Mysef and me are having it out...

@celticeagle (111607)
Boise, Idaho
January 25, 2011 9:54pm CST
My neighbor was very nice to me to let me use her computer last week when mine went on the fritz. I feel bad because now she just left. She wanted me to go take her someplace and I said no. I am in bed watching an old movie and working on Mylot. It is nearly 9p. Why am going to get up, get dressed, and go out in the cold to take her someplace at MIDNIGHT?? I told her no. She doesn't ask me very much but I am just not going to go out at midnight to take her someplace. Do you think I am a bad person?
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@Hatley (152172)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Jan 11
oh my gosh no you are not a bad person,its not like she was in ' mortal pain a nd needed to go to ER at once. If she wanted 'a ride somewhere she should have done that during normal hours not midnight when most are curling up in bed.wow. If she had asked during daylight hours I am sure she would have been helped but sometimes good people still ask too much at the wrong time. so do not beat yourself up as you are not a bad person at all.I probably would have done the same that is if I could drive.I am one of a handful of people I am sure that do not drive. lol lol.
@celticeagle (111607)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Jan 11
Really! And when she asks me it is always weird hours. I am just in the depths of SAD and I don't want to go anywhere and I don't want to do anything. I want to be alone! Remember her?
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
26 Jan 11
No way you are a bad person! No matter what I have let someone borrow or what they have done for me...I would still never go to someone at midnight and ask for a ride. I would not go to anyone at midnight for anything. That's a little much. Where did she want to go that late?
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@celticeagle (111607)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Jan 11
She came to me at nearly 9P. and wanted to go at midnight. I was already in my jammies and watching an old movie on Netflix. I usually wait until the kids go to bed to start my serious writing so I can concentrate and no sudden noises and uproar. (Upt til then I am on here or over on Facebook or?) So for me to have to get up and get dressed at MIDNIGHT and go drive somewhere is sort of a hardship for me. I am in the depths of SAD and I don't want to go out and go anywhere. Especially not at that time. I feel I am a good person too and I would do something for her occasionally I am just not going to be her taxi all the time and I feel that way sometimes. Then I double think myself and start feeling bad. What if I was in her shoes....blah, blah, blah.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
27 Jan 11
Don't second guess yourself..I can't believe she would ask you to do that anyway. Asking someone to help you out is fine but she should have a common amount of respect when expecting you to comply.
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@celticeagle (111607)
• Boise, Idaho
29 Jan 11
It just made me feel bad.
@bunnybon7 (30990)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Jan 11
at midnight? geesh, no way, you are a bad person. why would she want to go at midnight? where would you go then? Is she mental or something? only if she was in pain and needed to go to ER could i understand it. im sure you would have taken her then. but im like you, i often feel like a bad person if i dont do something for someone and im able even though im not feeling like it
@celticeagle (111607)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Jan 11
I AM a bad person? I don't think so. I feel like a bad person during times like this too.
@bunnybon7 (30990)
• Holiday, Florida
27 Jan 11
OMG! i see i said that wrong. i meant NO WAY! you are not a bad person. sorry i say things wrong even though english is my language please forgive the misunderstanding. no. you are not a bad person. in fact ive thought you are one of the nicest here.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
26 Jan 11
Where in the world did she want to go at that ungodly hour? If not to ER no I wouldnt do it either!
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@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
28 Jan 11
I see but really if she knew she was out could have been during the day huh?
@Nadinest1 (2042)
• Canada
31 Jan 11
Mention that you could take her to where she needs to go in the morning...but unless it is an emergency and she is sick or needs medication - No.
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@celticeagle (111607)
• Boise, Idaho
31 Jan 11
That's pretty much what I said.
@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Jan 11
Hell no. The timing was not convenient, and you had every right to tell her so.
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@celticeagle (111607)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Jan 11
Thank you! Timing is everything.
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@aparajita (861)
• India
26 Jan 11
:) u are just being yourself and that's fine. Did u try asking her why she needed u?
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
26 Jan 11
No, my roommate in college did similar to me. She always gave me lemonade every time she drank some. 9PM on a Saturday night, she wanted to go out drinking and wanted me to go with her. 1. I go to bed at 9PM. 2. I hate bars. 3. Back then, people smoked in bars and I would be sick for at least 3 days if I went where anyone was smoking. Unless it was an emergency, like her daughter was in an accident and at a hospital, I would not move either. A reasonable request would be to take her shopping during daylight hours when you're going anyway. Another reasonable request would be to borrow something of yours. But once I'm in bed for the night, it had better be an emergency! I think all reasonable requests should be considered, too bad this one wasn't reasonable.
@celticeagle (111607)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Jan 11
The RiteAid here is open 24 hours.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
28 Jan 11
Not here it isn't. So in 24 hours, she picks 9pm? Strange.
@GardenGerty (87645)
• Marion, Kansas
26 Jan 11
Even though she loaned you her computer, I would think it would take a lot of guts to ask someone to get up and go out in the cold, unless it was an emergency. I am sure if it was an emergency you would help her. However, an emergency involves fire, blood, a temperature or something like that. It does not involve being out of smokes or needing a pop or french fries. You did not say where she wanted to go, but I am sure you would have taken her someplace if it was an emergency.