No Replys To Your Responders?-Why?

@jujunme (2450)
United States
November 26, 2010 7:58pm CST
There are very few things that will make me leave a discussion topic faster than someone who posts a discussion, asks for replys then suddenly disappears into thin air. Why start a thread if you have no intention of replying to those who took the time to respond.? Even when i find an interesting discussion where i know i will be able to contribute, i will leave the discussion when i see dozens of responses and yet not one word from the discussion starter.I can well understand how hard it is and how much time and effort it takes to respond to each one especially when someone receives dozens of responses, but i am speaking of those who leave "no" response at all to any of their responders.My question is, why is this done? isn't the purpose of starting a discussion a wish to get replies? , or to have your discussion resolved? Just makes no sense to me.
11 responses
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
27 Nov 10
I really feel bad not replying to my responders. It is not something that I want to do here as I feel every responses need to be acknowledged though there is no hard and fast rules requiring our comments. Maybe I will take time to come round to everyone but still I make sure that I pen my words to indicate that I am reading their responses and appreciate their supports. It is one way of spreading goodwill among mylotters since this is a social networking site and leaving responses to fate is only defeating the whole purpose of starting discussion.
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@jujunme (2450)
• United States
27 Nov 10
I admit it's difficult to reply to "everyone" who responds to our discussions all at the same time., especially when you get quite a few responses.I myself will go back after a few days to see if anyone else responded and then, i will give them my reply. but, not to acknowledge any of your replies is as you mentioned , not what this site is about.It's almost like someone asking you a question, giving them an answer and having them ignore you.I would just like to know why these menbers start discussions in the first place.
• United States
27 Nov 10
Maybe those discussions were started because the originator needed an answer and there wasn't a need to respond to the response beyond a thank you.
@jujunme (2450)
• United States
27 Nov 10
That would be ok but, there are discussions here where the thread starter does not acknowledge his or her responders "at all" and in my opinion this is not what a social networking site is supposed to be about.Why start a discussion , ask for replies and then leave your own discussion without so much as a thank you.Why should i or anyone take the time to respond, just to be ignored? and nevermind the ones i've come across where the responders go through the trouble of giving lengthy, really well thought out responses, only to have his or her reply ignored.not fair at all.
• United States
27 Nov 10
I will confess that I'm usually disappointed when I don't get a response to my response. Even if the other person and I are at odds with each other, I still want to hear from that person.
@jujunme (2450)
• United States
27 Nov 10
Yes, i get disappointed as well. also, i do find that sometimes if you're at odds with someone they don't like being disagreed with and don't know what to say in response. Either way, Some people forget that the purpose of Mylot is the interaction of their members and exchange of ideas.
• United States
27 Nov 10
I don't like this either. I personally try to respond to each response I receive on discussions I start, but sometimes I forget to log in or don't have the time. When that's the case i'll respond to as many as I have time for whenever I log in, so others won't think I bailed on the discussion. But if it's been a really long time since I received a response to a discussion I started(2 weeks +) then I won't check it as often.
@jujunme (2450)
• United States
27 Nov 10
I think most of us who do respond to our discussions understand how it can become rather difficult to reply to each response all at the same time.I don't think anyone stays here for hours at a time , just checking to see if they received any new responses to their discussions, no one has that amount of time to do this. But as you mentioned,you don't want anyone thinking you "bailed " on them and that is the fair thing to do.I wish some members here thought the same.
• United States
2 Dec 10
I just check the stats from my profile, I don't have to view each discussion to see if there are any new replies because it shows the number of responses and the username of the last person who replied.
• United States
27 Nov 10
There is a newbie here who never returns responses. I could not pm her so I asked on her profile page why she does not respond to other who respond to her. I just don't bother to respond to her at all.. Being I am one who starts plenty of posts. I know just how hard it is to keep up. I do the very best i can to resppond back until I see the post is dying off and I am done with it. LOL You got to draw the line if mylot won't.
@jujunme (2450)
• United States
27 Nov 10
i also don't answer everyone at the same time or if someone gives a similar response i won't comment on it again. But, like you,i will come back to see if i received anymore reponses and will try to keep up.and as i mentioned in this discussion, if i notice there are no replies to a certain discussion, i will not respond eitherif the one who started the thread doesn't care enough to reply back, i see no reason to waste my time.
@jujunme (2450)
• United States
27 Nov 10
BTW, Did the newbie reply to your message on her profile page? if so what did she say? or, if like in her discussions, did she ignore that as well?lol
@1hopefulman (33710)
• Canada
28 Nov 10
They probably don't realize that one earns more from responding and discussing than by just starting discussions and leaving them. Probably newcomers or people that have never become familiar with how Mylot works.
@jugsjugs (13045)
27 Nov 10
I think that there re alot of people that are like me and will start a discussion or a few discussions and then go on to answer peoples discussions that they are starting.I tend to go back to old discussions that i have started and do a few responses then i come off mylot for a while to try to do more.There are alot of people as well that will start a discussion and then return to the responses that they have had a few days or a week or so later on.Some people only get a small amount of time on her as they have other things to do.I do not mind what people do on here as long as they do not upset other people.
@jujunme (2450)
• United States
27 Nov 10
I just feel it's important and polite to acknowledge anyone who responds to our discussions and it doesn't have to be all at the same time. I do understand we can't always take the time to respond to everyone right after they reply, but when someone starts a thread asking a question or asking for replies, i think the least they can do is come back and reply to people who have taken the time to comment.Afterall this is a social network website and not just a place to earn a few dollars.
• China
27 Nov 10
There are many reasons.First,someone who post a note just want to earn replies.Second,some people do not have enough time to respond.At last,maybe it is not worth to respond your post for them,your post is no meaning.
@jujunme (2450)
• United States
27 Nov 10
If someone has the "time" to start a discussion, then, in my opinion they should take some time to reply , not just leave the discussion altogether, just to earn a little money.it's very unfair to anyone who took the time to comment on ones discussion and receive no reply at all.
@chuyins123 (2118)
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
Well, I feel bad and guilty of that. Sometimes I haven't got the time to reply to all responders as at times when I get responses I am easily dragged offline because of my job. But thanks to this post, I'm quite reminded. I'll make every effort to atleast reply to my responders. Thanks. God bless! :D
@jujunme (2450)
• United States
27 Nov 10
I do realize people don't always have the time to respond to "all" their discussions since i know how busy they are. But i feel one should at least take some time to respond to anyone who takes the time to reply to your discussion, even if you have to come back at a later time to do this.Glad my post helped you and God bless as well.
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
That really happens here on mylot. Most discussion starter doesn't check the comment on their discussions and will not make time to comment back. It would really be a more valuable discussion if starters would take time to comment back. All they care about is they got plenty of responses.
@jujunme (2450)
• United States
27 Nov 10
It really does happen a lot and it's very frustrating and now i refuse to respond to anyone who i know will not reply back. What's the purpose of this? Why should i or anyone take the time to acknowledge someones discussion, if they don't even take the time to at least reply? And what's so sad is, some of these discussions get a lot of responses and all they get for their effort is to be ignored.
• United States
27 Nov 10
New Mylot users who just want to earn and earn, are the ones who are the first to leave. They don't think about the rules whatsoever and do what they please. They probably think they will get money from the responses they get. I really hate it when a new group of new member just come and go. If only they would take five minutes to read and ask for help. Instead they just are clueless and wander around the website. Sad, really.
@jujunme (2450)
• United States
27 Nov 10
I agree,and they don't even realize they are not going to earn by starting a discussion and leaving it without one single reply to anyone. What really bothers me is, Mylot's guidelines for posting and responding to discussios are there for "everyone" to read.but it seems some members just don't care what they post, or even if their "own" discussions are responded to, very "sad" indeed.
@ally12 (1204)
• Philippines
2 Dec 10
Maybe the discussion owner was overwhelmed by the responses he/she got and nothing with sense has grew in her/his head to defend her/his topic ; )