Facebook blamed for increasing rate of divorce, I disagree, do you?

India
January 24, 2011 7:06am CST
Hi Friends, I was reading this news today and could not agree to it. Facebook is being blamed for an increasing number of marital breakdowns. If people say that Facebook is the reason behind most of the divorce, people seeking divorce because of Facebook are immature in their relationship. May be in some cases people flirt on Facebook and they get into serious relationship but most of the people are there on facebook to have fun and flirting is common. A relationship should be strong enough to understand flirting and seriousness between partners. Facebook can not be driver for divorce? What do you say? Read more at: http://www.ndtv.com/article/world/facebook-blamed-for-increas
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@inedible (771)
• Singapore
25 Jan 11
People are just blaming Facebook because they don't want to accept that the people themselves might be the problem. Everything bad always get blamed on whatever is popular. TV, games, comics, and now Facebook. They get blamed for everything because nobody likes admitting that they're at fault for anything.
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@CarlHalling (3629)
• United Kingdom
24 Jan 11
I disagree. Face Book is a highly successful social network site, one of whose main purposes is for old friends to meet up after years or even decades of separation; as such it's miraculously wonderful. If unfortunate events happen through Face Book, Face Book can't be blamed; it's just life, and life is never perfect. Unfortunate events would occur irrespective of Face Book or anything else: they are often a consequence of human fallibility, not Face Book or anything else on the internet or elsewhere.
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• India
28 Jan 11
Yes, Facebook is a platform for all of us to be connected and share views and news, comments on photos and many more thinsg that we love to do. Divorce is a serious issue and facebook does not play any role in that, it may influance some cases but that too will not be just facebook, individual involved in flirting and other activities is responsible. Thank you for sharing.
@isloooboy (1741)
• United Arab Emirates
24 Jan 11
Well kids like me who are not mature in any sought of relationship if they got inspire in some kind of bad activities than you can say maybe its happening 50% but divorce? nah. Now a days everyone is confirming every little detail about the person whom they are going to marry. So its not like that but maybe some sought of problems can be rise because of Facebook if someone use continually and ignoring his daily duties. Otherwise divorce is an big thing.
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• India
27 Jan 11
I think if people take such a big decision based on Facebook comments/like/dislike, it would be good for the person. Thank You for sharing.
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
Hello. It used to be that mobile phones were blamed for the increase in divorce rates. Now it's facebook. I dunno why people pass the buck and don't own up to weaknesses. These externals could be the means but the cause is in the couple themselves. I agree with you that relationships should be strong enough to withstand any temptation. After all, temptations are there and how you respond to it defines you. Have a nice day ahead.
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@ally12 (1204)
• Philippines
18 Feb 11
very well said.
• India
26 Feb 11
Well said, these are just excuses and they just want a reason to break the relationship. Thank you for sharing.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
As far as my opinion is concern. We can't blame facebook in that particular problem of both the husband and wife. They should faithful each other to avoid something like that?
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• India
28 Jan 11
As you said, both should be faithful to each other instead of balming some networking site for issues in their relationship. Thank You for sharing.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
28 Jan 11
Yup! You right because if they are both sincere to each other. No cheating being happen into that relationship...both the husband and wife should know the consequences of being a member in a social networking site... One of these things that they should consider before joining a social networking sites is flirting and many other issues that make them change in the future... Maybe they are looking something attractive men or women. Or maybe they are seduce by some good sayings that will attract their attention...many things friend
@piya84 (2591)
• India
24 Jan 11
Thats highly immature to blame it on facebook lol.Its not facebook its we who cheat.Its we who have to control temptations when we are in relationships.
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@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
Yes and absolutely correct we are the one who can blame for any relationship breakdown not whoever we pointing. If you are trusting and love your family any temptation you can overcome it. see you around
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• India
28 Jan 11
True, we should be responsible to drive a relationship, if there is love and strong bonding, nothing else can distract. Thank You both of you for sharing.
@amitavroy (4826)
• India
18 Feb 11
i say that every thing has good and bad with it. yes facebook has a lot of good things and there are bad things about it too. but it is completly up to us to decide how we are going to use it. i mean you cannot just stop some one from flirting by stopping the site face book. if facebook it banned, a person has the option of going for some other website. there are so many of them. facebook is just popular. i guess a year back orkut was the craze. and before that yahoo chat rooms were the craze. so the thing is still there, just the mode is changing. so if some one is not loyal, then facebook should not be blamed for that. its the person who made the mistake, what can facebook do.
• India
26 Feb 11
Yes, there is good and bad in everything, its upto individual how he take it so Facebook has got some good points and at the same time there are some points which everyone should take care. One should not get too personal on any networking platform. Thank You for sharing.
@ally12 (1204)
• Philippines
18 Feb 11
Maybe facebook can be one of many ways of cheating and eventually relationship/marriage breakage but I dont think it has to be blamed. We people were born with brains and free will to decide which way we go. So whatever temptations may come our way its us who decides whether we jump or no. In every wrongs we do its us who are responsible and not the things around us.
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• India
26 Feb 11
I know people cheat but that does not mean to go for divorce and Facebook is just a platform and not to discuss everything that happens in life. So one should act with maturity and do not get into any trap. Thank You for sharing.
9 Feb 11
There could be basis in it since it's very easy to connect with someone on Facebook. Childhood sweet hearts normally finds each other on facebook and old feelings are easily rekindled. There could be couples who got divorce because of facebook but I don't agree that it's the main reason alone. There are so many things going on in real life that can attribute to the cause of divorce.
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• India
26 Feb 11
Yes, may be there were posts which can help to decide to go for divorce but do not drive the divorce. thank You for sharing.
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
The link you provided doesn't work anymore so wasn't able to read it. Anyway, I don't think facebook has something to do with the increase rate of divorce. I think it's really with the users on how they are using facebook. It's up to the married users who abuse it. And i think you are right, maybe they are just being too immature.
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• India
26 Feb 11
May be they have removed the link from website, IU cannot break my relationship just because someone was attracted to me and said some good words about me, I find that very immature act. Thank You for sharing.
• India
28 Jan 11
Dear AjaySinghBaghel, i agree with that. I think social networking sites are good as well as harmful. But what we do is most important. and we people always prefer learning negative things. So this all causes to increase the level of divorce cases. Thanks
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• India
28 Jan 11
As you said there is good and bad in everything its upto us to chose good/bad.It is easy to learn negative things in life, so people opt negative. Facebook is a great platform to share views and stay connected with friends, it does not promote divorce. Thank You for sharing.
@tash01 (2032)
• Jamaica
25 Jan 11
I don't agree facebook cannot and will not blamed for divorce are martial breakdown in a relationship. I am married and i have been on facebook for a long ever since i hear about it.My Husband is and facebook he have a lot of friends their I don't know if he flirt . and we still have a wonderful relationship with each other,No networking site cannot be blame for increasing in divorce are relationship breakdown.
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• India
28 Jan 11
Marriage is all about mutual confidence and respect and no networking site can break that if it is mattured enough. Thank You for sharing.
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
I guess it is not just about being a place for flirting why Facebook is being blamed for the rise of divorce. Facebook is blamed because Facebook status and comments are treated as written evidences in divorce cases. Facebook status are hard evidence because it is written and can be asked from Facebook. Some people, who want to divorce their wife or husband, uses Facebook as a way to make an evidence against them for a divorce. So my advice is to be really careful with what you post on Facebook because it might be used against you.
• India
28 Jan 11
If they want to split and use facebook as a tool, thats again immature act. We should be careful on any networking site and not only facebook. We should limit information sharing. It is good to be connected with friends and share good or bad but sharing unwanted and confidential is not good. There is a limit is every case so it should be there on facebook as well. Thank You for sharing.
@hlgmdt (301)
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
I think that attributing the increasing rate of divorce to Facebook is a very flimsy idea. Married couples end in divorce because of serious problems and issues such as incompatibility, marital infidelity, personality differences among others. Blaming Facebook is, I should say, immature. I don't think that Facebook is potent or addictive enough to cause marital problems leading to divorce.
• India
28 Jan 11
Filmy Idea . Blaming Fb is immature act and noone is going to buy that. Thank you for sharing.
@r4v3n_ (178)
• United States
25 Jan 11
How come a social networking site will be blame because of increasing number of divorce. What's the connection? Maybe it's just many people are already marrying at young age without thinking that they might just fight each other because they still don't know each others lifestyle or anything. They must think first before getting married.
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• India
28 Jan 11
Yes, marriage is not just 5 minute decision, you met someone today an ddecided to marry, there are immature marriages at young age which will be able to take serious things in life and can be affected by any networking sites. Thank You for sharing.
• India
25 Jan 11
hey dear AjaySinghBaghel, Thanks for that discussion firstly. I do agree with you. Facebook is even a very good social networking site. where we can share our ideas our new events and even images but this sometimes harmful for our future. Due to that the rates of Divorce may be effected badly. Thanks
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• India
28 Jan 11
It's up to you and me, how we use it. If we try to do unethical things which can harm a relationship, no one can save marriage. So it is not facebook but those sick minds seeking for better and better options .... Thank You for sharing.
@globaldoc (860)
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
You see? That is the problem with us humans. Facebook is just a tool. It is used for a purpose. The problem is, man tends to do something that will literally hurt other people, most usually those that we love and those who love us. It is only through Facebook or such tools that these illicit relationships get caught. Ending up, people blame facebook instead of themselves. People tend to blame something or somebody else, rather than putting the blame on themselves and seeing what is wrong and correcting it. This is why we people always end up with excuses, and we never learn. We result to divorce, separation, etc. Then, after blaming facebook, they still end up using it. Let us say that they do not use it. They end up blind, not knowing what is actually happening. They choose not to know rather than understanding and fixing things. Therefore, i do not think facebook is to be blamed. I think we ought to blame ourselves for our misdeeds.
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• India
28 Jan 11
Yes, it is not facebook but the one who blame it for divorce. There are many desprates looking for a girl/boy to get into a relationship even after being in a relationship. So what would be result for them? Thank You for sharing.
@SHAMRACK (8384)
• India
25 Jan 11
Dear friend, I hope it could attract more for those thirsty to get a someone for dating or something that sort. I feel divorce in India were I live is mainly due to the law here not face book. Those couples who enter into the family court with small problems comes out either with a divorce or separated. Moreover I feel facebook would be a relief giving for divorced people.
• India
28 Jan 11
Divorce is not a funny thing to happen, one should think many times before opting this option. There are many ways to work out before you end a relation and facebook should never be a reason for divorce. Thank you for sharing.
@jeyeem (55)
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
in the first place, facebook is supposed to be a social network, not a chick provider or something. if they say that facebook is the reason for the increasing number of divorced couples, they may want to think again. face book is NOT the reason why couplkes get a divorce, it's just because of the immature people who wants a little fun and uses face book to aid them in their fun. maybe, instead of posting that news that facebook causes divorce, why not be more be more productive and just make a news on how to strengthen relationships? well, that's my viewpoint.
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• India
28 Jan 11
Welcome to MyLot . I agree with your viewpoint which is practical, we should be doing productive things and not just like/dislike a comment. Thank You for sharing.
@DertyJ (193)
• United States
25 Jan 11
I don't think Facebook is to blame it is the person's choice whether or not to flirt and such. If the person does it in the real world and their partner doesn't see it already then it shouldn't even be in the question. I think flirting is natural and will happen just as much on Facebook as in actual life. I know my girlfriend does get a little jealous if she thinks im flirting with someone on Facebook though haha but it is nothing too serious.
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• India
28 Jan 11
We all are associated with Facebook for sharing comments with our friends but there are few who might be using this platform for something else and that relation might get in trouble. Thank You for sharing.