Children left for adoption... Is it the right thing or not?

@r3jcorp (1384)
December 10, 2010 5:51pm CST
I know 2 mothers who is suffering emotionally these days. The first one is pregnant and currently in jail. She left her other 2 children in the care of a 60 years old mother who is the 2nd mother i am referring to. At first, the 2nd mother is planning to take care of the coming baby but after weighing things, she decided to tell her daughter that she cannot afford (financially & physically) to take care of the baby and maybe its the best to left the baby for adoption. The 2nd mother is currently working from 8am-5pm, with a heart problem, and her salary is not enough to sustain the school needs of the other 2 grandchildren. The pregnant mother, with a heavy heart decided to give away the baby for adoption which they both think have a better chance of getting a better future on the hands of other aspiring parents... For me, i agree with their decision, it's heart breaking yet its the most practical thing to do, besides they also have to consider the needs of the first 2 children... for you out there, is it the right decision or not?
5 responses
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
16 Dec 10
I think that though it would be a very painful decision to have to make, it is the right decision that the mother is making for her baby. Her child will probably have every opportunity in the world to have a good life because of the decision that she is making. In addition to that, if she opts to do an open adoption, there will be the chance that she might be able to meet her child at some point in the future. I think that adoption is always the right choice if you aren't able to raise your child properly by yourself.
@Lore2009 (7388)
• United States
11 Dec 10
I agree that that is the right decision. It doesn't mean that they will be separated forever, well, I hope. After things clear up and the child grows up, there are many ways the family can come together again.
@maximax8 (28570)
• United Kingdom
11 Dec 10
The lady that is pregnant and in jail might regret giving her baby up for adoption when her prison sentence ends. Her mother is elderly and has health problems plus a full time job so that is challenging for her. They have to consider the lady's two children and they should stay with their grand mother until their mom gets out of jail. Maybe another relative could help out. It is sad to say it but adopting the new baby does sound like a good idea.
@Rescha (3)
• Indonesia
11 Dec 10
it was so complicated, i think i agree if this is for the good of the child and not to take another benefits from this adoption. With the 2 mother asked for payment of adoption, for means that it is not for child traffiking, and if she really want to give away the baby it must be legal.the disease and the working time that the 2nd mother have become conciderung to give away the baby to aspirig parent.
• Philippines
11 Dec 10
That is sad But, yes, for the children's sake it's the right thing to do...if the woman is not able to give the children their needs, because she could barely sustain her own needs then I think giving them up for adoption is the most humane thing to do...