so hurt and really dont know what to do

@ren1982 (341)
January 5, 2011 5:08am CST
i am sure i have been lied to and i dont know what to do about it. this guy told me he was going away for 2weeeks for work yesterday and he wouldnt have his phones on him and that he would try and call me and all that. then this morning i read something on someones profile which has now got me thinking he has gone away on holiday not for work. i cant get hold of him i have to wait til he calls but then what do i do when he does call? cos i have only read one thing that got me thinking but there is also this gut feeling that i am right and he is lieing to me. so do i ask him out right? but then if i do and if he says he is not? i have no proof just this feeling that something isnt right. i am so mad and sitting here waiting isnt helpping me what should i do when he calls? ask him? trust him or my gut feeling that he is lieing to me?
11 responses
bounce58
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
7 Jan 11
Is that women's intuition? If so, then maybe there is some truth to what you are feeling. And what to do? Depends on how close this person is to you. If he is someone that you have vested feelings for, then you shouldn't take this lie lightly. Relationships like this wouldn't grow if there is no trust.
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ren1982
@ren1982 (341)
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7 Jan 11
i guess it is intuition. and i am crazy about him i have never loved anyone like him which is why it hurts so bad
Toni
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
6 Jan 11
I have read the response and was relieved that you are leaving this guy! Good choice! If i haven't read it i would have said that you should believe in your instinct as i really believed that he is lying. Well since you have already found that out, i have two thumbs up for you. Move on! Find another man and don't waste time with such a looser!
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ren1982
@ren1982 (341)
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6 Jan 11
thank you, yes i should have trusted my feelings along time ago would have saved me all this heart ach but i think thats it for me i am done all together just going to sort my head out and get on with my life seing single
sql_cell
@sql_cell (1427)
• Indonesia
5 Jan 11
If the person is calling,answer fairly, if you do not know anything. If you ask on the phone, you can not see the face of it, so you can not know, that person's attitude when answering. You better ask him, after the person in front of you, if that person is lying, it would seem from the look on his face.
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ren1982
@ren1982 (341)
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5 Jan 11
no i have since found out i was right he had lied to me
Bianca_mergillano
@Bianca_mergillano (1067)
• Philippines
6 Jan 11
Good Day! Trust him. If you've smell something fishy then ask him or you're the one who must figure it out.
ren1982
@ren1982 (341)
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6 Jan 11
all ready found out i was right and he shouldnt be trusted so i am done with him
ebuscat
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
6 Jan 11
For me it can cause you depression better to not doing lie so that you happy as what your partner too.
ren1982
@ren1982 (341)
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6 Jan 11
yes i am and have been on something for my depression. and yes it hurts so much
neerajagrawl
@neerajagrawl (58)
• India
5 Jan 11
just listen what he says when he call. and try to find out reality by different sources.
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cutepenguin
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
6 Jan 11
How frustrating for you. I see from your update that he was lying after all. Good for you for not putting up with it!
Lisander
@Lisander (273)
• Armenia
6 Jan 11
Just really try to find out. At least he will know that you are watching him and he will not do foolish stuff. Even if he is in this case not guilty(i am hoping so). I wish you good luck. Just remeber there are many good guys out there. Don't settle with an ashole if you can find anyone and a better one at that. Have a nice day))
isloooboy
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
5 Jan 11
If you Love him then give him some space and wait for his call and do not rush towards any kind of question but make sure you will be calm and behave decently. Truth never be hided nor it stay hidden for a long. So everything will be exposed but if it take time which happen in some cases you must show passions. Lies bring bad feelings with it which everyone of us know very well from the time on which we lie. SO give him some time and do not start arguments, everything will be fine in the end.
jacquericauy
@jacquericauy (81)
• Philippines
6 Jan 11
well.. in your case.. don't rely on something that you just read on someone's profile.. the most important thing in a relationship is communication.. so if he calls you should answer that call.. and try to clarify things with him.. sometimes our gut feelings lead us to wrong decisions.. so just stay calm for the moment and avoid bad thoughts.. listen carefully to his explanations and tell him honestly how you feel.. be open minded and analyze things.. remember.. the truth will always prevail.. as of now.. just pray.. ask for strength.. just don't jump into conclusions yet..
Anna
@Anna1983 (76)
• China
6 Jan 11
i think you would better talk with him when u are face in face. i can understand your feeling now. you would like to ask him the fact urgently, but that is not the way. it is not effective. maybe you can not get the result if like this. Please be pacient and ocean heart once more. good luck.