I Lost The Best Psychiatrist=^..^=

United States
November 15, 2010 1:34am CST
Yesterday I received the saddest news and I'm still trying to deal with it. My psychiatrist called me up saying that he would like to drop by and have a talk with me. I thought this was rather unusual because usually when male staff come over they usually have a female staff with them or they don't come over at all and we meet them in an office in the next building over. Anyway, he came over at 3 pm and when we sat down he starts off by saying, "I'm leaving." This really blew me away and I asked him why. He said that he'd also been a part of the mobile unit that goes from place to place for those people who are homebound and they saw how efficient he was and always more on the ball than the others they seemed to give him more case loads than the others. I believed him because he has always struck me as a person with stronger ethics and morals than most people I've known. He's never been just a psychiatrist to me, but, a friend. Do you know what he told me? He said that with all his other clients he just put the notice on or under their doors, but, he wanted to tell me the news in person. That really touched my heart because it affirms for me that there was always some kind of friendship between us. And the way he opened up to me about the reason why he's leaving. He could have just said that he found another position somewhere, but, he went into details about why he's leaving.. I told him this makes me so sad. Another thing he did with me that is an absolute no-no between staff and residence......I asked him, "How are we going to keep in touch with each other?" He said, "I'll give you my e-mail." The rule of thumb is that when a staff member leaves or a resident moves there should be a minimum of a year before there is any contact between them. So, unless anyone here snitches on us..... LOL!....... no one will know about it! He was more than a psychiatrist to me. He was a friend and I really trusted him. Usually during each monthly session after we talked about my medication and how it's working we would spend about 15 minutes just talking as friends and I really liked that. I'm going to miss him terribly. I never did ask him about his plans and I regret not asking about that. Nor did I ever ask him why he felt it was important to tell me personally this news. I regret that also. I think partially because we got sidetracked with Mija. He really loves Mija and Mija really loves him. Then we got to talking about his cats. Well, you know I could go on and on about this, but, I'm longwinded enough as it is. Please pray for me and that the new psychiatrist is someone worth the title. I know that no one can take his place Take care everyone and have a great day! Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
3 responses
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
17 Nov 10
Wow..I hate to hear he is leaving. It is so hard to find a kindred spirit when you need one. I think it will be very hard to find someone that you trust or respect as much as this one. I think that everyone will just be trying to hold a candle to him once you get a new one. At least you can still keep in contact with him if you ever had a crisis that you just could not share with anyone else. I won't tell Take care and good luck.
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
Everyone of us loses friends. That's quite a story you have there. I'm sure you'll find other friends and i'm also sure there's no one out there to replace him. Have a nice day.
@dragon54u (31605)
• United States
15 Nov 10
I can imagine how upset you must be. I have a friend who, because of finances, gets mental health care at a teaching hospital and his psychiatrists used to change yearly. It was very hard to make any progress that way, starting over every year. Now he has a permanent doctor and is feeling like he's finally progressing. I hope you get someone just as good or better to help you.