When is the best time to tell a child that he/she is an adopted child?

I think because each child is different they would all be able to handle it at different ages. Some children are mature enough to deal with it when they are young while others may act out when learning such news.

HI, I am not in this position before but from my point of view, if it is possible, better don't let the child know that he is an adopted child,since he is living good now with his adopted parents. There is no point to break off this happiness and it may probably give a shock reaction to that child. Not all children are able to accept the fact that they are an adopted children.

I have close friends who were adopted. Out of the three, only one of them handled it pretty well and I'm not sure when her parents told her. Of the other two I know one of them was told very young and the other was already in her teens before she found out. Neither of them did very well with the news. I don't think there's a formula for this kind of thing. Personally, I think you shouldn't lie to your children. Letting them believe that they are your biological children is lying to them. You should tell them soon.

i think that the best time to inform about their reality is their maturity. so that they can understand the situation and can manage themselves easily.

Some says that telling the truth to the children are very sensitive issues and need sometimes before prevail the truth. But telling the truth later is not advisable for me - because the mind of the concern might be rebelious, unlike if in his/her early age we can guide, support and control them. So for me early age of the adopting child should be the right time but talk gradually, careful and must ready for all questions arises. see you around..

in my opinion,the time is good to give they aged 1-9 or 11-15 because in that age they can try to understand why I doing it..

i have watched a show about this before... they have interviewed parents who have adopted children and at the early age of 2 they have already been told that they have been adopted and they have not actually come out of the mother's womb but that they are loved as their own... it helps the child understand early on that there is nothing wrong with them, they have no faults, they are LOVED and that is what matters....

Hi, It depends on your kids maturity. Some kids acts and thinks mature at early age. When you think she is mature enough to understand her situation,then you can start by explaining at an early age,probably 6 or 7 yrs old. You can start by any movie,or watch a movie with you kid (about an adopted child,a good one) And observe her reaction,asks her question after you watched the movie. Then,try to assess her attitude with her answers,if you think she can understand about situation,then find the right timing to tell her the truth. But if you think she's not yet ready,then try to convince her that being an adopted is not bad at all. Explain the good sides and reasons why there are parents(biological ones) who let or give their kids for adoption. Condition her mind with all good things and benefits of being an adopted child than staying with biological parents but are unable to give her good future. But of course,always try to be fair with reasoning why the biological parents give their kids for adoption,not to sound bad. Have a good weekdays

When a child is old to understand things, that is the time they should be told if they are adopted. Prolonging the decision to tell doesn't give comfort to anyone. Everyone deserves to know the truth about them.

For me when they are big because they might understand about there life and the hatred can balance them.

There is no easy way of telling a child that he/she is adopted. But there are best ways to prepare them in knowing the truth. While they are young, prepare them, by making them feel secured with your love. Because a child will find it hard to accept if he/she haven't felt the love from his/her parents. Build a strong foundation of a family with them, make them feel it. Then little by little, discuss with them a situation involving an adopted child, to open up their mind. I guess it will be the best time to tell them that he/she is an adopted child.

it's a very sensitive situation, and for me, it would be best to tell the child as early as possible, but make sure to tell them slowly. say for example, the kid's 4 years old, it would be better to tell them the truth but still let them feel that you care and love him

It depends upon the mental development and ubderstanding between the parents and adopted child. If child has developed enough and negotiate with ease with parents then it may be good to tell him otherwise at some later stage he might know this fact.

well i think the right time is when the child gets matured and it also depends if the adopter has his own child,but it must not be in his teenage age cause it would affect him emotionally.so its better at maturity

In all the adoption stories I have heard of from people who have been adopted I think from day one is the best time to let them know. Trust and security stats with the parent the moment they receive that child. If the child is a baby I would always start by making comments that I am so greatful God sent you to me. Just say it or something like it every once in awhile so that it is something the child doesn't forget and soon the child will ask, "how did God send me to you"? Then you can say tell the story in a way it suits the childs age every time through out the childs ages. For instances first you wouldn't say your mommy didn't want you if that was indeed the case. You would say your mommy wasn't able to take care of you so she asked me to do it. Something like that. The child doesn't need to know dramatic details if their are any until later when they are seriously saying to you I need to know all the details. I may not be explaining myself completely right here; all I can tell you is that the best situations for adoptions and out comes I have heard of is from the people who grew up knowing they were adopted right from the start.

I think it's better not let the child know it,then he can be always truely happy,if he knew the truth, he would feel a little bit strange more or less, and would not be confident any more,so we'd better keep the adoption secret as long as possible to let the child be happy as long as possible.

There are many adopted children in our family and I have to tell you the best thing is from when they are young so that they grow up knowing. There was children that did not know and when they became older and found out it caused lots and lots of problems in the home and with the young adult Now with the children that have always know it is like nothing to them they know everything and we are very open about talking about the feelings that they have. We answer whatever questions that we can. Now whether they know or do not know is not going to stop most from wanting to know first hand where they came from. Let me just say this that does not take away from what you have done for them that does not take away or change the love that they have for you they just want to know where they are from and there is nothing wrong with that. There are many reasons why people give up their children for adoption and they are not all bad.

It looks so difficult to answer this question. As every one is different not only in the physical but also in the psychology. In my point, if i was an adopted child, I didn't hope that I would be informed from my parent. So if I had an adopted child, would I tell he/her the truth? No, I will never. To he/her growth, it is a better way, I think. Truth sometimes seems cruel not concerning lies or others. Maybe it looks more selfish to he/her, but being a mother, she will hope her child everything will be alright.