What is it with the he said, she said things in discussions

@jugsjugs (13045)
January 1, 2011 6:17pm CST
All i have read tonight is people either moaning about what colour their stars are,what number their star has and even abit of he said she said and nasty bits inbetween.Tonight has made me think why people are on here really and i think some people act like children and should get a grip.This is a discussion site, not a number,colour and gobbing site.I come on here to have fun, to chill out, to have a discussion.This site was such a fun site, it only takes a few people to spoil it and the reputation it has.
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• United States
2 Jan 11
I have not been on pretty much all day and find that logging in I am stumbling more and more with the star rating drop. I go up and down to where I hope it makes the trolls dizzy to keep up with me as their efforts must be exhausting... LOL.. I come on here as a very good natured person to see where not only I can learn something but perhaps help all others with some humble advise. It is quite disheartening to continue to read that so many get afflicted by this and not just me. I suppose unless a member was afflicted by it they really do not understand the feeling as I do not see a lower star member raving on how great the feeling is to be lower. At any rate we get disappointed, dust off and move forward. That is all that can be done.
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• India
2 Jan 11
As you said once, your Wendy avatar is always followed... Best of luck
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• United States
2 Jan 11
As active as I am you would think the followers would get tired.
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
2 Jan 11
I have been on and off all day and haven't seen any posts like that. I guess I was on at the right time and missed them..lol
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@jugsjugs (13045)
2 Jan 11
You are lucky, as this has happened two days on the trot now and it comes to something that it is the first thing that you get to see when you come on here.
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@mysdianait (64059)
• Italy
2 Jan 11
Carmela Happy New Year! I jhave just seen your comment above. We spoke of it affecting earnings on a post a few weeks back. You had forgotten?
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• United States
2 Jan 11
@jugs, I usually come here through my inbox and my friends postings, so maybe that is how I am able to avoid them..:) @MD I recall something about the rating, but I thought it was because it had to do with people will reply to to those with a better rating. I take it is in the guidelines and I should check it out again..lol Because I thought years ago when I researched and went to many posts it turned out to be nothing but a rating system that mylotters judge other mylotters, guess I was wrong...
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• United States
2 Jan 11
People really shouldn't care about the stars because they are not that big of a deal. Face it, not everyone is going to agree with you or like you, but you will get some people who will think that you are cool. You can't please everyone. Stars are more of a representation of popularity.
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@mysdianait (64059)
• Italy
2 Jan 11
Stars affect earnings, as stated in the FAQs and proved by those who previously had a lower star.
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• India
2 Jan 11
Stars affect the goodwill and enthusiasm as not stated in FAQ and proved recently...
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• United States
2 Jan 11
Wow, you guys are seriously worried about all of that? That is pretty sad. You are not worried about giving people the truth, or helping them out if they truly need it. That star is all that matters to you guys. Wow, really, wow. Stars and money matter to people more than truth and helping people.
@mysdianait (64059)
• Italy
2 Jan 11
Could it be that Santa did not bring the kids all that they wanted for Xmas so they come on here and vent their anger, either by bashing stars or ranting when theirs goes down? This is a playground but sadly it's not only the kids that are playing. A lot were missing, including admin today, and the tone of things went down. Hang on in there and it will pick up again!
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@jugsjugs (13045)
2 Jan 11
I think that perhaps admin, should also look at who is dishing out constant minus ratings as well, as from what i can make out there are a few people that are getting loads of minus ratings as well as discussions deleted for no rule breaking, so i can understand why they maybe a bit fed up.For people that have just started on here, it do not really give them a reason to stay on this site.
@mysdianait (64059)
• Italy
2 Jan 11
I agree about there being a few people who are getting constant neg ratings. I can see that too Discussions don't get deleted for no reason at all. GAA is often in discussions recently and explains the reasons for the deletions. It may seem to us that there was no reason but polls, repeated topics and plagiarised posts are rampant. The number of repeated Christmas/New Year topics was appalling and there are still many deletions which will happen when he gets back. Many of the new users learn quickly from those deletions. It seems that recently there ae MANY who have got off to a better start because of them.
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@jugsjugs (13045)
2 Jan 11
The new users of this site are not the problem here.There are a few people that are the same people that are dishing out all the neg ratings to the same people all the time for no reason, this is obvious, what are admin going todo about those people, these are the people that are also not helping other people in staying on here.If people keep giving neg rating to others as well as a few of their friends then surely the discussion is then deleted.I do understand that admin have their work cut out with all the discussions that are started, but it is also all the gobbing and the nasty stuff.
@primeaque86 (8113)
• Philippines
2 Jan 11
I understand your feeling. It just shows you are already feed up by all these issues. Your emotion is well-decoded tonight. That sharpness made me run eye to several responses first, i have so nice question now, is this kind of thread (i am referring to those topics you are pointing about) make there stars and colours fade and decrease more? I hope that it doesnt sound a pointless query. Of course, i can understand your side, because you see topics like these are simply stagtants. Yet, i understand there and my side as well. As, i guess many of us here to are caring about there number and stars. Because that is a reward. I guess apart from the cents we get from here, seeing our number grow is a great feeling, and why others seem to be selfish enough, pulling other mylotters back down? I got a topic deleted recently and it was 5 months already, and i dont know the reason, i am disappointed though i almost forget that topic. Lastly i come here to interact, to enjoy, to learn from others., and aside from that, i care about my reputation, and i am sad if others would rate against me, when i am just being honest and reflectin what i really think. I wish others can classify transparency of opinion from a violation against mylot guidelines. Happy new year!
@hora_fugit (5437)
• India
2 Jan 11
I come to myLot when I feel low and want to express. But when logged in, seeing so many people happily interchanging, I just hold back. There are some sad ones too. But I don't think they should not express themselves. It eases out the pain. Now crying about the stars and number is quite childish, except... the ones I came across were result of final breakdown of patience. A safety valve.. It started hurting the reputation too? Oh no... :O Do I make any sense? I wanted to read before replying... but can't wait sooo long. Have a happy time :)
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@jugsjugs (13045)
2 Jan 11
Tonight as well as last night the things that i have read have been getting nasty towards people for no reason and that is what has made me angry, as that is the things that i saw when i came on here.As for the star and number thing, i am like you i come on here to have fun and to chill out, as i can not get out any more,so this is one way to socialise and it took a few people that are getting nasty to make my mind up not to hurry back on this site again and find another place to belong to.I think that there are a few chat rooms that i may join where there are adults rather than all the childish people.
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@GardenGerty (98255)
• United States
2 Jan 11
People need to feel confident that they can express themselves like adults and not lose anything. I have had my star go down in the past, and it took two years to get it back up. I do not think I posted about it at all. I have been looking around at new user discussions and recent discussions, jugs, and I find some really nice people. I know you do not need the stress of all the bickering.
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• India
2 Jan 11
Well I did comment about my star.. but it was about getting blue from red. I had been red for years and like the color. Maybe I won't want it back but that's a maybe Sorry to hear all this is going up and front for everyone to come across just after logging in... I too felt loss of cheerfulness recently. But as always, blamed it on myself!
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@thesids (22359)
• Bhubaneswar, India
2 Jan 11
Hi Jugs The young starters get fascinated by these colors, numbers and this happens because of the mis-conception - the higher and brighter these are the better money they would make. The newbies (may not apply to all but I am sure for the kind you refer to) never read the complete set of guidelines (me too is yet to have a thorough read even after completing a year here) and this is what makes things awry. But the ones who get on to understand the MyLot Family better, enjoy the real thing and make life for many pleasant and happening here at MyLot. In my small experience of 13 months association with MyLot, I believe the Fun Part always existed - thanks to the great company of my family members - and It would continue for many more years. The ones who spoil it would eventually move off to other sites as they would not find it interesting to them (because they are here for wrong purposes). Cheers, theSids.
@mysdianait (64059)
• Italy
2 Jan 11
'the higher and brighter these are the better money they would make.' Hi the sids! That is not a misconception. It is absolutely true. A user with a low star will earn less than a user with a high star dor the same post, as stated in the FAQs and previous responses here
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@thesids (22359)
• Bhubaneswar, India
2 Jan 11
lol... that was news to me... I never read those guidelines that seriously. I stand corrected now.
@Vaultar (95)
• Romania
2 Jan 11
Yea , I also noticed there were a load of star related discussions lately but I guess people are just confused about them and another reason for the appearance of random lame discussion subjects is probably because everyone until now was posting discussions related to Christmas and the new year and they're outta ideas now. :D
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@jugsjugs (13045)
2 Jan 11
Its not just the rating of the stars and the numbers in the star that is getting me mad, it is all the people that are getting really nasty on here for no reason.Who cares what colour the star is, if they aint enjoying the site then why dont they just go some where else, rather than moan on and on and on.I am going on another site where there are no children and childish people.When people grow up, then perhaps i will be back, but this has been going on with people being nasty for months so i wont hold my breath.All the good discussions were deleted to keep all the ones that have broke all the rules, strange if you ask me.
@GardenGerty (98255)
• United States
2 Jan 11
I think too many people have had too much Christmas cookies. It is hard to discuss in those situations, as you have been describing, but I hop in sometimes. We can voice our opinions and have our say. I am here for the money, but also for my friends and for my own entertainment. So, in keepings with being entertaining, Jugs, I know you got a new kitten, did you tell us its name, I forget.
@jugsjugs (13045)
2 Jan 11
His name is Winter.I come on here to chill out and have a fun time trying to be social.There are other people that come on here to moan about the colour of their stars and the number that they have,lol, then the others come on here to try to stir things up and then offend other people as much as they can.Two nights on the trot now i have come on here and it is the same things that people are moaning about and other people gobbing at others.Noone has been nasty to me, as i think that they are all busy being nasty to others.
@freymind (1352)
• Philippines
3 Jan 11
Yap. You're right about that. I stopped writing here for a few months because of this. I reflected on whether I should still prolong my relationship with MyLot since some of the people here are throwing things at each other. New year has come and I just wish for the betterment of MyLot.
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
3 Jan 11
haha =D YEah, i think i'm one of those people, out to spoil discussions.. lol =D I'm not afraid to voice out my thoughts to people, and i'm sure quite alot of mylotters actually hate me.. lol =D I dun mind because like u said, it's supposed to be a discussion site, and i'm entitled to my own views.. haha =D It's just too bad if they cant agree with what i say etc. Colors and stars are only a form of motivation, dun take it too seriously. Just like me, i din expect it to change it to blue again and i got it.. haha
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
2 Jan 11
I love this site too. I am on here to have fun and interaction with people I would not normally get a chance to have that with. I have seen some of those discussions and there is really not much that I can add to them. All I can say is to relax and have fun but that wouldn't be fair because some people are here for the status and the money.
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• United States
2 Jan 11
Don't let thr a$$holes get you down. Many people look at the ratings as a huge popularity contess. So when they see who has a 10 they get jealous . They don't know or care to know that the best way to get a 10 is to write good posts and answer well to good posts. They will Never get it. So scr@w them! Just enjoy your time here and ignore the trolls.
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@kolsti87 (522)
• United States
2 Jan 11
Man I know what you're talking about. Everyone seems to have forgotten to read the FAQ. It's all in there. They go ask dumb questions, their posts get deleted, and they wonder why they have such low ratings.
@joystick (1680)
2 Jan 11
I have seen a few discussions like what you are on about and that is one of thereasons why i have not been on here for a fw days, as i was getting really fed upf all the nasty things that were going on.I feel that there are alot of people that are getting a bit what i would all up themselves on here.
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@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
2 Jan 11
where in the world do you go on hear to get this kind of post as I havent seena one of them.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
2 Jan 11
We just have to take the good w/the bad. Some people would never be pleased about anything & it's the same on mylot. I enjoy mylot so much & don't worry about what so many do.
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@Memnon (2173)
2 Jan 11
Looks like I missed this, and just as well too. I am a member of other sites, and whilst people have a right to complain, I do get fed up with persistent moans. Perhaps people need to settle down. There are two reasons that I am here. One is to interact with people, the other is to earn a little to finance my model planes hobby through Paypal.
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@cerebellum (3871)
• United States
2 Jan 11
Maybe a lot of people have hangovers from New Years Eve! I have noticed a lot of discussions lately about the stars and rating system. I thought that was kind of odd, because I never pay it any attention. I would hate to see you go to another site, maybe just take a few days off and then come back on. There are always a few people who will ruin a good thing, but it is such a great site, please don't leave.
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• United States
2 Jan 11
I had to laugh at this, because I totally agree with you, and I have been away from Mylot for a long while, and just came back on tonight, and I remember well my frustration with all the pointless poking and moaning at each other! We need a sheepdog to round them all up and keep control, I say. Any volunteers?!
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