Will you take him back if...
By wongchoiyee
@wongchoiyee (7413)
Malaysia
November 1, 2010 9:38am CST
If he went to another country to work for 4 years without informing you then now he is wanting you back?
How is it you will forgive him and accept him?
10 responses
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
1 Nov 10
No, he did not communicate with me at all.
I fall depressed for those years at him and at some other problems as well.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
1 Nov 10
Do you still love him? How did he ask you? Can you feel his sincerity? Give your time to reflect and know what you really want. If you want him as a partner maybe the best thing you can do is accept him first as a friend, start all over again, enjoy everything as a friend then after months or years of enjoying each others company then you can decide if you want him as a friend or more than that. Don't hurry things. It is really you who can decide either to accept him or not. You have to weigh and rationalize everything.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
depends on why he dissappeared for 4 years! plus it will also depend if you still love him? it is only you who can answer that. because if it where in my case it will also depend if i am still loving him or not... 
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
2 Nov 10
He went to abroad to work in his uncle's restaurant over there.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
1 Nov 10
I know it would be different if he had informed me earlier, I only got to know this from his sister.
@Ruby_Dawn (617)
• Spokane, Washington
1 Nov 10
it would all depend on if while he was gone if we talked at all,if we did not I would have probably moved on with my life so I would only except him back as a friend..unless it was meant to be then that is all in God's hands
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
1 Nov 10
No, I did not moved on infact I stuck at my old self. I got to know from her sister last year that he work as an electrician now.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
1 Nov 10
I'm not sure. The situation is complicated. He left me hanging and then after four years he has the guts of asking me back? What kind of nerve he has? Either i moved on or not accepting the man who left you for no reasons would be not that easy. Even the feelings are still there i don't think the love is still the same. I guess it is more of hatred , why and "what if". Maybe i only accept him for closure but not as a partner.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
1 Nov 10
I know I have thought to treat him as a friend now but the old feelings were still there. We have known each other since we were 8.
@RamRes (1723)
• Argentina
3 Nov 10
I would not return. For the first, he left you with no explanation at all, is it that dificult to ask for your opinion or at least inform? And, what kind of love he felt for you that allows him to simply go away with no word? I think that he wasn't loving you enough to simply run away, if he really likes you at least he should ask you or call from the distance.
4 years is a lot time, for both, and a lot of things can happen to you two. And he simply wants to return as if nothing happened? That's hipocrecy. I would not tolerate that.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
1 Nov 10
After 4 years you are both different people. I would treat this just as if I were meeting him for the first time. Don't hold the past against him, but make sure you like him for the presetn not the past before you start a new relationship of any kind
@earnnings (1325)
• India
2 Nov 10
very angry first and later let him say something from his side, then i will decide. If there is love there is trust and i hope if a loving person is 4 years away from you and the situation is not at all in your control.
very sorry for the incident.
@craigy123456789 (1759)
•
2 Nov 10
you never know what he has been up to and if he cares so little as to not tell you that he is going and goes for so long then the answer to your question is no.
@mrsXsmiler (56)
•
1 Nov 10
Absoloutly no way, for some one to just up and leave for as long as he did i wouldnt trust that he wouldnt do it again, id spend all my time making sure he was locked up in the house.
