if you want to break up you say it in person's face?^^

sad love^^ - girl is crying hugging boy she likes^^
Portugal
October 26, 2010 10:03am CST
hi guys^^ if you want to break up with your bf/gf do you say in his/her face?^^ about me i cant bcs my bf is very far. so if we ever break up i can just say by cam using my cell. but we are not planning to break up^^ but if we did had to be like that :( but in a normal relationship where people are near should always break up looking to the person instead of send an sms, a letter or an email. bcs the person will feel that meant nothing :( what about you guys? you break up saying to the person or by other way? please share your opinions^^
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11 responses
27 Oct 10
i guess it is better to break up face to face so that there won't be misunderstandings and both sides could explain their feelings properly.. (^_^)v
• Portugal
27 Oct 10
yes^^ thats true that you should tell in the person's face^^ and sure that way both could explain their feelings and wouldnt exist misunderstandings^^ a good talk would be the best way to do things^^ you are a good person^^ i dont judge those that use cellphones or letters but to break up is always better to say to the person so he can see your real feelings. that you are sorry and dont mean to hurt him^^
30 Oct 10
so agree.. And maybe this would help them become friends in the end.. (^_^)v
• Portugal
31 Oct 10
yes thats true^^ maybe they could be friends in the end^^ thats right^^ would be good if they could^^ that mean that both understood each other well^^ and that both see the reasons why that happened^^ also if become friends maybe could be together again later on^^ sometimes people break up and then be together again^^ thanks for your sweetie answer^^ wish you answer more of my discussions^^ also i like your nickname too^^ so romantic name ahah^^
@ravend (661)
• Malta
26 Oct 10
I only ever broke up with someone in person once - when i was 14. The rest the guy was afraid because I would make a scene. :x
• Portugal
26 Oct 10
i see that you broke up with a guy when were 14^^ so was long ago^^ anyway why did you break up?^^ was he stupid to you? anyway you mean that the other guys you broke up by sms or something bcs you were afraid to start crying? i understand that isnt easy to break up in person but is the best. at least the person wont feel so bad i guess.
@ravend (661)
• Malta
27 Oct 10
I forgot why I had broken up with him... perhaps I got bored. When you break up with someone in person, you risk the see thje consequence of your action - you risk to feel tempted to not break up with the person... so ye, sms or call is easier - when I was 14 there was no mobile phones, and I couldn't really call the guy, since we had to share a landline with our parents... so ye.. I had to do it face to face. :D
• Portugal
27 Oct 10
perhaps you got bored? ahah you are terrible^^ and sure is true that if you break up in person maybe you can change your mind^^ but about do that by sms or phone call thats a way that other person will feel even worse. and sure ahah if back then wasnt cellphones you had to tell him^^ anyway he didnt cry right? bcs if you were 14 i guess he was also little so maybe he could cry.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
27 Oct 10
When we break up we are dissolving a relationship. We should have the courtesy to let that person know to their face. it is insulting to both parties to do it any other way. We need to find the courage and strength to give respect to what was shared even though it is coming to an end.
• Portugal
27 Oct 10
yes i agree^^ we should always tell in guy's face^^ or else he could think that you never loved him right?^^ and sure would be too bad if you used your cell or internet. im happy that you would be honest and go near him and say. in my case is different sure i couldnt do that near. but im not planning to leave my cutie bf^^ i love him too much^^
@madteaparty (2763)
• Japan
27 Oct 10
Well, it depends on the kind of relationship that you have. Of course in a long distance relationship it can be complicated to wait until you can meet to break up, because when it starts happening in your head it can't stop. In my case in the past when I have finished relationships it was always in person, as I think it's more sincere with the other party instead of hiding under a cell phone or the internet, but that's because I had the possibility of doing so.
• Portugal
27 Oct 10
thanks mad for understand me^^ and sure i see you are a sweet guy by doing that in girl's face^^ im sure that they understood that you didnt mean to hurt them. and sure if you use your cell or the internet the other person might feel that meant nothing to you right? so if i had my bf near and had to break up would say in his face. but im not breaking up with him^^
@wongchoiyee (6513)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 10
Maybe face to face when his mood is ok. But actually its rather rude to do that, I respect him as a person I 'll just email him. Have a nice day, ok?
• Portugal
27 Oct 10
if you respect him really you couldnt send an email. you should tell in his face so he can also say how he feels. and im sure he would want ask you why. so you should talk near and not by an email. that would be cold and he would feel you didnt care for him never. you should always tell in face^^ thats the best way^^ by email would be like a punch in his stomach i guess. have a nice day too^^
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
27 Oct 10
Yes, an email or sms may mean nothing and useless. It doesn't has any feelings at all. You can never know if the sender really means what he/she is telling. So if i were to break with my bf, i would break up with him in person. It shows more respect and honesty.
• Portugal
27 Oct 10
yes you are right^^ i agree that by email or sms or a call would seem careless. would seem that you didnt care for him really. at least if that happened to me i would feel too bad really. anyway im happy that you would do that in person^^ that shows you are a good person^^ and sure it shows more respect^^ and shows that you cared before^^
@hushi22 (4941)
27 Oct 10
hi sweet! it seems that your posts are most likely about lovers, huh? hmmm.... anyway, if i am to break up i would prefer to do it in person because that could mean more to me. something even more true.
• Portugal
27 Oct 10
hi hushi^^ yes my posts are mostly about lovers^^ i always like to talk about love^^ so i rather make discussions about this theme the most^^ about you break up im happy that you would do that in person. if you used other way your bf would think you didnt care for him never maybe. and sure it would mean more to you and to him also that you had the courage to tell in his face. that shows that you are sorry and care even as a friend. anyway i wish you and your bf be together always^^
@tonyllenium (6267)
• Italy
26 Oct 10
yes normally if i want break the relationship i must say her in face..i ahte thse people that prefe to write a letter,send an sms,email,ask to do it to a friend...so i think is correct to talk directly towards the person...than in other cases.
• Portugal
26 Oct 10
yes i agree that we all should tell in face^^ and ask a friend to do that i think is the worse way to break up. the person will think that meant nothing to you all the time and thats why you asked your friend to do that for you. thats selfish but sometimes we are afraid to hurt others. i dont judge who use those ways but we should always tell in face^^
@Karunvig (714)
• India
26 Oct 10
Yes do it on the face bt in a way tht it doesnt hurt the person... as if u will cheat thn the partner will b hurt and will slap ur self respect..better tell on face in a polite manner and in a way that she she shld nt b that much hurt....
• Portugal
26 Oct 10
yes i understand what you mean^^ we should talk in a way where the person doesnt be so hurt^^ and sure if the reason was cheating would be too bad. but how could you say in a sweet way that you cheated? would be impossible ^^ anyway you are right^^ we should try to talk calm and in a sweet way so the person sees that we are really sorry and dont feel so bad.
@harry89 (2332)
• India
26 Oct 10
Well, i am pretty confused about this. According to me we should breakup on his/her face so that we could explain the reason to him/her that why are we doing this. And on the other side if we are breakingup without any reason then we should tell this by sms or through any friend. So that he/she don't ask questions. Happy mylotting. Regards, harry, :-)
• Portugal
26 Oct 10
yes i see what you mean. but in any of the ways i think you should be the one telling that. asking a friend to do that for you would be horrible. the girl would feel too bad and think you didnt respect her and never loved her. anyway is good that at least if you had a reason you would tell in her face. but should always tell in face no matter if has reason or not.
@jharia20 (365)
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
I think i can't do that. Breaking up with my boyfriend face to face? Maybe when i do that my tears just roll down my cheek and i can't say a word. Maybe i'll just send him a letter or text him
• Portugal
26 Oct 10
yes i understand you^^ sure we would cry and be sad but we should say to person face^^ or else he can think you never cared for him. imagine that he broke up with you by an sms? thats a cold thing. you should talk with him and tell him things and not by a letter or sms. im not judging you but you would hurt him even more if acted that way.