I hate those people who want me to take side

United States
January 4, 2011 3:22pm CST
At work, co - workers might have issues, and they just gossip behind each other's back. I just want to stay out of it, and I definitely hate to take side. But some people just want me to take side, and they told me why they are so hateful, and so and so..... Okay, you got issue with a particular person, that is your personal problem, please don't get me involved. I am neutral, and I have no comment. Don't you hate those people? It is definitely not my problem. I came to work, not to take side and make enemies.
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8 responses
@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
6 Jan 11
In this world of men, we must make a stand, whether for the right or wrong. One can't be neutral, it's either black or white. You don't have to make enemies by standing up for something!
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
5 Jan 11
Taking sides in gossip can take you places you may not want to go. You can't please everyone by choosing sides. You will end up hurting someone or you can be hurt yourself. it just isn't worth it.
@Elixiress (3893)
5 Jan 11
I agree, I do not take sides. There was an issue at my place of work where people were spreading a rumour, when I heard the rumour I defended this person. The next thing I know this person is telling me off for spreading the rumour :/ So now, I stay out of it completely, I do not even defend the person they are hating on. The other morning, everyone was talking about the same woman again (she has rubbed a lot of people up the wrong way) and I just stood there contributing nothing to the conversation.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
5 Jan 11
Hi King, Yes I do hate that situation. It is awkward and uncomfortable. I have found that if I raise my hand and just say...look, I do not want to be involved. I like you both" that the person will back off. One girl at work was persistent and I finally said, Ok so you can use me as a sounding board and trust that I will not repeat anything of what you said but do not expect me to join you in dissing this person because I like her too. I added that I would do the same for her if this person came to me complaining about her. It really worked. I also noticed she stopped talking to me so much about the other person since her real aim was in building up people to her side. When she realized I was neutral she kind of lost intrest.
@maezee (32269)
• United States
5 Jan 11
I hate this so much. I've been put in this position too before, in work as well as outside of work and I just hate it! I hate taking sides - and that's why I try to just stay out of it, like you said, and not get involved. We often times have work disputes between co-workers and because I work with so many different co-workers on a constant basis, I always hear both sides of the story and the person telling me the story always expects me to agree with them. Which I don't. I also go to work to work, to make money, not to get involved with these little spats between co-workers. How annoying. I mean, at least it's not between two good friends. For the longest time, two of my close friends were fighting BIG time. I couldn't go around one of them without them trying to pry details out of me,and without them talking crap abotu the other. I finally decided not to hang out with either until they grew up and settled the dispute. They did, after about 6 months, because I gave them losing my friendship as an ultimatum.
@Urfun2 (51)
• United States
5 Jan 11
Hate is a strong word. But I understand your sentiments.
@lingli_78 (12845)
• Australia
5 Jan 11
my sentiments exactly... i share the same feeling as you.. i don't like to take side as well as i am a peace lover person... especially if the matter doesn't concern me at all... i would prefer to stay out from it... my life is already hard enough as it is and i don't want to add anymore burden to it... take care and have a nice day...
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
4 Jan 11
I completely understand your point of view. Sometimes people just got their own views and they want to be more support, so to be sure that they are right in their thinking. Nothing wrong in that, but i'm just not a person who loves to take side too. Specially if i'm not so close with the involved people. If we are friends, i would listen why is this big deal about, but will try to stay away of it. Scandals and problems like that on the work place are little dangerous because they help us to be out of concentration. We need the full capacity of the team for some things and that way, if the people are separated it's getting difficult.