a father with no money..

Philippines
November 6, 2010 10:01am CST
im a father of two child's i'm so stress in my situation. i have a job but still my earnings is not enough. i dont know what to do now. my eldest is 3 years old and my youngest is 5 months old. life is so hard, but when i see my children they give me hope and strength. my work is far from home but still i get to see them ones a month. im proud to be a dad. it feels good when i hold my young daughter in my hands. so happy to be a dad. i want to provide them the best but how can i increase my earnings???
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18 responses
@buggles64 (2715)
• United States
21 Dec 10
I sincerely believe that the one thing that will help you to increase your earnings, is to believe that, you will have more than enough to provide for your young family. It's all about positive affirmations and stating what you have, focusing on the positive. Instead of saying.."we have been so unlucky" turn that thinking around to "we have been so lucky this year, and next year we will be even luckier." Just by saying and thinking these things, your life will improve. Have a goal in mind, this week, I am going to make xxx amount, and just keep telling yourself that you will meet your goal. Check out "The Secret" by Rhonda Bryne.
• India
10 Dec 10
Hi anthony, welcome to mylot Well getting a good i mean high paying job is a global problem these days, i don't know what job you do or what educational qualification you have, keep applying for jobs that suits your qualification and job experinece, have faith in god, well why don't you try some business? You are definitely a good loving father for your kids.. Thank you so much for sharing. Professor ‘Bhuwan’. . God bless you. Welcome always.
@dorannmwin (36611)
• United States
22 Nov 10
Your situation is undoubtedly a very difficult situation to be in. If you want to try to increase the amount of money that you make, you need to access your qualifications. If you find that you are making the most that you are able to make in the field that you are in right now, you might have to go back to school for another field. However, you also have to understand that as a parent you really will never feel like you have enough money.
• United States
7 Nov 10
Hi Anthony, I am sorry to hear of your situation. I completely understand, I was in a similar situation before I started working at home. I worked long hours (tho not far from home) and by the time I got home and cooked dinner it was bed time. I give you a lot of credit for being a great Dad trying to do the best for your children! Can you find a job a little closer to home? Or have you thought about starting a business online while you are working? It may be a great opportunity for you to get the extra income you need and possibly in time be able to stop working outside of the home. You do need to be careful tho, there are scams across the Internet. I wish you the very best :)
• Philippines
7 Nov 10
Well we really do have a lot of things to work for so that we can meet both ends. Good that you already have kids and I am sure that you are a good father to them. Is your wife working? or in some other ways do earn extra amount of money. These days, couples should be helping hand in hand when it comes to expenses. I myself would encourage your wife to work so that she too can help in the family's expenses. You can start by asking her to work online so even if she is at home looking after the kids, she is earning some money.
@Celanith (2334)
• United States
7 Nov 10
Just being there as much as you can is very good, and you are providing for your children. Is there some way you can find a place closer to where you work and move your family there. Or maybe find a good job closer to them. Talk to people the children's mother if she is willing to move or your boss about a solution. How long have you been working away from them? Is it a good job. You or blessed to even have any kind of a job in our society. It is hard to be away from your family though and I am sure they miss you as well.
• United States
7 Nov 10
I think many men feel as you do. My own husband struggles with these same sort of feelings. He works very hard to provide and still feels like it's not enough. It is something he struggled with as soon as we learned we were having our first daughter, who is now 4 1/2 years old, and it got even harder for him when our soon to be 2 year old came along. Please know this, you are a good dad if not this would not be such a worry and hardship. Do the best that you can with your current situation, and seek out new job opportunities that might make things better. Maybe something closer to home so you can spend more time with your kids so at least you can be reminded of why you work so hard. It is hard for any good father to balance the weight of the financial responsibility that a family brings. I really feel for your situation, and hope that things get better for you and your family. Best of luck, and welcome to mylot, you will find people are very caring and helpful here.
• China
7 Nov 10
In my opinion, you are good father for your two child's, now you are considering you children situation, but other is not. if you children know all of this, them must be proud with such good father, may be you could use your free time to learn something... good luck to you
@ladym33 (11012)
• United States
6 Nov 10
I think what is most important to kids is seeing their father as much as possible. Have you tried to find a better job closer to home. Maybe if you get a job closer to home you can work two jobs and earn a bit more. Mylot is a nice way to earn money. There are are other sites on line to that can provide extra money as well. Feel free to private message me and I can share what I know.
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
6 Nov 10
Ey, Anthony. :) Your situation is not the worst of its kind. YOu are still lucky you got a job to at least provide your kids with their needs. Some have nothing at all... Don't worry, time will come that things will be ok, too. Yes, I know, what you are thinking right now but be patient. Do what is right for you and the kids, pray, too. It will help you keep your mind focus on your priorities. I am a wife and also have a 3 -year old daughter and a seven moth old baby girl. Their father is the only one working while I stay home to take care of them. THere are times I wanted to find work so I can help my husband meet both ends but he wouldn't let me...he thought It is best that I stay with the kids.... I am putting the situation unto God's hands. Praying that God will continuously bless him with good health and sound mind. Also protects him from harm (his job is a bit risky). Be patient. God is watching over us and HE hears your prayers...
@maehan (1446)
• United States
6 Nov 10
I can understand how you feel. I had gone through this. My father did not have the money and the entire family struggling. I have to start to work when I am 8 to help the family to keep on going. However, I am still very happy as long as one family get together.
• India
6 Nov 10
Please don't lose hope. Everything will be fine. With ur determination and hard work sure u will find a way where u can earn money. Believe in god and make sincere effort. Sure things will improve. Welcome to myLot my friend.
@doormouse (4619)
6 Nov 10
are you a good dad,if so then it isn't as much as a huge problem,as they will know you love them,if you were a rubbish dad and had no money then i would say pull your finger out of your backside and take on another job,,listen,,everyone has money troubles at some point,i am at the moment,we all want the best for our kids but sometimes the best we can do is just love them,all those extras aren't always needed,as long as you are there for them and love them,and can provide food,clothes and heat for them,then you are doing fine,don't be too hard on yourself xxx
@narayan2006 (2955)
• India
6 Nov 10
Considering your difficult situation,you need to explore ways and means to increase your regular income by adding some part time jobs. You are the best judge to assess your skill and competence to match with the part time jobs available in your local area.As a responsible father,you need to keep proper care of the children by exploring all sources of income and support. On line sources may marginally meet your needs. Thanks.
@beeh13u (1040)
• Philippines
6 Nov 10
That's very hard. I know what you are feeling since I had observed my father and mother looking for money when raising the 5 of us. They had to borrow money and get a lot of credit cards. Since you have an offline job, it's good that you started an online job. How about trying onbux or neobux? It's a great way to earn money too. I am new to the site but I'll be patient for it. Try it. Some says you can earn up to $20. We started poor honestly. My father considered us his asset. That's why he protected us so that we'll have a better life to live. He doesn't want us to experience the mistakes he did. Now I understand his over protectiveness. A lot of hard work and dedication, he is now happy with our achievement. So try hard for your children to get a better education. It doesn't matter if they are in a public school. All it needs is Knowledge. That's the key to a successful life.
@maximax8 (27060)
6 Nov 10
You sound like a very loving father and it seems that you are doing your best for your children. Right now you are earing a low amount of money in your salary or wages. Your children are currently young and by the time your children are 10 years old and 7 years old you might be in a different job with higher earnings. In the mean time there would be no harm in your getting extra money from on-line earing. Now you are on excellent My Lot you could begin to do that. Happy living involves eating, drinking, playing with toys, looking at books and getting loving care for the average young children.
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
6 Nov 10
Hi there anthony, welcome to myLot!! hope you enjoy you stay here, as everyone does.. As I see it, you are a great father for your children. being a father gives you happiness, and I know how hard it is to want to provide them the best but still what you do seems not to be enough.. But, on the brighter side, it's actually not only the money that counts. Just work hard, and have faith that everything will come for you soon if you just pray hard and ask for His assistance. It's just sad to know that for the sake of having a work, you have to stay far from your family, and I understand how hard it feels to be away from them, and just see them once a month. But be strong. Just think that it's for their sake also that you have to do it.. I am sorry because I can't advice you anything on how you can increase your earnings, all I can tell you is, be strong and stay positive.. Love your family,and always pray to God for He can surely help you..
@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
6 Nov 10
hi, Don't feel too bad. Your willingness to give them good future and having the urge to give them good life is good enough to inspire you and give you strength to moved on and fight with life. I am a single mom,have 3 kids (young teens) and i don't have a good salary either. Just enough to send my kids to school and provide them enough food and everything that they want. As long as your family is in good health,that's enough to be thankful. Just do your job and who knows,you will soon be promoted. have a great weekend