Mysef and me are having it out...

oh my gosh no you are not a bad person,its not like she was in ' mortal pain a nd needed to go to ER at once. If she wanted 'a ride somewhere she should have done that during normal hours not midnight when most are curling up in bed.wow. If she had asked during daylight hours I am sure she would have been helped but sometimes good people still ask too much at the wrong time. so do not beat yourself up as you are not a bad person at all.I probably would have done the same that is if I could drive.I am one of a handful of people I am sure that do not drive. lol lol.

No way you are a bad person! No matter what I have let someone borrow or what they have done for me...I would still never go to someone at midnight and ask for a ride. I would not go to anyone at midnight for anything. That's a little much. Where did she want to go that late?

Where in the world did she want to go at that ungodly hour? If not to ER no I wouldnt do it either!

Hell no. The timing was not convenient, and you had every right to tell her so.

at midnight? geesh, no way, you are a bad person. why would she want to go at midnight? where would you go then? Is she mental or something? only if she was in pain and needed to go to ER could i understand it. im sure you would have taken her then. but im like you, i often feel like a bad person if i dont do something for someone and im able even though im not feeling like it

Mention that you could take her to where she needs to go in the morning...but unless it is an emergency and she is sick or needs medication - No.

Even though she loaned you her computer, I would think it would take a lot of guts to ask someone to get up and go out in the cold, unless it was an emergency. I am sure if it was an emergency you would help her. However, an emergency involves fire, blood, a temperature or something like that. It does not involve being out of smokes or needing a pop or french fries. You did not say where she wanted to go, but I am sure you would have taken her someplace if it was an emergency.

No, my roommate in college did similar to me. She always gave me lemonade every time she drank some. 9PM on a Saturday night, she wanted to go out drinking and wanted me to go with her. 1. I go to bed at 9PM. 2. I hate bars. 3. Back then, people smoked in bars and I would be sick for at least 3 days if I went where anyone was smoking. Unless it was an emergency, like her daughter was in an accident and at a hospital, I would not move either. A reasonable request would be to take her shopping during daylight hours when you're going anyway. Another reasonable request would be to borrow something of yours. But once I'm in bed for the night, it had better be an emergency! I think all reasonable requests should be considered, too bad this one wasn't reasonable.