if you come in their place and say apologize to him/her
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@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
9 Oct 10
I would say NO. If you do, then you must follow it up with one or more proper apologies. No apology is sufficient if you are not sincere. Forgetting to attend a burial when your friend was counting on you is probably unforgivable. If you try to apologise with SMS, you will simply make your friend feel that you didn't really care in the first place.
@banban (601)
• China
10 Oct 10
I think it's okay. Apologizing via text message first, and then days after when you two see each other, you'd better say sorry again face-to-face. Besides, sending a flower with a apology card is also good.
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
I think it's if you're left into having no choice. Regarding your situation, I guess it's best if you'll apologize personally at the right time and at the right place.
• United States
9 Oct 10
Due to the nature that it was a burial I do not believe she will be offended that you text her. I would say wait a few days and make an effort to perhaps visit her and express your sincere apology. She will need friends in the day to come so although she may feel a bit hurt that you did not make the effort she certainly will appreciate continual friendship.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
9 Oct 10
sure its ok but i think you should do this in person.
• United States
9 Oct 10
Personally I can't stand to take any personal apologies or conversations on Text Messages. I don't know how your friend feels about Text Message apologies, but I would highly recommend you go right over and apologize face to face. I don't think that text messages are personal or convincing enough, and that seems like the general consensus here. You should apologize in person... and if you can't do that then I would suggest you try sending a letter or calling before you try texting her.