Seriousness.

India
January 1, 2011 11:51pm CST
I know a person who is serious enough but his appearance and behaviour are such that no one takes him seriously in spite of his all efforts to prove his seriousness. Can any one suggest how he can get people to take him more seriously?
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11 responses
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
4 Jan 11
If a person wants to be taken seriously, then they need to carry themselves in a way that it is easy for someone to take them seriously. What I mean is that they should have a way that they are able to clean up so that they don't look goofy all the time. If they dress in t-shirts that have offensive sayings or cartoon characters on them, it is difficult for someone to take them seriously. However, if they look a little bit professional when they want to be taken seriously, then it won't be difficult.
@celticeagle (116747)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Jan 11
Get him to change his appearance and behaviour so he looks more serious would probably be the first step for him to take. If he is more serious looking then people are more apt to take him seriously. It may take some experience to really act and be more serious. Quiting smiling or being pleasant may be of some help as well.
@Hatley (164772)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Jan 11
hi doctor didi instead tell him to be himself and sooner or later those who are too slow minded to take him seriously will realize he is much more than his outer appearance. Let them realize he is a person who is comfortable in his own skin and they will finally realize he has a serios side too.He is just trying to hard and is not being true to himself. tell him to relax and just be who he really is.
@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
3 Jan 11
You are describing my boss. He is a man who always shouts and sears at his subordinates when things are not in order and when people are not doing their work and he threatens them with all sorts things like dismissal etc, but when it comes to real action, he is so soft and his workers are taking advantage of his soft side of human person and they continue to disobey his oders. He needs to prove his leadership and powers enable him to lead by taking action. If he is serious, he must take action, seriousness without action is just as good as encourgament or abating or condoning. If someone gets serious, s/he must act on those virutes and set the precedence for people to respect and obey him.
• United States
2 Jan 11
You say he is a serous person, but yet others do not take him serious: My suggestion is that if in fact he is a serious person and wants to be received as a serious person he need to act and behave himself. If others are not taking him serious then perhaps he is acquainting with the wrong types of people. He can only remain himself and his actions will prove who he is.
• United States
2 Jan 11
That's sad. His true friends should listen to his words and not judge his actions by what he is wearing! My suggestion? Wear more conservative clothes, like a dress shirt and tie.
@savypat (20247)
• United States
2 Jan 11
He is in charge of his appearance and behaviour, so he needs to reseaarch how to impove these to the point of seriousness. In other words he needs a do over. Remember it never hurts to make a good first impression.
@shuley (369)
2 Jan 11
You mean make him feel serious? I think just accept that person the way he/she is, give respect maybe.
• India
2 Jan 11
I think this person you're talking about is worrying way too much on this matter. Ask him not to try so hard to prove himself. Ask him to be himself and not someone else, as one of my friends has already mentioned in this discussion. Trying hard will invariably spoil everything. He has an identity which he shouldn't loose in trying to be someone else. First of all, he has to talk less and think more. Talking too much and being eloquent aren't the same thing. Talking increases only increases the volume and decreases the density. This means, the more he talks, the more loose he becomes. Some people have the tendency to elaborate things beyond necessity. Ask him to practice remaining silent whenever he's alone. This is also good for health, as it conserves a lot of energy. There is time to be serious and there is time to be casual. You don't need to be serious all the time and maintain flat face just to make others take you seriously. Tell him that the only thing he should worry about is whether he's having good time in his life. He may not change his behavior overnight. But brooding over this for hours will surely make him more depressed. He should just enjoy his life. It seems to me that its not about appearance. Whenever he speaks, he speaks in a very affected manner and that he should get rid of immediately. All he has to do is to be sincere with himself and candid with others. Above all, he should force himself in being anything or anyone that he is not. A person gets maximum pleasure as long as he is in conformity with his innate traits.
@AKRao24 (10602)
• India
2 Jan 11
I really couldn't get your point! Why one wants to be serious all the while? One has to be the way one is ! What is there is pretense? I think to convince others or to impress others that he/she got a serious point in a discussion the convictions are to be put forth in a strong but gentle manner to make them understandable.If needed some examples can be quoted to support the convictions in the discussion! I personally feel that to be serious is a natural thing and it comes wit sincerity, involvement and truthfulness in one's behaviour. If anything is lacking then the seriousness is lost! These are very personal opinions of mine!Thanks !
• United States
2 Jan 11
Don't be himself be someone else.