Too smart

India
January 10, 2011 3:19am CST
Is people really read or looking into our comments or responses or some people are just interested only to upload new discussions only. It has been observed that people would come up with 15-20 discussions one after another and the friends used to sit and provide responses and comments to it. Even after commenting for 10 or more, the other end person is least bothered to say word on our efforts. Is it really promoting your work atmosphere or you will still comment to such posts? I think it is better to selective if our friends comes up with such tendency. Though it is our will and wish to with which post to be answered, still some people's tendency is too selfish. Such people wants comments on their posts, whereas, they never say a word of appreciation or remark to our comments. How you react on such posts?
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@Jotomy (6351)
• India
10 Jan 11
Hi anna, how are you? Happy New year to you and to your family. Yes there are members they just collect the inforamtion from the other members but they will not leave their comments, i will think they must be very busy or some people doesn't know how to comment back, but i never feel anything about that, because we can't analyze them whether they are selfish or something, they may be feeling they do their work. It is all upto them. We are no way convened about it. Only the thing is we will have that in our mind whether our response is really helpful to them or useful or is it correct or not and expect their comments on it. But, we also have to understand their circumstances, because i read a discussion started by our member saying that he/she is good at posting discussion rather response or comment. So it is just waste to think about them anna. And you know, many times i will give responses but suddenly my firefox will show some error or it will go then again i will sometimes i will write or just leave it because at that time that ideas and output will go, i cant type it again the same words, also it happens sometimes, my post i see it posted but i cant see it there i dont know why, it may be some fault with my software etc., So we cant think in a negative way. Just leave it. Have a nice day.
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• India
10 Jan 11
Hi dear, Yes, we can simply ignore it. We can see one side of the fact and if do so, we can be happy. My fault is that I always looks at both sides. Many are doing myLot just mechanically. For me, I just can’t. Most of the time, whenever I write something, I mean it and just for a sake of saying, is not the way I like. May be in myLot or in real life, what I do have some dignity and meaning for it. When we are typing for a post for 10-15 mts. and comfortably place it and upload with our pleasure. For instance, from the other end, they never read or consider our posts means what? In this case also, you wrote me so nicely and I just ignore or delete your comments, what is your value? You know, the place I am working, the logo tag line says, ‘Quality in Everything We Do’ and I am working under this brand for last 16-17 years. So, in my each and every step, I used to follow the same, quality. However, this is not a place to say all. But, as it is you, I said so. Also, whenever you make a comment, just open a Microsoft word new document and type the matter over there. Once completed, just cut/copy paste to the ‘post comment’ column. So, even if there is some error in submitting, and not posted, you can re-paste from the word document. This is the way I do always. Another advantage is that there won’t be any spelling mistakes also. While typing in the word doc, you can do the spelling mistakes also corrected and make an error free posting also. After doing a best effort form our side also, if people simply ignores our comments means, ….. No problems, normally people say like, do your work neatly and forget, that is the policy that we should follow here, but in every case, there may be some exceptions, I may be one among the exception. Anyway, thanks for your comments and I wish you a great day ahead. Has your result come up?? Best regards Thank-s
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
10 Jan 11
hello Jo
@Jotomy (6351)
• India
10 Jan 11
Yes anna, i was reading your responses and comments, and understood that you will think both sides and me too you know ! for everything there will be two sides this i believe strongly. So we can't blame one for one thing. Yes this is i think a nice one typing in the document and pasting here, but anna, here also we have that option of checking spellings. I never did like that typing in the document and paste, but now a days what i am doing, i will type here itself and copy the same because this computer my cousin also will use in mylot so some times clashes will come because of the IP catching. So i will type and paste here itself. And i know you felt bad about not receiving my message reply. But i posted it for you but i said know this the matter happening, it will go where i donot know, but i will think it is posted. I felt very sorry on that day, not only that, it happened to me many times, but all the things are posting but yours is a message that is the difference. Good night anna.
@dpk262006 (56599)
• Delhi, India
11 Jan 11
Hi! YOu are very right in your observations, there are some users here on mylot who do not post their comments or counter-comments and they keep posting new discussions every other day. On the other hand, there are some users who invariably post their comments/counter-comments and they are always appreciated by their fellow mylotters and they win more friends. I try my best to post my comments or counter-comments on my own discussion, however, I skip those response, which are very brief and are not to the point. If one wants to make a discussion lively and interesting - posting comments is pre-requisite to it. I started a similar posts few months ago. http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2377098.aspx
• India
11 Jan 11
Hi dear, Means, I am not the first person to come up with such an issue. But is there any kind of internal politics within the friends group here? Once a discussion starts and if find good, people comment on it. For me this the best part and nothing more on it. With a different topic, there is a hot discussion is now going on. I think we are few silent followers and there more strong debate is on with another group. However, posting and responding and commenting back to their responses are mandatory and if we do so, it will be a nice experience for both the parties. Thank-s
@dpk262006 (56599)
• Delhi, India
11 Jan 11
You see a group of friends do play a role in making a discussions interesting. Some reguarly take part in each other's discussions and do not fail to comment. It is also true that we cannot be part of each and every debate, we participate in only those, which appeals us. I on my part prefers to respond those members' posts, who are particular about posting their comments (on my responses/comments).
• India
14 Jan 11
Hi, Yes, something this kind of approach will well appreciated because we can move on with our own way of doing. Have a nice day and best regards. Thank-s
@hushi22 (4940)
13 Jan 11
hello pal! i am back to being active in mylot. =) anyway, i think it is individual's preferences. for me if they wont respond to my comments, i dont mind, but i would be grateful if they respond. that way mylot will truly serve a purpose. i mean, clearly this isnt a working site, and the way to keep this thing going it to interact with each other. however, maybe it will take time for some people to understand that esp the newbies.
• India
13 Jan 11
Hi dear, Hope you are settled there and entered into new jobs and all. How is the cold there now? Is it more than you native, Philippines? As you said, it is a common place people are comes and goes - we cannot expect anything from anybody, if get, take it and no cry for anything.... It is what I feel from this. However, still, there are few good people who read other's mind, and that is good enough for us, what you say? A little is enough, if they are good. So, I think we can go ahead with this principle, so that we can be happy as long as we are here. Best regards, Thank-s
@hushi22 (4940)
13 Jan 11
nah...i am still at my friends' flat. next week i will have my time schedules for classes and jobs and just by that time that i will look for a new flat. coldness? still very cold. the exact opposite of Philippines, but it is okay i am getting used to it now. not so sickly these days. hehe well, yeah, that is right, and i am grateful to those people who have empathy to continue the discussion.
• India
14 Jan 11
Hi dear, Thanks for the response and hope you wll settle soon. Be around and have a nice day. Regards, Thank-s
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
10 Jan 11
hello thanks, This happens to me with one mylotter who is also in my friends lists. This mylotter keep posting discussion,and since my first priority to respond with is from "friends started"...i always respond to this mylotters topic (which are really good ones) But,after a _th posts from this mylotter,i found out this mylotter never give any responses. Since then,i never respond to any topic that this mylotter starts. I am not demanding for my responses to be commented back...but at least give one ... Have a good day
@Jotomy (6351)
• India
10 Jan 11
Hi jai, how are you and your family. My best wishes to you and your family. there are many like that jai, but we are not supposed to talk about them, it is their wish we must accept it jai dear.
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• India
11 Jan 11
Hi Jai/Jo, I think we both are talking about the same person. You are absolutely right, we are not demanding, but have a little curtsy make lots of difference. Once in a while, it is ok, even it happens to us also and that we can understand. Now-a-days, I hardly come with too much of discussion. Comment on to other’s posts make me more feasible. However, one or two posts in between make us feel good as well. You might have noticed in the last 3-4 days the same person’s discussion come continuously about 50 and more!! Out of which response goes nearly 5-10%. Ok, it is upto them, but I just mean only because if they spend a few mts. with their responses, all will be happy and it make more sense. Thanks for your valid comments. Thank-s
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
11 Jan 11
hello thanks, I am not sure if we are talking about same mylotter dear But rather than spoiling my day,i just ignore that mylotter,so much topic to respond with. Well,it's their wish not to comment back,it's their right. i just wonder what happens if more mylotters comes with topic and not responding...does mylot still be interesting? Have a good day
• Philippines
10 Jan 11
DARN IT! I am so guilty of this now...so, am sorry, but there are two things that got me to being a temporary response collector. For one: I've become a turtle, when it comes to commenting responses, yeah at first i get to be fast then after two to three comments that's it i get distracted and tend to think slow than before.. probably not in the mood sometimes, that's why i tend to think slow as well. Second, I've been busy with some thing lately, and I HATE IT. Since I just paid the internet bill today so i can't afford to fool around and search other things in the NET. With regards to other people who NEVER even bother to comment on their response(I know i will later). that's their choice, but not responding on their topics ever.unless they start commenting again.
• India
10 Jan 11
Hi dear, In fact, it is not directly meant for you. You still responds. I don’t want to name out here but, feel uncomfortable with it. I have nicely talked earlier for 4-5 times about to the person directly and indirectly also. But there is no movement. I think they are really not bothered or not aware of the simple manners which needs to be followed. If I come up with a topic, it is my first preference to comment back to all my friends those who given a response. This is the way it works and it should be. However, it is not necessary that all should have the same feeling of decent manners. Sometime, even I feel so tiered and fed up by commenting on the posts. Still, I am cautious to respond to all, at least in the next day itself. If get still delayed, I used to apologies for the delay, though it is not required. But such a situation comes to me, I prefer to keep the minimum courtesy, wherever it is. May be that is called the cultural differnce. However, it is not pertain to you and I never meant for you. Be around and have a nice day. Thank-s
• Philippines
10 Jan 11
Some just don't care at all. Too bad, i won't be going to their discussions any more. i know mylotters who have worked and they still comment on their responses.
• India
11 Jan 11
Hi, If we follow, it is a good habit and giving just a response won't waste a lots of time. But virtually it make a lot of difference to the people who engaged in it. What you do think? Thanks for the comments. Thank-s
• Pakistan
11 Jan 11
I am a newbie and am not sure whether i qualify as this said person or not! I do start discussions and yeah most of them as you can see show no response from anyone else but then that discussion is actually me typing out what i am feeling at that time! As for responding to the responders, well i possibly can't be guilty of this as i have always tried to respond every post as it totally negates the meaning of discussion!
• India
14 Jan 11
Hi dear, I am not specific to any one especially to you. I marked this fact based on the trend of some our friends who comes with a so many discussion like 30-40 topics in a day and if someone comments, they won’t respond to any of their comments. Ok, anyone who comes with that many discussion topics may not get time to review all their comments. Only I wish to say is that we will feel proud that our comments are being treated. If you comment to someone’s post and they just ignores, what could be your opinion about it. However, it is ok, people may have other works and only allotted lesser time to myLot. In such cases, just view the comments and respond to them with a single line, which makes so much of difference. Thanks for your comments. Thank-s
• Pakistan
15 Jan 11
Yeah i realized still i am new and its good that you raised this subject as it gives a much better idea of how mylott works!! Thanks
@mturacom (634)
• India
10 Jan 11
I also observed such behavior when I joined myLot. When my friends list grew a little then I started to receive many emails a day. Some of them even start more discussions then the number of responses I can post in a day. They just come up with just useless discussions and I don't see any point even in replying to them as they are not here to discuss anything. I just turned off the notification option. Though I don't pay much attention to who responds to my responses or who doesn't, but it is always good to interact and discuss anything.
• India
11 Jan 11
Hi, Exactly, an interaction make is live and energetic. We feel something good, even though we don't know who and what they are. Always this kind of things are more interesting when we get a feel of interaction. Yesterday I was with a blog site and few of the friends are keep on saying, hi, hiii, hello, are you there? etc etc. Once I am not responding to it, they will carve for the answer or a simple reply and if not, they will simply go off. Means, the response is the life blood here and people should understand otherwise, it will be lopsided and make no sense in the long run. Thanks for you comments and response, Thank-s
@mturacom (634)
• India
11 Jan 11
Discussions are meant for discussing. It is not like some news or article submission where the creator doesn't need to be involved.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
10 Jan 11
Hello friend actually I have the same observation but till now I don't know what to do, so I just response which discussion I like. Regarding my discussion posted I'll try my very best to response politely and in manner, but sometimes not all responsed, sorry for that... i hope other will be responsible also... see you around
• India
10 Jan 11
Hi dear, Thanks for your comments. In fact we need not bothered of it. But when we initiate our time and effort for a nice response with 10-15 mts., and it simply ignores means feel different. Some of the response are not just hi/bye, but having much sensible and useful responses, depend on the topic. If they come up with such a topic and I think they should consider at least once and if found good, they can just revert with a single line, which make a lot of difference. It promotes their value and value within myLot also. Best regards, Thank-s
• Philippines
10 Jan 11
For people who works, i think i can give them an exemption since they got balls being active still after being too stress from work. unfortunately, i have no excuse, therefore i need to comment, maybe later in my discussions. I due give credit to those responders by commenting on them that's for sure.
@thesids (22351)
• Bhubaneswar, India
10 Jan 11
Hi Thanks, Yes, I know the lot you are pointing to... Many a times it is kind of sad for me but it is their way... Cannot deny them their share of views and fun... I hope I have learned this and over come the problem. I think I am now responding to each and every response that I have on my discussions... I find it more interesting than just starting the discussion and letting the responders have their fun Cheers, theSids.
• India
10 Jan 11
Hi dear, Understand our self is a necessity. I know well that you used to comment and re-comment to all of your posts and is a active and decent myLoter in our group. Like many others, you have a very understanding and foresee things easily. Last one week I was constantly observing the trend of such things. Only one problem I found is that all her post are so tentative to answer and we feel like comment. I insisted several times to respond to the posts and never come back with any answer and feel something weaned. If such people comes with their comments also, the discussion ends up with a decent closure and many times it feel like discussions are lopsided and half the way ends. It makes a kind of suffocation, who rightfully or seriously participates. Also, it looks like they will post the topics, and those who want to comment, you can do it. What you say on this? As Shamack said, I don’t know whether they are bothered on their ratings are getting diminished. Thank-s
@thesids (22351)
• Bhubaneswar, India
10 Jan 11
Well, there are possibilities and I am positive these days and so would think that the person who is not replying to his/her discussions is having some psychological issues - kind of a fear that if I participate, i am not going to win the discussion. I think such persons are quite young and feel that they will be losing or would create a fight if they reply. Again, as many suggest below on the discussion, they have not fully understood about the method to make money on mylot(if they are here for money) and also they are impatient and not fully through the Guidelines. I mentioned this on a thread today that the Senior mylotters have been coming up with posts that would help the newbies understand the system but unfortunately I rarely find any responses from the newbies on these threads. It is only the experienced and the mid-level people like us who comment / respond to their participation.
@RamRes (1725)
• Argentina
16 Jan 11
I guess it depends on everyone style, and most important of all, earning methods. I personally don't like such actions from friends, my Outlook is many times being bombarded with mails from the same people starting discussions, many a day, and I still don't understand how can they sustain such a rate. I've not checked their profile for activities detailed, but I think they're not very active. I don't blame them either, that is their earning tactics and seems to work. And MyLot being a paid-to-post forum sorts of encourages such actions of indiscriminate posting by rewarding the spammers.
• India
18 Jan 11
Hello, Many people come with so much of posts but we won't feel it is overloaded. Rarely, few comes with 30-40 and also one after another, also none of them attended, looks little bit disgusting. I am sure that they are not fully aware of how to go ahead here. Only one thing I appreciate is her discussion topics are somewhat interesting and feel like commenting. But don’t expect any response from her, whatever we feel like to comment can provide, that is all. Regards, Thank-s
@asliah (11148)
• Philippines
14 Jan 11
hi, i do that sometimes and very sorry if i dont comment to those responses in my created discussions,because no time for that, but who knows,that the creator of discussion is also thankful and always appreciate what responses they put in their,like me,,even i dont put comment doesn't mean i dont appreciate or dont like your response...
• India
14 Jan 11
Hello, Thanks for your response. It is not specific to you or directly meant anyone who are regular with all others. And I know we used to communicate even for the 2nd and 3rd levels also. I really appreciate that you are regular and we had nice discussions too. I feel bad only when we comment frequently and continuously with many of the topics started by same person and they never responds to our discussions. Because, last week she come with nice topics and I commented to 7-8 topics and all were really talkative subjects also. Even after attending many of the topics, she never comment back with any of the topics and as it was so interesting, I expect there may be some comments on it, but sadly it didn’t happened. I know you also come with funny and really good topics, and I am sure that whenever we interact each other, our topics also considered as an important one and it has its own integrity, rather just ignoring the topics. So, if we participate more on our topics and communicate regularly, our topic also will become meaningful. However, we can forget all and as a basic practice, we can try our best to be good with and we all know that we got limited time and so many things to do also. Considering all facts, we can try our level best to be cooperative and make our myLot friendship more meaningful and live. Have a nice day Thanks-s
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Jan 11
stine1 came up with an expression for that - "discussion spammers". People who start discussion after discussion after discussion, and never reply back or visit other people's discussions. People like that eventually find out (if they even care) that their "friends" stop coming around, because nobody wants to put effort into a one sided friendship.
• India
13 Jan 11
Hi dear, Of course, it is a sad scene, that people won't mind about their integrity. However, there are a minority here and they identify the value of themselves and others as well. And I think they are the one who really deserve the appreciation and holds the blood and flesh of myLot. Best regards, Thank-s
@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
12 Jan 11
YES!! I agree with what u said here! Some people are just too selfish, prefering to start tons of discussions everyday yet not bothering to respond or comment back at all. It would be good if starters can respond to comments, as a show of appreciation to us. Many starters of discussions don't know that, if they only start, yet don't respond, they will only earn from the very first respond.
• India
13 Jan 11
Hi dear, In a crowed always there may be of different type of people and we cannot all to be alike. This is the quote of someone. It is true and but whenever we talk about water, there may be a common factor, it could be of liquid in nature. On the same way, as this is a site where we keep discussion as the primary intention the interaction is mandatory, and I was talking about it. Also, people comes up with 30-40 topics a day, should remember that. Yesterday, she come up with more than 35 topics!!! I don’t know how many are commented on it and does anyone participated also. May be, the topics are so nice and we would feel talking. But people used to comment continuously to here comments would realize after few days, that she is not bothering on the comments from our side. Best regards, Thank-s
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@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
11 Jan 11
i can understand what you mean... it is really annoying when people didn't comment on your response and i am guilty of doing that as well in the past... that's why now i concentrate on responding to discussions rather than creating discussions so that i won't offend anybody if i don't have the time to comment on their responses... take care and have a nice day...
• India
11 Jan 11
Hi dear, People here with myLot for a year and above are very much clear on their vision. I think the experience here made them to say so. All got a clear view of what to do, how to do and all. Many of us are here for a daily basis or a frequent visitor. As this is a fact, both way of communication make the discussion more live and meaningful. As we interact with many people and get a proper continuation make us to be long over here and if the participation won’t support with a positive approach form the other end, we will be discouraged or we may tempt to divert our method. Thanks for your our comments and understanding. Best regards, Thank-s
@GardenGerty (105453)
• United States
11 Jan 11
I do not respond to discussions that I do not have an interest in. I think it would be really hard to come up with fifteen or twenty meaningful discussions in a day that would intrigue my friends. I experimented one day and started eighteen discussions. I then spent the next day commenting on the responses. I generally only start one or two a month. I like to respond to my friends and interact with them so that it is like a real friendship. I do not give much time to people who do not want to be friends.
• India
11 Jan 11
Hi dear, Nice to hear you and know you more. My short time period over here made a nice experience and even I tried different way of approach here. I think in the long run, your way of doing make more sensible and attractive also. A proper two-way communication make more realistic and we will get a feel of that we are not just talking to the computers. Sometime even I feel that I have to spend more time only for responding to my own posts. If I go mainly with commenting to others discussions, I won't feel a commitment. But if I come with a discussion, I am particular that I should comment on with them, if anyone gives me response. It will more meaningful and the circle completes, once we communicate with them. Thanks for your comments and response. Regards, Thank-s
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
10 Jan 11
I take it for a while....then I don't post on their discussions....and if they keep posting so many I may even delete them as a friend...any friendship is a two way street....not just for one person!
• India
11 Jan 11
Hi dear, You said it. Any friendship is a two way street....not just for one person! An action and the interaction make the circle complete. In certain times it is ok, but just as a habit and we feel noticed means they are not cared of such things only. Even though I have made several times of reminder directly and indirectly, they person on the other end never cares. Our friends proper cooperation and understanding in this regard would keep us to stay here more over here. Thanks for your comments. Thank-s
@eshaan (6193)
• India
10 Jan 11
I don't respond to people once i know that they are interested only in starting discussions and no intention to discuss things with their friends here...i would not name here, but i honestly admit that i have stopped responding such people...i really don't appreciate the way people are after money here...even if they want to earn and that is their principal goal of being here...still they should note that if they leave comments on their discussions it will be helpful to themselves and their friends too.....
• India
11 Jan 11
Hi dear, I should agree with you. Just earning is not the only motivation and there is a live factor behind it. Once we notice that there is a tendency from people, better to ignore and we have good regular people here. Though it may be difficult to give response to all the discussions as we got limited time and much more other things, but when they are so interesting in new posts, they can spend few mts. to check those mails and give a one line response, and it make a lots of difference. I think people should understand and feel the difference then only they can make it creative. Thanks for your comments. Thank-s
• Philippines
10 Jan 11
hi thanks, I know how you feel towards this kind of people some of them just care to how much they will earn and did not care that they need to appreciate some people who takes time to read their discussion well it's their choice and right but if they want to have a good rating at least they should participate and give time to response on the topic that people responded . Sometimes i don't respond on my friends discussion because i can't relate on that topic but i make sure i did not forget to rate them . happy posting
• India
11 Jan 11
Hi dear, Yes, that's all. It is not just one-offs, as giving responses also a part of the discussion, people can do that. Another fact is that those who come with 15-20 discussion topics may won't get time enough to all the responses, if many are comes with their own comments. However, when I made close observation, many of the topics are landing with (0) responses. Still, as the topics are interesting, we would tempt to take part. I think we need not bother too much on this, because, as someone stated, we do our job nicely and the rest is not our view. But if we get a response to our discussion, it will be always make more sense. Thanks for your comments, Thank-s
@tiffnkeat (1679)
• Singapore
10 Jan 11
Trust me, as a newbie, I thought the same way too...I have been here for about slightly 2 weeks, and having started some posts where response isn't great, I decide to focus on responding to discussions instead. My purpose is to discuss topics I am interested in, and not any topic. That is why, like yourself, there is no ranking to say since we do not stick to any particular interest groups. As for the starting of discussion, I guess with enough login time, we usually run dry of ideas to start. Forgive us newbies, I promise to grow up.
• India
10 Jan 11
Hi dear, Welcome to myLot family and I am happy to hear from you. Just like you, even I am also not so old here and few more months more as compaed to the people here are for 5 years or more. Only what is felt bad is that we spend 15-20 mts. to draft the discussion topics and nicely edit, check, and finally post with a best refereincing pattern. If it is just getting ignored and deleted, definitely feel regret. So, that is all. If you write for some exams and and your papers are got ignored and got failed in the exams, what would be your feel? We cannot compare with that over here, but as we are interacting the minimum interaction is expected form others. If you say hi, then I should say hi, too - Isn't it? That's all. Best regards, Thank-s
@toniganzon (53688)
• Philippines
10 Jan 11
Most of the people here have the purpose of earning money fast by starting discussions. They have like a quota per day to earn money fast and yes they don't bother to go back to those discussions when people started making responses. I think they still don't get what the meaning of discussion is. But then we have freedom here in mylot and we cannot get away from these kind of people with that kind of mindset.
• India
10 Jan 11
Hi dear, Thanks for a quick response. Yes, I know that. You may be aware that sometimes we used to spend 6-8 hrs with myLot. Also, if interested, we spend 15-20 mts. for a particular topic, which depend on our interest. We will nicely write the response with our knowledge and considering the intensity of the topic. Sometime, we will have a feel of good, once the topic is answered. At the same time if it is simply ignored and not even have a look on the matter we have placed, will be a kind of total ignorance. It is something like, you will send your resume, and the company will just throw it into the dustbin. Even though you never know about it, but once you come to know about it, what is your reaction. So, it is nothing to feel about, but if we properly communicate with a proper person, we feel proud and get a unseen dignity. It is as good as searching in the darkness or looking for something, which is nowhere exists!!! Best regards, Thank-s