Single Forever

By Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
Philippines
October 21, 2010 5:54am CST
I am surprised by the increasing number of people who want to stay single forever. I know that being single has so many advantages, including the freedom to have as many relationship as you want, but I just couldn't imagine myself not being married to the person I love. I'm happily married and used to fear being single forever since I started having a boyfriend at a late age. But never for once have I imagined living a single life forever. How about you? Would you like to be single forever or would you like to settle down in the future?
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18 responses
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
21 Oct 10
There are so many reasons behind wanting to be single forever. People maybe of fear of what they have observed like broken marriage, or maybe a fear of making a mistake of choosing someone to marry. There are also some says that they just not prepared to have a family because of the current poverty status and still not ready for more bigger responsibilities. They are the people who still enjoying doing things without someone bossing them around. But right, we have to enjoy what we have or the present status we have for one thing is sure..we never know what lies ahead for us. If that someone came, we can never reason out anymore. There's always something or someone for everyone.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
21 Oct 10
I definitely agree. There's always someone for everyone, but what happens if the person meant for you doesn't want to marry you?
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@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
21 Oct 10
Well probably he still not yet the one for me. You know what, I've been in a relationship for almost 8 years. But he got married to someone else, this one I could say and actually still thinking "Is he the one for me? Am I the one who did not recognize it?". Why? because, before he got married, he still asked me, he said, he just want to hear something from me, and he would not pursue the marriage. Probably he means, he wants me to fight for him. Probably that time, it's my false pride, so I didn't uttered a single word to hold him, so he got married. But since then, he still come to me, saying that he is miserable, until his married life gets into the rocks. I know everything. But if we meant for each other, we must be in that marriage life. Why it did not happen? Perhaps were not really meant for each other.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
21 Oct 10
Sad story. My sister was in the same situation before. 8 years is long enough for us to think that a relationship is stable, but the length of time doesn't actually tell us that he or she is the right one.
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@kevin1877uk (36988)
7 May 16
Being single is ok, lonely at times, most of the time lol. I would like to remarry and settle back down at some point.
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@kevin1877uk (36988)
8 May 16
@toniganzon Thank you :)
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
8 May 16
@kevin1877uk welcome
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
8 May 16
I wish you'll find the right person. I'd be the first person to be happy when you do.
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• Malaysia
22 Oct 10
As you said you have a boy friend, I suggest that you are encouraged to get married because female must have accompanied by one man eventually. Unless for those who is ugly look then she has to try harder in getting boy friend or it might be never meet a fruitfully result. Everyone must have partner of soul eventually.
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• Philippines
21 Oct 10
For me, i dont care if i wont be married but i am longing for a kid. If there's one who is destined to be my partner in life, i wouldnt mind, as long as i have my kid in my own i will be contented already.
• Philippines
22 Oct 10
I agree with you friend.
@TonyPluto (171)
• United States
21 Oct 10
I'm leavin this world the same way I came into it screaming and alone. In my mind The only reason to get married is to raise kids I don't think I'll ever intentionally make a baby. So yeah I'll probably stay single forever. No big deal. Spent the first 21 years on my own. What's another 40? By the way There's too many people. Quit making babies folks.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
22 Oct 10
Don't you know that Korea and Japan are having problems with their population? In fact their government is giving lots of benefits to a family who can produce more than two children. So I don't think that people in general should stop making babies. If they do, then that would be the end of the world because there will be no more future generation to think about.
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• United States
22 Oct 10
Japan's freakin packed! What do you mean they need more babies? No I think all people in general need to make fewer babies. There will definitely be a future generation no matter what. We jusr need to gradually reduce our numbers as a whole. It's entirely not possible I know this But still would be a good idea and go a long way to ensuring generations much much further into the future.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
According to Businessweek Japan's population decline is in millions every year.. That's why the government are supporting parents who couldn't make babies by paying for the artificial insemination fees. So why do you think the government is considered about this when there's no threat for the future generation? INdeed in my country there's no problem yet with this and in fact we're pushing the contraceptive bill, but I can see the trend and it's gonna be similar to Japan because of technology. People are so caught up with it and women nowadays are considering staying single.
• Philippines
22 Oct 10
The desires of one's heart sometimes conflicts one's current situation. So I guess, one should be able to see what kind of future he/she wants. There are stories of unexpected love that blossomed into strong marriages but there are also stories of planned marriages that cannot be upheld by their exchanged vows then later on fails and go their separate ways. Life is all about choice, so we have to choose wisely and be committed to it so you'll have less regrets to look back when you're old.
@tonyllenium (6252)
• Italy
29 Oct 10
am single now but i think i wouldn't be single forever..surely if i will meet the right person would be good even to think something of different than being single..so i guess that in the future i would like settle down too!!
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
22 Oct 10
Im a single happily everafter person. Ive tried marriage more than once and live-in more than once. It just didnt work for me. Im happier now than i ever was.
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
26 Oct 10
Thanks!!! Your right about that too. Also im not a foreteller of events but im not looking either.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
The most important thing is that you're happy right now. Doesn't matter whether you're single or married. Everybody deserves to be happy in life. Congratulations my friend!
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
21 Oct 10
today's generation i observed is not much into thinking about marriage. take for example my 20 yr old daughter who has a boyfriend but doubts if she will be married someday in fear that the world is becoming cruel, and expenses are getting higher. my son has been telling me a litany like 'who says being single is not happy?'
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• Philippines
22 Oct 10
I would prefer to be single forever.today,a lot of women prefer being single,especially those with high-profile and powerful jobs.a lot of women aren't the typical homebody.with cash and car of their own,they go on out of town trips or clubbing with friends anytime they want.some prefer living the life they want to the fullest without any interruptions from boyfriends.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
22 Oct 10
I can definitely understand that. I'm still enjoying the privileges of being single even if I'm married now. My husband allows me to party with friends and even go out with my colleagues. I also have the freedom when it comes to the money that I personally own and buy the things that I want. I guess that's why I'm enjoying my life as a married woman. I get to choose my own carrier without anybody holding me back, and i can still have fun with friends.
@qianyun6 (2067)
• China
22 Oct 10
Hi, toniganzon! You can't understand them just because you have found the boyfriend you love. I think very few people will refuse to get married just for being single and enjoy the advantage of single. They are just too lazy to find voluntarily and they won't marry themselves just for being married. If God gives them the encounter of their another half, will they still uphold their principle of being single? But if God is too busy, they don't care.
• Portugal
21 Oct 10
i wouldnt like to be single forever for sure^^ you are right is not good to be without no one to loves us. sorry that you thought you would be single bcs you had a bf at a late age but thank god you found one^^ thats awesome im very happy for you^^ and sure if you been single would be too sad. but you deserve a good guy^^ so dont need be afraid anymore^^
• Philippines
21 Oct 10
Single blessedness is a choice. I would like to be settled in the future but as of the moment being single is my choice. I choose to be happy with my kid as my present priority, i was once married and it was not a very happy experience. Although I have not close my doors to the possibility of a good kind of loving. The present generation does not want to marry early if that is what you mean. They want to enjoy total freedom first before venturing on matrimony.
@Onyxe121 (206)
• United States
21 Oct 10
Personally I never understood why someone would be willing to "play house" with someone else. If you are going to live with someone and start a family you should be getting all the benefits. I would not mind remarrying in the future, but its no skin off my back being single again either.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
22 Oct 10
I had few friends who are single,and they say they never regretted being single forever. I can say that they are happy with their lives and i can see it. They're professionals,living with their nieces (adopted ones) and helping their siblings kids with their studies. As,if they love their life doing good things helping their siblings and they're contented with that. I even asked them if they ever fall in love and get frustrated that is why they chose to be single. But they said yes,they fall in love but never been frustrated,and they're the one who quit from those relationship becoz they can't imagine themselves getting married. Really odd answer,it's hard to understand unless we are in their situation. It is their choice,they are happy with it and they are the only one who knows the real reason why they stayed being single forever.
@tjen_anni (317)
• Indonesia
22 Oct 10
No..being single is never on my mind. People has his/her own reason to remain single forever. For me, there is none happiness than being a mother of my kids. I couldn't imagine i live without my husband and my chldren in the future....
22 Oct 10
How i dream to live the rest of my life with someone i could really love and share everything to me in the future. Even i used to be frightened with the things other people suffering by ending up their relationship to separations and leading to live the life as a single parent for their children., still wanting to experience how happy it would be to have someone as a partner in your life. And now making me realize that those things could happen for a reason for you to accept and to move on. As long as you've done your part to make your life worth it and made the choice that would set you free.
@shah_bm3 (12)
• Pakistan
22 Oct 10
Well, i personally think one can not live alone. Man is a social animal. Man needs people to interact with him. He needs to share his emotions, ambitions, feelings and dreams. So if you have a partner then this is the best thing you got. You will certainly enjoy the relationship.