Ex lover.

India
December 22, 2010 10:50am CST
Suppose you have gone to visit a place of interest with your spouse and child and there you suddenly come across with your ex lover who is also accompanied by spouse and child. Would you feel embarrassed or rather glad to see your ex lover after such a long period? What do you also expect to be the reaction of your ex lover?
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@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
22 Dec 10
I would be very happy to see the person, if i loved him really much. If i didn't felt so strong feelings for him, i would be glad to ask how is the person and how is going his life... In a good way, i hope. With me everything is personal, i mean depends on the person how long it will take me to forget my feelings for the person, if i am married it means that for sure i've forgotten everything from the past, giving my heart and soul to my husband, so that kind of meetings doesn't scare me at all. But i still don't know will i tell my husband who is the person, or not. It will be a friendly hello and may be few questions about the life of the ex lover, so it's not big deal for me, but for my husband it could be, so may be won't tell him who is the guy we met. Embarrassed ... i don't think that i have to feel that way. The life is just that way, someone comes, another leave ... That's normal.
• India
2 Sep 12
I think you would take it sportingly. But would you recollect your sweet memories of that ex-lover, at least for a moment and introduce the person with your spouse confessing clearly the relation in the past?
@alaskanray (4642)
• United States
22 Dec 10
It entirely depends on how the relationship ended. Were we friends? Or did he do me dirt? A lot of my exes I would rather never even be aware occupied the same planet as I do but there are two or three that I feel friendly toward, mainly because they never lied to me or made false promises. Honesty makes a big difference.
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• India
2 Sep 12
Yes, you have mentioned the actual point indeed. If the relationship ended bitterly, you would never be able to take it easily, rather, it would raise the past hatred and anger again within you and you would curse the God for presenting the person again before you. But if the relationship ended sportingly, it may remind you of those sweet memories associated with that ex-lover.
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
26 Dec 10
Hopefully, the relationship ended well. So, I wouldn't feel embarassed or awkward seeing an ex lover. And that I hope she would also feel the same. Except for one, I think all my relationships ended well. And even the one that didn't end well, I've already made up for it, and I think we've had a good 'closure' since. I might not go into details with my spouse and children, but I think I'd feel good seeing her also happy.
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@cssiduyz (1054)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 10
why be ashamed? should we shake one another / say hello to them because if we feel ashamed that means you do not want to see your ex-lover. and if we saliing greet, we can introduce each other to one another on their spouse. so there's no shame if we meet him again.
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@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
23 Dec 10
I would be very embrassed and pretend that I do not know her. I think she will reacted same from my expression. That is if you know that your wife or husband tells you of all of her or his past life. Otherwise, just simple pretend and very thing will go on as normal.
@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
24 Dec 10
Yea, the relationship created was with a human being that forgetting is usually not too easy, the feelings are there and that memory good or bad will bring it back. One way or another, when you meet there will be that recall or avoid it by whatever means you think appropriate.
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
2 Sep 12
oh Gosh! That is what I am dreadful of seeing, not unless that ex lover is someone that I did not have that serious relationship with. Although I am happy with my lie now, maybe seeing him will just make me feel unhappy.
@tkonlinevn (5784)
• Vietnam
18 Jan 11
I know that my old lover will smile with me and my family. Because, before I left him, I love him very much. And after I left him, I'm focus on my private family perfectly.
@shaggin (36328)
• United States
1 Jan 11
I have had this happen and I usually either just smile and walk by or I will smile and say a quick hello as I walk by. I would stop and talk to them if they stopped me to talk but I wouldnt care to stop and talk to them and make conversation. My husband that I split up from I stop and talk to but its usually just something to do with the kids. I really dont like running into past boyfriends its pretty embarrasing. I always think they must think how bad I look now a days.
@ElicBxn (60771)
• United States
24 Dec 10
I think I would be happy, but since I've never HAD a lover, its pretty hard to have an EX-lover
@savypat (20247)
• United States
23 Dec 10
I live in a very different place than I did before I was married, and of course my name is different, I never expect to meet any old loves, if I did I would be very interested to find out why, since I think meetings like that are meant to be. Now if my Hubby met one of his, he would be very glad to visit and that very fact would mean they would be happy to see him also. He chats with old friends all over the world and is always happy to find someone he hasn't seen in a while to catch up. I don't think he ever had a bad break up, and if he did, he doesn't remember it, only the good times.
• United States
23 Dec 10
I sometimes have seen . I feel a thought of what if , changes would had been, maybe good or maybe not. What it would have been like. embrassed no but my thought s I could not have controled to think that way..wondering what if...
• Philippines
23 Dec 10
hello doctordidi! actually, it depends on who the ex-lover is, the length and intensity of our relationship back then and the way we parted. for my part, i would be very glad to see him enjoying life together with his family. I don't hold grudge for life is too short to be spent on holding grudges against people you have loved at one time or another. If he is not happy to see me and avoids me, fine with me. However, i would not want to enforce my congeniality to him should he ever felt threaten or embarass talking to me.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
23 Dec 10
This would depend on how the relationship had ended. it might be a bit awkward to be in the presence of an ex-lover. yet again, it might be a way to bring closure too.
@camperkid (118)
• Denmark
23 Dec 10
No need to feel embarrassed. It's like saying you feel guilty for having had other partners. I mean as long as it wasn't an affair, there is nothing to be ashamed of what so ever. All it shows to your spouse is, that you are a natural sociable human being.
@zgl2010 (17)
• China
23 Dec 10
i'm happy to meet them,after all the orgiginal love each other,but it is more important to later in life happier,if they meet with diffiuculties,i will do my ability to help them
@celticeagle (117267)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Dec 10
Perhaps I would expect the ex lover to be polite. They may or may not say anything to you or even acknowledge you. They may not know how to act and be nervous about it. If they just nodded at you in acknowledgement I think that would be enough for me. It is not as if the two of you are still lovers.
• United States
22 Dec 10
Because my ex and I left on bad terms I would not enjoy the re-encounter. However, I am an amicable person so basically I can greet but on we go, this way I do not give off ill feelings and or the thought of being rude.