Are you afraid to be inadeuate in someone else's eyes?
October 14, 2010 11:07am CST
I'm asking this question because it's been on my mind a lot lately, and I think a lot of people feel this way. Do you ever MAKE yourself FEEL inadequate? Or does another person MAKE you feel inadequate? Do you worry about being considered 'inadequate' (or 'not good enough') in any aspect of life? And how is this something you get over? I feel as though, on my bad days, I get like this. I think it has to do with self-confidence, and some days I just don't got it. I was having a horrible day yesterday, a killer headache, and just feeling down on myself (after a text fight) and one of my sister's friends was in town and I was supposed to meet them - because "he's heard so much about me" but instead I made up some phony excuse because I didn't feel like being social, but also because I didn't want him to be 'disappointed' because I wasn't as nice or cool or whatever as my sister had bragged to him about. Do you ever find it hard to meet expectations that other people have set for you? I'm not really sure where this discussion is leading. But respond away, and it will hopefully go somewhere! (I have a hard time articulating my thoughts..Ughh)
19 Oct 10
Oh yes! I feel this all the time. But, the most I'm afraid of is to be thought of inadequate in the eyes of my kids. It feels like nothing else matters as long as you feel confident in front of the people you love. So, don't fret. As long as you feel good and 'adequate' to the people you love, then that is enough. If other people feel that you're not enough, then that's their problem. They just don't know you too well. And don't worry maezee, you're very adequate to me!