Men! What makes them so insensitive sometimes?

No devijay! As Apsara had pointed out, it is better to give in in order to maintain peace at home. And now , that you have confirmed that he is like this with his own self , there is no alternative except to grin and bear it. I would suggest that you convince yourself that it was all for good and thankfully you have got one job off your head. If we start thinking that things could have been worse and we are much better off, if we look at other people who are pestered in mnay other ways by their partners, if we satisfy ourselves with his good characteristics alone then your life would be much more peaceful. If you are also dependent on him in some way, then it makes greater sense for you to give in and perhaps learn to like getting wet and learn to laugh when you get delayed or caught in rain.THere is no choice. Regarding others telling him, you have the answer straight. HE will not listen. It is after all his own nature and if it comes to it, he would say that he is not causing them any harm by being like this. In other words it is "mind your business'--he means this. Am I right ?

You nailed his problem correctly kalav56. Yes, he does torture himself too like this. But he depends on me more sometimes and it makes it even more difficult for me to say no. But I do see this quality in most men and that is what makes me wonder why nobody tells them that what they are doing is hurting the other person, especially their family members?

Incidentally, does he have a very strssful job, and does he work long hours with stiff deadlines? THen my response would be different.

I hope you get the chance...I'll come and hold him down for you.

Someday for sure, MsTickle. Someday for sure. [em]evilgrin[/em]

Hi MsTickly. I had replied to sombody else thst he was and still is not in town. So I could not say no. Yes, it is frustrating sometimes. And I would definitely like to box his ears one day

I understand you very well devijay, even I have same opinion when it comes to choose between war and peace in the house. Sometimes I feel too weak to argue and find it better to take some trouble and finish the topic instead of burning your blood in putting some sense in people who will never learn. I am sure there are many like you and me. This is what is called adjustment in life, and I think 90% of Indian wives are doing this very sincerely.. Have a nice day.

I did it because I really want some peace at home. That's why. If I did not do it, it would have led to a big fight which I wanted to avoid right now. I was in no mood to fight with him nor was he in a mood to listen. Most of the time he is in no mood to listen. So nowadays, I just give in to keep the peace at home. And it spoils my mood too for the whole day or sometimes even days together! I do take a firm stand on many issues which are very very important and which might affect our future. In those matters, I do not budge. But otherwise, I let him have his way. My only thought is, he could have been a little more sensible and thought it through.

Sorry Devijay, I didn't mean to make you repeat yourself...your comments weren't there when I responded. You do have to wonder why he did not see how difficult this would be for you and especially since you told him. Men can be stubborn. I still would of refused and done it at a better time unless it was extremely important and from what you say, it could of waited. Anyway, it's done and over now so I'm glad you made it there and back and hope you are in a better mood now.

Hey sid! There is no need for you to be sorry. I was just informing you, thats all. I am glad that it is over. But there are some formalities which have to be finished and I have to go there again. But am hoping that this time, the sky is clear and I don't encounter any problems. Yes, my mood is better now and thanks for asking. Sorry if my post seemed a little rude. It was not meant to be that way.

As I replied above to someone else, he is not in town. So I got the instructions from him over phone. Secondly, as I told earlier, I wanted some peace and quiet at home. I would have asked him to do it himself had he been here. But since he was not in station, I could not refuse. I did tell him politely a couple of times and chided him as well. But, being the thick headed person he is sometimes, it did not get through. So I did let it be and agreed to go. What I wonder about is that why does it not strike him that it would be very difficult for me to do this?

that was funny! =)

Yup I do look back now and laugh about a great many things this man put me through, at the time I use to fume, and now I laugh, because I am so rid of him.

@hardworkinggurl: HAHAHA! I love the "One of the reasons why he is an ex" part. @deviljay: You may want to read my discussions too so I'd tell you I have the same insight that most men are typically insensitive and I could no longer wonder why because many times it's useless as you seldom see the change. It'd be like an illusion if it is to happen then. =)

I really think it's due to their one-tracked minds. The only thing he was focused on is the thing that he wanted. As women, we think things the full way throught, as well as all positive and negative possibilities. good luck

Hi tck_01. I sometimes fail to underestant why men and women differ so much in their views. Yes, we do worry more because men are so thick headed sometimes. No offense to you, but that is how most of the men are whom I have met till now. Be it my family members, or my friends or my relatives. And nequab, it is true that men sometimes concentrate only on what they want and do not think about the consequences. But I have seen some women do it too. So I guess it depends on the person and not the gender. Good day.

I know it would be difficult to say no to your boss. And even more difficult to say no to the ones you love, yspmyl. Isn't that true? I do fight back for a lot of things. But some, I avoid fighting because I know it is a lost cause and I can never win.

No unemployment here, zenkey. He is in a well paying job and so that is ruled out. But it has more to do with me listening to him and doing what he says than anything else. Sometimes, it is plain indifference and insensitivity.